Is It OK to Break Up With Someone on Their Birthday?

I'm voting yes because I have to give an answer, but I'm undecided.



Can someone give a more constructive answer? Obviously, he would leave her without hurting her if he knew how, but they may not be possible. If you do it on the day, is there any way to make any easier for the other person? If you wait around, do you continue to be intimate with them or do you lie and say, "Oh no, everything's fine. I just don't want to have sex right now." What if she guesses something is wrong because sex has never been the problem and something would have to be wrong if you're not having it? Do you continue having sex with that voice in your head telling you that you're a liar? Won't you give yourself away? If so, she could be furious by the time you end it because she thinks you're a filthy liar who just wanted a little more sex before leaving. (I have faced that particular accusation and couldn't think of an answer at the time. I think I was just trying to convince myself to stay. I was trying to work out whether or not I should stay and try harder or give up.)



Any thoughts?

what an ass******

Why would ruin their birthday forever everytime their birthday comes they are going to think that the day the jerk broke up with me.Break up with the months before their birthday.

It Depends.

Break up before their special day! It'll just be less awkward than lying bout being all happy and whatever

In the perfect situation it is best to break up with them before their bday. if u r not feelin it anymore with that person but haven't broke it off yet, the upcoming bday makes it all the more easier to end it. You save yourself the pressure of buying a gift, some extra cash for yourself, the false perception that things r ok to the other one, and the pressure on yourself to keep stringy them along till u r sure. Bdays r the icebreakers!

National Breakup Day is June 2nd...the sad thing is, that's my birthday :(

Birthdays and Christmas.. BAD!

Not cool, show a little class...

well its not like there going to hate you anymore then they do and ive done it many times.

totally

That's mean

I'd say a birthday breakup is to be avoided if possible but if you've realised that you don't want to be with that person anymore, you can't put it off. Seems to me that it would be crueler to pretend for a few days until after the event than to just get it over with a few days before or even the day of. Just break up when you realise your feelings, either way your partner's gonna be annoyed so don't prolong the inevitable

Unless the person is a real jerk, I say no. Why ruin their day when there are 364 other days to do it.

I don't think it's ok, however, don't come up with a justification for EVERY damn special day either and delay the inevitable. (Ex: well it's ALMOST her birthday, it's ALMOST Christmas... it's ALMOST Valentines day... etc) It will only make it more painful for all parties in the end.

Also, I broke up with one of my ex's the day before his birthday once. However, we were on the outs for a long, long time, and it just happened to be the day that everything crumbled. But, to this day I still feel guilty about it...

Well, it depends. If they cheat on you? YES. "Break their heart" whenever you want. In general, I wouldn't suggest it. It will come back to bite you in the butt.

Yeah, we're talking to you, Tony Romo! Real nice birthday present you gave Jessica Simpson-NOT. There are 364 other days you can choose to break off with someone, people! Have a heart, if you're going to break one.

it's actual PATHETIC so don't do it ever and also never dump them over text/facebook/msn/any other social networking site

Of course it's not wtf

I did!!!! sometimes revenge is soooo sweet!!!!

That is very inconsiderate and cold!

That's a dick move. Really. Be nice and do it before the birthday.

Why let the person down on their Birthday? Be nice and respect the person enough to break up with them later.

Sure, if you are the ANTI-CHRIST !!!!!!!!

Nope! I say wait at least another day OR do it the week before.

Learn to not be a sick. It's their special day. While I'm not one that agrees everything has to be perfect on a birthday, and hate people who act like everybody should bend over backwards for them on a birthday. I still think it shows an insane amount of selfishness to do that to somebody. At least wait until a day or so after. You can handle that much. If you can't, then you have no purpose in a relationship in the first place.

sure go ahead but expect karma to do a smackdown on you very soon

Santos your a very Cruel & cold hearted man....
What goes around comes around

That's not ok. That would make you a Dick.

Never. it's just something that you don't do. Atleast wait a little while and give the situation a chance.

The tv sitcom "How I Met Your Mother" already covered this in great detail.
When in doubt, ask yourself: "WWNPHD?"

if you break up with a person on or within a week after their birthday they will always remember it which means that it'll take them longer to get over you..... my parents split up 5 days after my bday and that was three years ago.. it's just not good

thoughtless...eitherr way before or wait would be courteous

It's not ok, unless you are purposely going for being a pri**. If you're gonna break up, then do it with dignity and class. Unless you don't have any.

no never do that! that is one of the worst thing you can ever do to someone is break up with him/her on him/her b-day. if you going to break up with someone at lease wait 3 days after her b-day or before. really, people. can we try to be nice to people an their birthday or any other day.

Who cares what DAY it is?

Its one day, just shut up and deal with it dump her the day after