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Is It OK to Break Up With Someone on Their Birthday?

Living 2012/03/27 17:00:00
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When a relationship is over, it's over. But is it ever OK to break up with someone on their birthday? Rich Santos, a writer for How About We, did just that: "In a past relationship, I broke up with a girl on her birthday," he writes. "As the big day was approaching, and she was making a bigger and bigger deal out of it, I internally thought of ways I could avoid the whole thing -- while wearing a smile on the outside. I realized it was time to break up when a soccer game I was scheduled to play in was more compelling than my girlfriend’s birthday."



Well, if you're more excited about a soccer game than celebrating your girlfriend's birthday, it's probably time to break up. But Santos was torn: Should he show up and celebrate his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend's special day with her family? Or was it even crueler to go through motions?

"I thought hard about my quandary. It was inevitable that I was going to break up with her," he writes. "So, was it fair to go through with the birthday, faking my excitement and sending mixed signals? If I broke up with her a week after the birthday, she’d probably throw: 'you were just with my family at my birthday' in my face. But could I ever be horrible enough to break up with her a few days before or even (shudder) on her birthday?"

In the end, he broke up with his girlfriend ON her birthday ... and needless to say, he did not attend the family celebration. Do you think he did the right thing?

Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/breaking-up-...

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  • Fef 2012/03/27 16:49:41
    Yes
    Fef
    +11
    If you really don't want to by the person a gift, break up before the birthday

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  • Jm 2012/03/28 10:00:22
    No
    Jm
    +1
    If you're such a 'jerK' then do It.
  • Boo! 2012/03/28 09:50:58
    No
    Boo!
  • Chassell2 2012/03/28 09:39:15
    Yes
    Chassell2
    Only if i can eat the cake first
  • Nomad58 2012/03/28 09:18:59
    No
    Nomad58
    +1
    That is just so wrong. However you can give them a present they don't like that much and set the stage for a couple of weeks later. (Sorry had the PsyOps function engaged)
  • No
    Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷTisdragonflyƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
    +1
    heck no nor a holiday that there are special days leave it alone , I got engaged on my birthday two years ago. It was the best birthday I had yet.
  • Boo! Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄... 2012/03/28 09:51:47
    Boo!
    Congats.
  • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄... Boo! 2012/03/28 13:38:13
    Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷTisdragonflyƸ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
    thanks
  • Boo! Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄... 2012/03/29 06:03:11
    Boo!
    Its okay
  • James Dal Santo 2012/03/28 08:46:43
    No
    James Dal Santo
    +1
    That is just pure meeean
  • Avril Lavigne 2012/03/28 08:21:43
    No
    Avril Lavigne
    It might ruin the day!!! :/
  • βlαckwh... Avril L... 2012/03/28 08:56:13
  • Niki Dmg 2012/03/28 08:00:19
    Yes
    Niki Dmg
    Yea , It happened sth like this 4 me!!
  • Nomad58 Niki Dmg 2012/03/28 09:20:17
    Nomad58
    Did you like it?
  • 2585661 2012/03/28 07:32:49
    No
    2585661
    Unless they just did the most horrible thing ever.
  • Athlte 2012/03/28 07:24:57
    No
    Athlte
    jerk... u waited that long... go at least another day
  • vitaminanime 2012/03/28 07:20:04
    No
    vitaminanime
    That sounds like a horrible gift! But I did once reject someone on Christmas Eve tho
  • Keith H... vitamin... 2012/03/28 15:06:11 (edited)
    Keith Herriott
    +1
    Wife left me on mine. Came home from work, flat stripped bare, carpets curtains kettle, everything gone and bank account emptied and as I opened the door the phone was ringing. It was her telling me that she'd left me!
  • vitamin... Keith H... 2012/04/07 21:03:49
    vitaminanime
    sounds horribel! I feel sorry for you!
  • MR. 2012/03/28 06:56:28 (edited)
    No
    MR.
    ...and let em' eat cake too? ("Don't Be Cruel"-1956') *Elvis Presley: "Thank you very much!"
  • wqerwqerwe 2012/03/28 06:31:51
    No
    wqerwqerwe
    +1
    Go and break up the next day. wtf don't ruin the day
  • J.MaisOui 2012/03/28 06:21:57
    No
    J.MaisOui
    +2
    That's just cruel-you jerk.
  • mizzSHADYgirl 2012/03/28 06:19:36
    No
    mizzSHADYgirl
    +1
    Uhh...thats kind of mean. you could just wait a day or two if u must do it
  • peter 2012/03/28 06:18:24
    No
    peter
    +1
    no but i would probably give her nothing or a broken give for her B-DAY
  • wolfcall 2012/03/28 06:16:12
    No
    wolfcall
    +3
    that would really be mean i say wait a while
  • Metalthatroxursox 2012/03/28 06:07:37
  • peter Metalth... 2012/03/28 06:13:58
    peter
    +1
    lol good thinking!
  • wolfcall peter 2012/03/28 06:17:37
    wolfcall
    +1
    i agree
  • Nomad58 Metalth... 2012/03/28 09:28:33
    Nomad58
    +1
    Wouldn't be a good idea with me ~ I usually get some kind of weapon on my Birthday.

    Bowhunter
  • Metalth... Nomad58 2012/03/28 21:45:27
    Metalthatroxursox
    HAHAHA! Damn look at that bow!
  • David Hussey 2012/03/28 05:51:36
    No
    David Hussey
    +1
    That would seem an unusually heartless thing to , I expect anyone who would do such a thing to be a rather cruel and vindictive person
  • Jimmy Lucky 2012/03/28 05:20:19
    No
    Jimmy Lucky
    +2
    it's very rude and very heart-breaking...especially when the person is having a very event and want to share it with you
  • Inquisitve Kat 2012/03/28 05:09:47
    No
    Inquisitve Kat
    +1
    At least be decent enough to wait until afterwards, even if just the next day. They meant something to you at one point. Honour that.
  • Wizard 2012/03/28 04:57:38 (edited)
    No
    Wizard
    It depends on how imperitive It is they need to know promptly. But it shows complete non compassion to dump somebody while they are celebrating. Make an excuse, then dump them the next day.

    My first wife presented me with a divorce for a Christmas present...so I kind of know how it feels. Friends said anybody that would do that is unstable...so I packed and left.
  • Gassenjunge 2012/03/28 04:46:04
    No
    Gassenjunge
    +1
    I'd consider that poor form
  • Moonbeams 2012/03/28 04:43:45
    No
    Moonbeams
    +1
    Maybe this could have ended up being the best gift she's received for her birthday -- His ass out.
  • Gassenj... Moonbeams 2012/03/28 04:48:02
    Gassenjunge
    +1
    lol...you're by far the best entertainment on SH ;D
  • Moonbeams Gassenj... 2012/03/28 04:52:43
    Moonbeams
    +1
    Really? I eat a lot of *cheese. I feel it shows in my humor.

    Lol
  • Gassenj... Moonbeams 2012/03/28 05:07:23
  • Marcus Clark 2012/03/28 04:43:24
    Yes
    Marcus Clark
    +2
    Maybe they are thinking of the same thing and this will be the best birthday gift he/she could hope for.
  • Andrew 2012/03/28 04:32:30
    No
    Andrew
    Just wait a day, goddamn. It's the one day of the year that can be special for someone. No need to ruin it.

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