is it ok for a guy to hit a girl, if she hits him first?

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Is it ok for a guy to hit a girl, if she hits him first?

by THEZEBRA Posted May 17, 2009 16:07:32

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+8 Nairb May 17, 2009 17:54:36

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Context is everything.
I have been hit by my Mother, my Wife and a Daughter. In none of those instances was a return blow required. As defense of life or safety of others are the requirements for me.
I did elbow a girl in grade school. She wanted to join in 'clobber the guy with the ball' (Known by a previous name now not PC) and she was biting my arm at the time. I got three wacks after lunch.
Another time, Mother decided I needed a slap, (for something, I didn't think so) after the first one I began blocking them, (wax on wax off style) she just kept at it until she was tired. I should have let he slap me a couple more times as I heard about how I hurt her hands for 6 months.
My Wife once struck me on the shoulder and ripped my shirt. While it was a favorite shirt, I just held her by the shoulders until the argument returned to a more reasonable level. Tho the volume was still high.
My Daughter was in her teens and being belligerent, I had just grounded her for two days, increased to a week in response to her next comment. She then proceeded to pound on my chest with both fists. I leaned into it and laughed softly. When she stopped I asked if she was shooting for a month? She walked away and didn't speak to me for 4 days.
So peaceful it was. I read on her my space later that ...

Context is everything.
I have been hit by my Mother, my Wife and a Daughter. In none of those instances was a return blow required. As defense of life or safety of others are the requirements for me.
I did elbow a girl in grade school. She wanted to join in 'clobber the guy with the ball' (Known by a previous name now not PC) and she was biting my arm at the time. I got three wacks after lunch.
Another time, Mother decided I needed a slap, (for something, I didn't think so) after the first one I began blocking them, (wax on wax off style) she just kept at it until she was tired. I should have let he slap me a couple more times as I heard about how I hurt her hands for 6 months.
My Wife once struck me on the shoulder and ripped my shirt. While it was a favorite shirt, I just held her by the shoulders until the argument returned to a more reasonable level. Tho the volume was still high.
My Daughter was in her teens and being belligerent, I had just grounded her for two days, increased to a week in response to her next comment. She then proceeded to pound on my chest with both fists. I leaned into it and laughed softly. When she stopped I asked if she was shooting for a month? She walked away and didn't speak to me for 4 days.
So peaceful it was. I read on her my space later that she was glad I grounded her.
I am not special, its rule to live by.
My father taught us that you do not hit women unless your life is in danger. You just do not do it. Simple rules
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hows my aim? May 17, 2009 18:57:25

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i would say "no" and explain why on the spot.
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bebygyrl May 17, 2009 18:55:03

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I know that hitting is never the way to go but if a woman can't control herself I think a man should be allowed to slap her out of it. Especially if he's been struggling to keep her from hitting him. I mean to think there's only yes or no answer isn't realistic. If you just watch Snapped, I forget which channel, we should really take into account that there are men out there that really don't do anything to their wives and end up murdered. So if you don't want to get hit you shouldn't hit either. I don't care how angry you get. I will say though that I give more respect to those men that don't raise a hand to a woman, however, I have thought many a times that if only the husband put his foot down to his wife she wouldn't be such an idiot. And vice-versa.
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Tsisquaya to bebygyrl May 17, 2009 19:24:44

Wonderfully said bebygyrl!
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The Dinker May 17, 2009 18:54:00

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bebygyrl to The Dinker May 17, 2009 18:56:07

I'm sorry for your past experiences but I commend you on your attitude.
bebygyrl to bebygyrl July 20, 2009 20:12:02

What does moderated mean? Anyone?
Hilary May 17, 2009 18:47:44

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No. The girl possibly hit him for a very good reason.
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The Dinker to Hilary May 17, 2009 22:05:04

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Tsisquaya to The Dinker May 17, 2009 23:46:19

Good for you!!!! I sincerely mean that! People don't need to be treated like that, no matter if they are drunk, stressed, or whatever.
May your path be blessed!
barry sucks May 17, 2009 18:47:44

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joe jonas lover May 17, 2009 18:44:35

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No one should hit eachouther at all and if so the guy should be a man and not hit her
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ken May 17, 2009 18:42:50

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Personally I think men who hit women are big faggots and pussies.
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The Dinker to ken May 17, 2009 22:06:24

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ken to The Dinker May 21, 2009 00:13:12

You think I am ignorant due to the fact that I do not think men should pound on women???????? Are you fucking goofy??
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☮♥Nicole~M♥☮ May 17, 2009 18:34:11

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NO! A man must NEVER lay his hands on a woman! NO excuses! If she hits him he needs to walk away and dump her!
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♫Teardrops On My Guitar♫~♥i... May 17, 2009 18:32:14

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no way!It's against the law to hit a girl.It's definately not ok
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bebygyrl to ♫Teardr... May 17, 2009 18:57:04

It's against the law for a woman to hit a man too.
♫Teardr... to bebygyrl May 17, 2009 19:20:56

no it isn't
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Tsisquaya to ♫Teardr... May 17, 2009 19:26:02

