Is It OK to Break Up With Someone on Their Birthday?

Living 2012/03/27 17:00:00
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When a relationship is over, it's over. But is it ever OK to break up with someone on their birthday? Rich Santos, a writer for How About We, did just that: "In a past relationship, I broke up with a girl on her birthday," he writes. "As the big day was approaching, and she was making a bigger and bigger deal out of it, I internally thought of ways I could avoid the whole thing -- while wearing a smile on the outside. I realized it was time to break up when a soccer game I was scheduled to play in was more compelling than my girlfriend’s birthday."

Well, if you're more excited about a soccer game than celebrating your girlfriend's birthday, it's probably time to break up. But Santos was torn: Should he show up and celebrate his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend's special day with her family? Or was it even crueler to go through motions?

"I thought hard about my quandary. It was inevitable that I was going to break up with her," he writes. "So, was it fair to go through with the birthday, faking my excitement and sending mixed signals? If I broke up with her a week after the birthday, she’d probably throw: 'you were just with my family at my birthday' in my face. But could I ever be horrible enough to break up with her a few days before or even (shudder) on her birthday?"

In the end, he broke up with his girlfriend ON her birthday ... and needless to say, he did not attend the family celebration. Do you think he did the right thing?

Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/breaking-up-...

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  • Fef 2012/03/27 16:49:41
    If you really don't want to by the person a gift, break up before the birthday

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  • Latti Ice Nerd Gangsta of P... 2012/03/28 04:27:35
    Latti Ice Nerd Gangsta of PHAET
    Break up with the person a day before LOL!
  • XSummerX Tokio Hotel Freak(= 2012/03/28 04:08:01
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    That's messed up.
  • Stef and the City 2012/03/28 04:04:09
    Stef and the City
    At least wait until the next day.
  • Eterna98 2012/03/28 03:58:27
    If your going to do it then find a better time..You should never ruin someones birthday!
  • Couri 2012/03/28 03:55:19
    If you know you're going to break up with a girl days in advance, just do it and get it over with. I would much rather have a guy dump me before my birthday than on my birthday.
  • Djanet 2012/03/28 03:54:39
    well its a horrible thing to do bt they would break up sooner or later so i think it was for the best bt he could hav wait after a couple weeks after her birthday -_-
  • Neon Secrets 2012/03/28 03:49:10
    Neon Secrets
    No, I think it is a horrid thing to do, just wait a day. This happened to my brother and he treated like a queen. Well treated her really well at least and she ruined his birthday. We went out to the Keg and he sat with his head on the table the whole time.
  • starguide 2012/03/28 03:47:35
    thats a mean thing to do
  • Lorelei Lee 2012/03/28 03:41:13
    Lorelei Lee
    They will have that memory of the a**hole or bi*ch that ruin their birthday that year.
  • LegendK... Lorelei... 2013/12/21 10:52:56
  • Lorelei... LegendK... 2013/12/21 18:15:35
    Lorelei Lee
    No my username is Lorelei Lee the name of one of Marilyn Monroe's character's from one of her movies, ASS WIPE!!!
  • boatnectar 2012/03/28 03:34:46
  • strawberry 2012/03/28 03:13:07
    Just make sure you smash their birthday cake first.
  • addie 2012/03/28 03:00:09
    Depends on the reason and how long coming.
  • vinone 2012/03/28 02:58:01
    If you plan on breaking up with them break up with them. If their birthday happens to be the day that urge is finally pushed over the edge, break up with them. What's waiting one more day really going to do? If it's going to hurt them it's going to hurt them, might as well do it sooner rather than later. Just do it in person, please.
  • cate 2012/03/28 02:54:01
    That's cold. Very, very cold.
  • austin weber 2012/03/28 02:32:29 (edited)
    austin weber
    happy birthday honey!! hey you know when your mom say's you have a boyfirend for every breath you take to blow out candles. umm pretty much no matter how many times you blow, umm. you have none. (takes slice of cake and biggest present and runs off) BYE!!!
  • ileana.a.stan 2012/03/28 02:31:44
    Extremely disgusting.
  • Nintaku 2012/03/28 02:07:49
    Have sex with the person on his/her birthday and make sure it is crazy good, since you can break up with someone after the birthday. You also do not have to get the person a gift if you are breaking up with them the day after.
  • Lisa 2012/03/28 02:02:49
    That's like wishing your girlfriend a happy birthday then setting her cake on fire and punching her in the stomach...HARD horrible happy birthday
  • blackrings70 2012/03/28 02:01:51
  • andrew.pullman1 2012/03/28 01:46:18
  • fried.sushi.007 2012/03/28 01:40:07
    It really depends on why you're breaking up with them. If you're breaking up with them simply because you don't see your relationship moving forward, you should wait until after their birthday. However, if you're breaking up with them because they've mistreated you, then yes, I think it's absolutely okay.
  • strawberry fried.s... 2012/03/28 04:13:49 (edited)
    Why wait until after their birthday. If they treated you rotten, celebrate, send them off with a big birthday bang.! animated exploding birthday cake animated  pants on fire animated fire crackers animated bombs animated bombs animated   balloons animated have a nice day
  • runningintriangles 2012/03/28 01:34:16
    Sure, why not?
  • Wayne TH G 333 2012/03/28 01:25:34
    Wayne TH G 333
    A birthday doesn't just come from nowhere, you know in advance that it is going to happen, so why can't you break up a couple of days before? That way you wouldn't have to fake loving them so much on their birthday.
  • Unintended 2012/03/28 01:16:23
    ..but I would have broken up the day before ...
  • figuringoutfate 2012/03/28 00:49:43
    i broke up with someone on new years soo birthday is better by comparison
  • Get Bashed 2012/03/28 00:45:20
    Get Bashed
    ...but you had better have a justifiable reason for doing so!
  • YeahISaidIt 2012/03/28 00:27:55
    You might as well take a crap right on their cake. I think after it's almost as bad. But I think it should be done before. That way they can say, "I'm determined to have a blast without you," and though they'll think about it, more than likely they will still have a good time.
  • Rhi-ot. 2012/03/28 00:12:48
    Unless they cheated on you, and you found out. Breaking up with them on their birthday is some nice sweet revenge!
  • NoHandlebarsAttached 2012/03/28 00:12:23
  • dekecds 2012/03/28 00:09:53
    Doing it after their birthday is terrible, since you'd have to fake your way through it to prevent doing it on that day. But actually doing it on their birthday is just mean spirited. Do it before hand so that they can at least look at the Birthday celebration as a morale booster after crappy news!
  • Gordon 2012/03/28 00:07:46
    That sounds harsh to me. Why spoil somebody's special day?
  • The River Rat 2012/03/28 00:03:53
    The River Rat
    There are 364 other days in the year you can do that.
  • lady blue 2012/03/28 00:00:01
    lady blue
    Heaven's no ! I don't have the heart to hurt a man in any way, especially on his birthday !
    I would break up with him long before his birthday or I would celebrate it with him just for old times. That is just plain heartless & mean. I would never want a man to do that to me.
  • laydeelapis 2012/03/27 23:59:11
    If you're not in it 100% and the other person thinks you are, it's not fair to either you or that person to keep it going. Even if it is their birthday, they should be mature enough to understand that you did the right thing by not faking it. I'd be humiliated if I knew my guy stayed with me out of pity.
  • Heat Nation 2012/03/27 23:57:39
    Heat Nation
    Wait till the next day. Not even, about a few days after,
  • ATM 2012/03/27 23:56:30
    But you can write in their card...
  • Drachen 2012/03/27 23:52:37
    I think it is really insensitive.

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