Is it Ok for a parent to spank their high school kid in front of the whole class?

by Assassin~ Badass Buzz Guru Posted 2011/12/15 17:25:24

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	Yes, parents should be allowed to discipline their child as they see fit. Even in front of the class.	32 votes	28%
	No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.	83 votes	72%

Cudahy district will no longer allow parents to meet with students anywhere but in office

Cudahy - A father concerned about his daughter's behavior at Cudahy High School called her out of her seat in biology class and spanked her in front of shocked classmates and an assistant principal, officials confirmed Monday.

Both Cudahy police and the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare have reviewed the case at the school district's request, and neither found basis for child abuse or neglect.

"Obviously it's unusual to have a girl spanked in front of the class, it's highly unusual, but not a police matter, not at this time from the information we received," said Cudahy police Sgt. Randy Scheel.

The district, however, has changed its visitation procedure for parents. Now they can meet with students only in the office, not a classroom, according to James P. Heiden, director of student services.

"The students were horrified," Heiden said, and some were angry that administrators couldn't intervene quickly enough to stop it. "It took everybody by complete surprise."

Heiden said he did not want to second-guess child welfare authorities' decision not to pursue the matter. "I understand, in the realm of all the cases they need to deal with, but it's frustrating.

Contacted at home Monday night, the girl's mother said police found nothing to investigate, calling it an isolated incident. She said her daughter "comes from a very loving family. There's nothing to be concerned about." She added that the incident had been blown out of proportion and "the school handled it just fine."

She described the spanking as a "misjudgment" for which the family apologized to the school.

Police said they had no record of prior contact with anyone in the family.

According to school officials, the girl had disrupted her biology class Feb. 11, leading first-year assistant principal Greg DePue to notify her father when he was at school the next day addressing a situation with another child.

DePue said the father responded: " 'You know what? There won't be a problem in today's class because I'm going to be in there.' "

Later that day, DePue took the parents to their daughter's class. The teacher stepped out to speak with them, while DePue watched the class. After a minute and a half, DePue said, the father entered the classroom, called his daughter to the front and told her he would not have her disrupting class.

He then told the girl to turn around, and spanked her on her bottom.

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holly go lightly 2011/12/15 17:39:35

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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It is never OK for a parent to deliberately humiliate their child.Kids are quite able to do that on their own.
It might have been OK for the parent to have taken the kid out of class.But the spanking business,NO way.
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beach bum 2012/06/13 13:47:00

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

nah

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stephenie 2012/02/18 01:43:00

Yes, parents should be allowed to discipline their child as they see fit. Eve...

My father bared my bottom once and spanked me in the hallway of the classroom, then went to display my bare bottom in the classroom corner. When I protested, he spanked my bare bottom in front of the class.

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HORNHEAD 2012/01/24 02:59:13

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

I might have been arrested if my parents ever tried to spank me in front of my high school classmates.

They never did that but I do not know what I might do if they ever had.

That poor girl. She was probably mortified.

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Sayer Stewart 2012/01/20 19:10:19

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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Disrupting the class by spanking her in front of everyone does not fix anything. It just adds another disruption.

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Jason Krajniak 2012/01/13 02:13:42

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

No

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jgh57 2011/12/30 20:20:43

Yes, parents should be allowed to discipline their child as they see fit. Eve...

I think if a child is being disruptive in class it is fine to spank them in front of the class they are disrupting. I've never known of a parent coming into a class to spank a child but when I was a child it was common for the teacher to spank a child in the classroom.

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Willie 2011/12/27 07:02:27

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

It is never okay to hit a child. What kind of moron not only thinks it's okay, but thinks it's a good thing to do in public? If a parent tried that in my classroom, I'd physically stop it, and I'd call in CPS.

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VioletYoshi 2011/12/22 02:47:39 (edited)

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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Only if the parent will be reported to CPS later.

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Nitzan Havoc 2011/12/19 05:52:07 (edited)

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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Sure, why not strip them naked while they're at it and give each kid 60 seconds to make fun of them on tape? It's not like we have enough serial killers in the world...

