Is It Possible to Be Happy When You're Single?

by SodaHead Living Posted 2011/10/12 18:44:42

Related Topics: Single, Love, dating, Marriage, College, SodaHead, Author, Beyonce, Research, Steal, Entertainment, Pew

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Ah, Beyonce. Her song "Single Ladies" is supposed to be an empowering tune for single women, but really she's kind of bummed that he never "put a ring on it." So is it possible to be happy when you're single, or what?

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Author Kate Bolick wrote an article for Atlantic Monthly about her life as a 39-year-old single woman and why a growing number of women are putting off or passing on getting married altogether.

"Today marriage is an option, not a necessity the way that it once was, and that’s revolutionary," she said on the "Today" show. There are facts to back up her theory: The number of single adults rose to 50 percent in 2010, compared to 33 percent in 1950, according to census data. "According to the Pew Research Center, a full 44 percent of Millennials and 43 percent of Gen Xers think that marriage is becoming obsolete," Bolick writes.

Bolick says fewer people are marrying due to women’s relatively new financial freedom, an increase in college education, technological advances in how we conceive children and the acceptance of "hookup culture."

That said, most people we know are much happier when they're in love, whether they're married or not -- and hooking up rarely proves to be satisfying when the night is over. What do you think? Is it possible to be truly happy when you're single?

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Melizmatic 2011/10/12 21:04:03

Yes

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Certainly.

In fact most of the married people that I know seem to be the 'miserable' ones.

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Julia 2011/10/28 07:53:02

Yes

I'm happy. My friends are all happy. I hang around with girls who are too unattractive to get boyfriends, and we're happy being single.

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Glitchie 2011/10/18 09:28:47

Yes

Think about it this way: How can anyone love you if you don't love or at least like yourself first?

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Dheadly Lhust 2011/10/18 02:03:41

Yes

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Agree with Kate Bolick: "Today marriage is an option, not a necessity". Throw in the fact of this sexual liberation and the fact that men and women can have casual sex without being frowned upon (much) and we can indeed live very happy while single ;)

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Shirley 2011/10/16 23:08:26

Yes

WHy cant you be happy when youre single. I happy and Im single so suck it bbiotchezzz(;

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Jensola 2011/10/16 11:29:57

Yes

Of course it's possible - I'm not anymore, but it's very possible and I have been in the past!

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MirandaPhillips 2011/10/16 10:52:41

Yes

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Relationships are a lot of work, but it is nice to have someone. I've been married for three years now, and don't get me wrong, I love my husband but sometimes I think I was happier being single. Mainly because it's easier to be alone. lol

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Rowena Ravenclaw 2011/10/15 23:41:05

Yes

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I am single and very happy.

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EmrysRoberts 2011/10/15 16:21:41

Yes

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hell yeah,being single has its ups and downs just like being in a relationship...you've just got to focus on all the advantages.

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M@R!$E 2011/10/15 10:28:29 (edited)

Yes

yea, of coursee! u r free whenn ur single u don't have to be woriedd if ur boyfrnd is sadd if u talk to an another guy...it's just complicated!

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JohnnyRudick 2011/10/15 02:23:21

Yes

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Sometimes that is just the way you are.
Deal with it and . . .Well, there definitely is an up side for sure.
Find it for you.

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danielle kennedy 2011/10/15 01:23:04

Yes

Writing fiction, for me, kind of takes away the emptiness the real world causes. Just do anything but sulk because that's when things get sad

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TeamKauLiSchaf 2011/10/14 23:10:51

Yes

Though I say yes, I have no clue. I can't compare.

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Reggie☮ 2011/10/14 22:49:36

Yes

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absolutely

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raquel 2011/10/14 19:42:17

Yes

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tha is your time to have fun, to hang out with your friends and go out parting all night! its also when you can follow your dreams and go for it!

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F*ckTheSystem 2011/10/14 19:10:54

Yes

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Lol, sure !
I want to be single till death, this is my dream.
And I want to live in a house with my best friend... even I do not have one :))

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Ray Cyst 2011/10/14 16:43:15

Yes

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Single men seem to be happier than married men.

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DarkAngel 2011/10/14 16:00:47

Yes

+1
totally.
with you're friends and family...

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jere.chievres 2011/10/14 15:28:43

Yes

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It's been so long I have forgotten.

