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Is It OK to Break Up With Someone on Their Birthday?

Living 2012/03/27 17:00:00
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When a relationship is over, it's over. But is it ever OK to break up with someone on their birthday? Rich Santos, a writer for How About We, did just that: "In a past relationship, I broke up with a girl on her birthday," he writes. "As the big day was approaching, and she was making a bigger and bigger deal out of it, I internally thought of ways I could avoid the whole thing -- while wearing a smile on the outside. I realized it was time to break up when a soccer game I was scheduled to play in was more compelling than my girlfriend’s birthday."



Well, if you're more excited about a soccer game than celebrating your girlfriend's birthday, it's probably time to break up. But Santos was torn: Should he show up and celebrate his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend's special day with her family? Or was it even crueler to go through motions?

"I thought hard about my quandary. It was inevitable that I was going to break up with her," he writes. "So, was it fair to go through with the birthday, faking my excitement and sending mixed signals? If I broke up with her a week after the birthday, she’d probably throw: 'you were just with my family at my birthday' in my face. But could I ever be horrible enough to break up with her a few days before or even (shudder) on her birthday?"

In the end, he broke up with his girlfriend ON her birthday ... and needless to say, he did not attend the family celebration. Do you think he did the right thing?

Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/breaking-up-...

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  • Fef 2012/03/27 16:49:41
    Yes
    Fef
    +11
    If you really don't want to by the person a gift, break up before the birthday

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  • Fred 2012/03/27 20:32:25
    No
    Fred
    I guess it depends on what happens
  • ♚Littlɘ Ǫuɘɘn~Phaet's Own 2012/03/27 20:29:41
    No
    ♚Littlɘ Ǫuɘɘn~Phaet's Own
    +1
    Have a little patience, for crying out loud.
  • Rebel [SHP] 2012/03/27 20:27:53
    No
    Rebel [SHP]
    +2
    anime cry gif

    That's just wrong on so many different levels. Grow up, wait a day or two.
  • Anthony... Rebel [... 2012/03/27 20:58:59
    Anthony Souls
    I just love to see big girls cry... Lol

    Sigh, what is more cruel is leading people on when you know you don't love them anymore.

    Take care,
  • aikidoka37 Rebel [... 2012/03/28 03:34:15
    aikidoka37
    Wow, that little girl looks so sad :'( why cruel world, whhhhhhhhyyy?!!!
  • LindaM 2012/03/27 20:21:59
    No
    LindaM
    +1
    That's cold.. Question....what are those things in the background on that picture? They look like bugs... It's not appetizing.
  • mm61675 LindaM 2012/03/27 20:56:19
    mm61675
    good question haha i don't know what they are.....
  • Ramah R... mm61675 2012/03/27 21:33:58
    Ramah Retamar
    They're different color heart's
  • Smokey 2012/03/27 20:21:25
    No
    Smokey
    +1
    I dumped someone on my birthday. I kind of felt bad because she bought me a present, and even gave me "special treatment" on that day. She had such a very bad personality, I just snapped and told her that it wouldn't work out between us. That was the wrong thing to do because even though she was a 5'1 / 105 lbs., I had to call police protection on her. She wanted to kick my butt really bad, and I was afraid of her. So, NEVER break up with a girl after she gives you oral pleasures and a gift. Not a good move!
  • 666_Maggots~I'm a female! 2012/03/27 20:14:51
    Yes
    666_Maggots~I'm a female!
    I would
  • Gb 666_Mag... 2012/03/27 20:40:53
    Gb
    I guess you have then
  • 666_Mag... Gb 2012/03/27 20:51:11
    666_Maggots~I'm a female!
    Yes
  • Maya Zauberman 2012/03/27 20:05:42
    No
    Maya Zauberman
    +1
    Come on, it's their special day. Don't ruin it for them.
  • Relay 2012/03/27 20:05:40
  • Abi 2012/03/27 19:49:20
    No
    Abi
    +1
    I think there b-day should be the best day of there life!!! The week after is fine
  • Brian S 2012/03/27 19:49:01 (edited)
    No
    Brian S
    +2
    What a funny question. Is it ironic that my ex did the exact thing to me last year. Wait, to be fair, she left me the day AFTER my bday. Said she was planning it for a while but never knew when to actually do so. So, the morning after my bday dinner, I let her sleep in and got up with our daughter since she took care of her while I was working. When she woke up, she hopped in the shower then sat on the couch and uttered the dreadful...'we need to talk' phrase....