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Bess 2011/12/17 00:06:51

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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You would think that the parents could use other ways.

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Bocephus 2011/12/16 21:40:01

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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I use to think spanking was okay but I was wrong. For some one like me I should never spank. It's to hard to gauge if I am disciplining or just being angry. It's not productive and you only get more frustrated when the method doesn't work. Now we found other ways. (e.i time outs, corner ,grounding. )

Parents, do not anger your children, lest they lose heart.Colossians 3:21 >>

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Becca 2011/12/16 21:12:56 (edited)

Yes, parents should be allowed to discipline their child as they see fit. Eve...

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This is more of a in-between situation for me. I can't say no and I can't say yes. No a high schooler shouldn't need to be spanked, that's ridiculous. On the other hand if it gets it through his/her head that their behavior is unacceptable, then it's none of our business. However, my friends-and just about everybody I know who's my age and younger-we got spanked as punishment as kids, we turned out just fine!

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VioletY... to Becca 2011/12/22 02:51:06

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Ah a "I know someone who was spanked, and they're fine." defender. Your friend is in denial, as are the other pro-spankers using their experienced of being spanked as a positive, because that's easier than admitting their parents abused them.

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Becca to VioletY... 2011/12/25 03:27:12 (edited)

We are not "pro-spankers" as you say. And a swift spank every now and then is not terrible. It does not classify as a knock-down-drag out beating...which IS abuse. We weren't slapped or beat, it was, like I say a swift smack that didn't leave a mark. The only thing it hurt for a little whole was our pride.

Principals in schools even kept a paddle in their office. They never used it, but boy it intimidated us and kept us from getting in trouble. You must have been one of those "sheltered" kids living in a bubble-protected world of you think spanking is downright abuse.

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VioletY... to Becca 2011/12/26 00:07:31

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I was raised by parents who used their words, not their hands to teach me morals. You are pro-spankers as long as you defend spanking the way you just have done. Keep lying to yourself, if it makes it easier to cope with the jealousy you have,for children who were raised without caveman parenting.

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Piperpc 2011/12/16 19:35:25

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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No, I do not believe that "disrupting a class" warrants that kind of humiliation. I find it sickening, that this father has so little regard for his daughter's feelings about herself.

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VioletY... to Piperpc 2011/12/22 02:51:37

He should be checked in case he's sexually abusing his daughter as well.

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JCD aka "biz" 2011/12/16 17:56:36

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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The father is sick. And how old is the girl? Not that it would be more acceptable if she were a young kid.

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lucky 2011/12/16 14:07:15

Yes, parents should be allowed to discipline their child as they see fit. Eve...

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The girl was already disrupting the whole class with her actions or the father wouldnt have been notified in the first place, if his actions prevent her from disrupting it again... then why not. As for humiliation, so what? She was humiliating her parents with her bad behavior. I personally dont think spanking a near adult child does any good but the humiliation aspect of it made a point the girl will not soon forget.

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JCD aka... to lucky 2011/12/16 17:43:43

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Don't ever humiliate your daughter, she "will not soon forget", especially when you're old and sick, and you need her help.

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lucky to JCD aka... 2011/12/17 15:45:13

Wrong, Both of my daughters are already grown and I have used humiliation when they were teens a few times to get my point through to them. Im extremely close to both of them and I have already been sick, they both volunteered to come over and clean my house, cook dinner and make sure I had everything i needed both are very protective of me as I am of them. Humiliation used on a teen ( only teens) can get through to a kid sometimes when nothing else can, but that humiliation has to be used sparingly, be, tempered with love and used without malice or anger.

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JCD aka... to lucky 2011/12/17 15:52:29

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I suppose it depends on the teens, end on the humiliation.

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lucky to JCD aka... 2011/12/19 14:53:14

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It very much depends on the teen and their personality, my girls were arrogant, smug and more often then not thought they were smarter then their teachers and other adults, it did them good to be humbled by a little humiliation tempered with love.