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mr kalada 2011/10/14 15:08:22

Yes

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its possible to be happy, but not VERY HAPPY.

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Sass 2011/10/14 14:12:21

Yes

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If I'm ever single again, I will stay that way.

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JayLynx 2011/10/14 12:50:48

Yes

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If you love yourself, if you have good friends, if you have things to do all day long, and if you can calm down your hormones. The best on that... it's save time to become a better human being. But a nice hubby is very good too!

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The Yogurt Cup 2011/10/14 12:20:18 (edited)

Yes

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im not married ( except to a cat, no joke!! i married him when i was 5!!! were still together but i think hes getting annoyed lol) and im PERFECTLY HAPPY! i live way out in the country with plenty of running space, im getting a horse, i have the most beautiful view of the sunset, a creek i can swim in, friends to live with, and an awesome crazy family i loooooove!!!!!!!!!!! who could want more?

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daniell... to The Yog... 2011/10/15 01:24:01

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Lucky girl :3

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The Yog... to daniell... 2011/10/15 18:58:14

its not hard to be happy, you just gotta find things to be happy about!! :)

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N00bKefka 2011/10/14 11:04:15

Yes

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Whatever makes that person happy...

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Charmedtears♥ 2011/10/14 10:46:16

Yes

+2
I seem to be.

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bond to Charmed... 2011/10/14 12:13:29

+1
is possible to be happy and very seccessfull if some times you single.to be alone is better than bad friends and ...

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dogs voice 2011/10/14 09:56:52

Yes

More hassles in a relationship situation. Pros and cons on either side of this issue. Flip a coin. Basically I find when you are in a relationship, you want out and vice versa. Seems no happy medium. I think lots has to do with pre-nups and certain expectations on both sides that are unrealistic. Hence, forget marriage and just shack up for however long you can stand each other. Reaching that point, move on. Trade off is there may not be anyone there after you call it quits. Then you have no choice but to stay single.

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rani 2011/10/14 09:33:11

Yes

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I think when we are single we will moor happy then you are someone and he don't care for you and you feel loneliness.

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Bear 2011/10/14 07:33:38

Yes

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Ask any divorced man.

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thegaln... to Bear 2011/10/15 07:22:31

or lady

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Adriana Gutierrez 2011/10/14 07:27:16

Not

HAVING AMAZING SEX WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE & FALLING ASLEEP IN THE SAME BED IS AWESOME. WHATS EVEN BETTER IS WAKING UP & THEM STILL BEING THEIR NXT TOO YOU. ONE NEEDS SOMEONE TO SHARE THEIR LAUGHTERS, THOUGHTS,AND FEELINGS. I COULDNT IMAGINE GOIN TO BED ALONE EVERY NIGHT & WAKIN UP ALONE EACH DAY. IM GLAD I HAVE SOMEONE WHO COMPLETES ME

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daniell... to Adriana... 2011/10/15 01:24:57

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That's really sweet, all except the sex part :/

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Jensola to Adriana... 2011/10/16 11:30:52

Well it's still possible to be happy when single!???

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Adriana... to Jensola 2011/11/01 20:12:34

It is. . I mean You live your life & meet different people. Sometimes its true, You dont always need a man to make you Happy. To me it goes both ways

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indiejen 2011/10/14 07:14:36

Yes

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The hard part is the effort of everyone around you trying to bring you down because they are so miserable in their marriages/relationships. It is also difficult to listen to people falsely identify you as gay/lesbian or "selfish" because you do not believe in bearing children outside of wedlock.

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Bilingual required sucks 2011/10/14 06:59:27

Yes

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The thing is when youre single for too long, life can get lonely. But then being with the same person for too long gets boring, and eventually you cant stand being around them. Its a no win situation.

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PilarHernandez 2011/10/14 06:58:57

Yes

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Yes, because you are FREE. You don't have to put up with some man's sh!t, you can go wherever you want, and you don't have to 'raise' a man-child.

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JohnnyR... to PilarHe... 2011/10/15 02:27:42

Thinkin' like that a person is definitely better off single.:-/

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Evie 2011/10/14 05:16:44

Yes

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Where's the "I don't know" option? It all depends on that person and their perspective. Some can, some can't. Period. And I bet a few that commented below and will probably comment above are just hypocrits*(sp?).

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