    When feeling that you're about to break up with someone, do it while you think about it. Don't try and plan it out, get it over with so that both people can move on with their lives.
  • Margaret Jacobson 2012/03/27 19:48:45
    No
    Margaret Jacobson
    +1
    DO IT LATER!!!!!!!!! THIS IS THEIR DAY TO BE SPECIAL!!!!!!!! YOU SHOULD ALSO GIVE NICE GIFT ...........YOU HAVE 364 DAYS LEFT!!!!!!!
  • LILY 2012/03/27 19:47:21
    Yes
    LILY
    It could be the best PRESENT ever!!! But give them the gift you bought them. lol
  • Gb LILY 2012/03/27 20:41:19
    Gb
    WTF
  • No
    ϟ Emma ϟ_♥loves♥supernatural♥
    +2
    i think you can wait one more day!
  • prosperhappily 2012/03/27 19:31:58
    No
    prosperhappily
    +2
    Unless the person has done something intolerable to you, wait a few days.
  • Gb prosper... 2012/03/27 20:42:04
    Gb
    +1
    That's completely true
  • kent 2012/03/27 19:30:00
    Yes
    kent
    You never know...it might be the best present they get that day.
  • Mz Understood 2012/03/27 19:29:51
    No
    Mz Understood
    +1
    Unless the person is cruel and abusive to the point where you HAVE to get away from them, waiting one more day to break up isn't a big deal. No need to give them a crappy birthday.
  • RoseyRhod 2012/03/27 19:29:40
    No
    RoseyRhod
    +2
    Unless they did something absolutely heinous, then no. Be a real man/woman and get the bad stuff out of the way before their birthday celebration.
  • Gb RoseyRhod 2012/03/27 20:42:40
    Gb
    Friend me
  • Tennessee3501 2012/03/27 19:29:14
    No
    Tennessee3501
    +1
    One of my oldest friends had a girl send him a "Dear John" letter written on his 17th birthday card. Very crude!
    What is the harm in waiting for a few days?
    It is OK, however, for somebody to break up with you on his/her wedding day. Yours too for that matter!
  • Maryam 2012/03/27 19:22:19
    Yes
    Maryam
    Some people deserve it :P
  • alex 2012/03/27 19:19:34
    Yes
    alex
    Better than pretending everythings ok.
  • MOMMA THOMAS 2012/03/27 19:17:40
    No
    MOMMA THOMAS
    +1
    SOUNDS LIKE TWO PEOPLE UNWILLING TO COMPROMISE..... BOTH EGOS SEEM TO HAVE A SELFISH/GREED PROBLEM? ..BUT TO WAIT ON A BIRTH DAY FOR THE BREAKUP IS JUST PLAIN COLD.
  • Bibliophilic 2012/03/27 19:15:56
    Yes
    Bibliophilic
    +3
    Yes, if they did something unforgivable- but otherwise it is only insensitive.
  • Bryan 2012/03/27 19:13:58
    No
    Bryan
    +2
    Rationalize how you will. This is just bad form.
  • The•Dungeon•Master 2012/03/27 19:10:04
  • Dana 2012/03/27 19:04:41
    No
    Dana
    +1
    Seems a little mean
  • Fluttershyfan 2012/03/27 19:04:02
    No
    Fluttershyfan
    +2
    It's better to be dumped than to be called a whore on your birthday. Your 18th, I might add.
  • Maria 2012/03/27 19:00:37
    No
    Maria
    +2
    can it wait and to pass a day after birthday...
  • CielPhantomhive.BN-0 2012/03/27 18:58:48
    Yes
    CielPhantomhive.BN-0
    +1
    People are too sensitive.
  • cmdrbnd007 2012/03/27 18:55:06
    No
    cmdrbnd007
    +3
    Either do it the day before or wait a day. One day isn't going to kill you.
  • robbt1 2012/03/27 18:46:46
    No
    robbt1
    +2
    At least get through that day. There's no need to taint a day that supposed to be positive. Unless there's something drastic, like they're setting your stuff on fire in the parking lot, there's no reason to do that.
  • Just Another Girl (5) 2012/03/27 18:41:45
    No
    Just Another Girl (5)
    +5
    That is extremely mean. I'm sorry but you don't just wake up one day and decide I don't want to be with you anymore. As soon as you know it isn't working anymore, as soon as you know the relationship is ending and you need to say something at that time. Not wait and wait and then dump them on their birthday.

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