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VioletY... to lucky 2011/12/22 02:53:50

Cause nothing teaches a teen their feelngs come second like a little humiliation! What if they needed to tell you something important, but didn't because they knew you'd humilate them like a schoolyard bully?

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lucky to VioletY... 2011/12/22 05:04:52

Are they considering the feelings of others when they disrupt the class??? A teen wants respect, they want to be heard then act like somebody instead of some immature brat.

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VioletY... to lucky 2011/12/23 04:15:06

That probably means that the student isn't being heard at home and wants to be heard at school. Their parents are too busy barking orders at their child, and threatening them with physical retaliation for them to get a word in.

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lucky to VioletY... 2011/12/23 05:01:09

Most teens have more sense then that, they know acting out isnt going to get them heard, they are almost adults, its past time to stop acting like preschoolers throwing a temper tantrum because they are not getting enough attention.

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VioletY... to lucky 2011/12/23 06:03:57

Yup, they can be like the many other adults in this world. The ones who tantrum, because they were arrested developmentally by poor parenting like spanking. Have you seen a pro spanking advocate? Just mentioning that spanking is wrong, sends them into a on the floor, kicking and screaming fit. This is because instead of their parents teaching them how to manage their emotions properly, they were taught you deal with them by having a tantrum like a 2 year old.

This is why spanking is continually an issue, you tell someone who feels spanking is right that it isn't, they'll tantrum to the mayor, tantrum to the president, tantrum so that nobody can tell them no.

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lucky to VioletY... 2011/12/23 13:17:22

Adults throwing temper tantrums have consequences that last a lot longer then hurt pride from a spanking. They can lose their job, they can go to jail, they can get sued, etc.

Teens want to act like adults then they should get treated like one. So from now when little miss priss is acting out in class we'll let the school suspend her so her education gets screwed up which will cause her hardship as an adult, in some states incorrigible teens can be arrested and put on probation so thats the next step, so months of probation and now she has a criminal record to follow her around and she has no education. yep that really solved a lot and was better for the kid then what the father did.

You seem to be basing your views on your own experience, thats fine but all kids are not what I would call sensitive kids, some kids are tough as nails and it takes tough as nails parenting to make sure they dont do something that messes the rest of their lives up.

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VioletY... to lucky 2011/12/24 01:14:37

I agree, I watched an episode of Beyond Scared Straight, and those kids do need the reality check.

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Sandy 2011/12/16 07:13:33

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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Sounds stupid.

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NatesDixieWrecked 2011/12/16 06:23:30

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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I feel like you cant do this with kids these days because they are becoming sexualy active at an early age and find it to be kinky

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JCD aka... to NatesDi... 2011/12/16 17:45:07

You mean the other kids who watch her being spanked? Possibly.

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VioletY... to JCD aka... 2011/12/22 02:54:32

It's more likely than you think.

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JCD aka... to VioletY... 2011/12/22 22:16:12

Well, that's bad, and one more reason why students should not be spanked.

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VioletY... to JCD aka... 2011/12/23 04:17:01

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Yup, sometimes the parents get off on it too, like a father spankimg his teenage daughter. Pro-spanking advocates won't admit it, because they would have to face that spanking and the way they were raised with it, was wrong.

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mg's haven~POTL~PWCM~JLA 2011/12/16 05:33:58

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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Once the kikd hits high school thats not gonna change anything ---embarrassing them another way once or twice works just fine. There is no reason to put hand to their skin.

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Jbug799 2011/12/16 03:38:01

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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No its not child abuse but come on...a bit much..That would be more than humiliating.. I feel for the child..but parents should take care of that business at home!!

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VioletY... to Jbug799 2011/12/22 02:55:13

A parent taking advantage of their child's dependance on them is child abuse.

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Diana 2011/12/16 03:07:07

No. It is disruptive to the class and overly humiliating for the student.

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I think it is terrible.I would be so ashamed of my father.I'm sure the students won't let her live it down.Never mind the father apologizing to the school.His daughter should get one
from her dumb father.

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