Is It OK to Break Up With Someone on Their Birthday?
SodaHead Living
2012/03/27 17:00:00
|
|
|||||
|
185 votes
|
|
24% | |||
|
599 votes
|
|
76% | |||
When a relationship is over, it's over. But is it ever OK to break up with someone on their birthday? Rich Santos, a writer for How About We, did just that: "In a past relationship, I broke up with a girl on her birthday," he writes. "As the big day was approaching, and she was making a bigger and bigger deal out of it, I internally thought of ways I could avoid the whole thing -- while wearing a smile on the outside. I realized it was time to break up when a soccer game I was scheduled to play in was more compelling than my girlfriend’s birthday."
Well, if you're more excited about a soccer game than celebrating your girlfriend's birthday, it's probably time to break up. But Santos was torn: Should he show up and celebrate his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend's special day with her family? Or was it even crueler to go through motions?
"I thought hard about my quandary. It was inevitable that I was going to break up with her," he writes. "So, was it fair to go through with the birthday, faking my excitement and sending mixed signals? If I broke up with her a week after the birthday, she’d probably throw: 'you were just with my family at my birthday' in my face. But could I ever be horrible enough to break up with her a few days before or even (shudder) on her birthday?"
In the end, he broke up with his girlfriend ON her birthday ... and needless to say, he did not attend the family celebration. Do you think he did the right thing?
In the end, he broke up with his girlfriend ON her birthday ... and needless to say, he did not attend the family celebration. Do you think he did the right thing?
Read More: http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/breaking-up-...
Top Opinion
-
Fef 2012/03/27 16:49:41Yes
So looking back I'd say I had every right to be all about myself in that situation.
Just do it beforehand and save her the heartbreak. Yeah, it'll still make her upset, but on her birthday?!? You have to be joking.
Happy birthday to you.
You belong in the zoo.
You look like a monkey
And smell like one too!
if you wanna break up, you have so many other chances.
there is NO WAY you suddenly thought of breaking up on their BIRTHDAY! you either were thinking about it before, or it could come to you later!
A crucial part of breakups which people often forget is the golden rule -- treat others like you would like yourself to be treated.
Just because the romance didn't work out isn't an excuse to be cruel.
I'm glad I'm still friends with all my ex-girlfriends (other than those I lost touch with -- that is to say, I'm not enemies with any of them -- we always parted in a friendly way.)