Yes it is...domestic abuse goes both ways. Either sex can be charged and serve time for it.
There is also the assault charges...no preference there on what sex is the accused.
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The Dinker to Tsisquaya May 17, 2009 22:09:15

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Tsisquaya to The Dinker May 17, 2009 23:44:54

And even when it's for self defense, you still may not be allowed to walk. I served time for defending myself before.
The system is sometimes screwy, isn't it?
bebygyrl to ♫Teardr... July 11, 2009 18:37:26

Yes it is. If you don't believe me try it and then tell a police officer you did it. I dare you.
♫Teardr... to bebygyrl July 12, 2009 00:17:56

w/e m/l,bet ur too dumb to know that
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Kelly May 17, 2009 18:18:45

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no one should be hitting anyone in the first place! =]
The Dinker to Kelly May 17, 2009 22:09:51

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Kelly to The Dinker May 18, 2009 21:17:57

YES!!! lol =]
Green is a color May 17, 2009 18:18:24

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yes....especially if shes one of those * hmmm im not sure if its a girl... it might be a guy.. i donno??* kind of girls =D
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Ace~Mr.Giantess~ May 17, 2009 18:17:27

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It's okay for anyone to hit anyone if it's necessary for self defense. Otherwise nobody should hit anybody.
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Penguinz ►I'll show you...◄ May 17, 2009 18:13:42

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The mean sense of humor part of me is thinking women want equality, so why not give them it to the fullest extent possible? =] lol
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Tsisquaya to Penguin... May 17, 2009 19:26:40

That's what I was thinking! They cry fowl when they ARE treated equal. WTH? Something wrong with that picture!
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Nairb May 17, 2009 17:54:36

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Context is everything.
I have been hit by my Mother, my Wife and a Daughter. In none of those instances was a return blow required. As defense of life or safety of others are the requirements for me.
I did elbow a girl in grade school. She wanted to join in 'clobber the guy with the ball' (Known by a previous name now not PC) and she was biting my arm at the time. I got three wacks after lunch.
Another time, Mother decided I needed a slap, (for something, I didn't think so) after the first one I began blocking them, (wax on wax off style) she just kept at it until she was tired. I should have let he slap me a couple more times as I heard about how I hurt her hands for 6 months.
My Wife once struck me on the shoulder and ripped my shirt. While it was a favorite shirt, I just held her by the shoulders until the argument returned to a more reasonable level. Tho the volume was still high.
My Daughter was in her teens and being belligerent, I had just grounded her for two days, increased to a week in response to her next comment. She then proceeded to pound on my chest with both fists. I leaned into it and laughed softly. When she stopped I asked if she was shooting for a month? She walked away and didn't speak to me for 4 days.
So peaceful it was. I read on her my space later that ...

Context is everything.
I have been hit by my Mother, my Wife and a Daughter. In none of those instances was a return blow required. As defense of life or safety of others are the requirements for me.
I did elbow a girl in grade school. She wanted to join in 'clobber the guy with the ball' (Known by a previous name now not PC) and she was biting my arm at the time. I got three wacks after lunch.
Another time, Mother decided I needed a slap, (for something, I didn't think so) after the first one I began blocking them, (wax on wax off style) she just kept at it until she was tired. I should have let he slap me a couple more times as I heard about how I hurt her hands for 6 months.
My Wife once struck me on the shoulder and ripped my shirt. While it was a favorite shirt, I just held her by the shoulders until the argument returned to a more reasonable level. Tho the volume was still high.
My Daughter was in her teens and being belligerent, I had just grounded her for two days, increased to a week in response to her next comment. She then proceeded to pound on my chest with both fists. I leaned into it and laughed softly. When she stopped I asked if she was shooting for a month? She walked away and didn't speak to me for 4 days.
So peaceful it was. I read on her my space later that she was glad I grounded her.
I am not special, its rule to live by.
My father taught us that you do not hit women unless your life is in danger. You just do not do it. Simple rules
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Tsisquaya to Nairb May 17, 2009 19:27:41

You have alot of self-control Nairb!
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Nairb to Tsisquaya May 18, 2009 01:56:55 (edited)

Not really, I was the youngest of seven with five older brothers and a hard Celtic head.
A stranger striking me may bring the berserker forth, and has. But family, nah. I have been pummeled by experts. (older brothers) I have won fights because the other guy was tired of fighting.
I could use some self control though, if you know where I could get it cheap. I do have a budget.
P.S. off topic, have you read 1491 ?
Tsisquaya to Nairb May 18, 2009 13:12:13

Ugh! SH is annoying when your message disappears in cyberspace!

LOL I'm in more need of self control than you are! ;-) I don't think you give yourself enough credit though, I think you are very strong indeed!!!

I haven't read 1491 but I did google it just before replying back to you the first time. It looks like a very interesting read and I'm glad to see a story about my people before the Europeans took over. There is so much lost and what isn't lost is almost warped when it comes to the history books. What did you think of the book? Thanks for recommending it, I'm definitely adding it to my "must read" book list!
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ForeverScarlett May 17, 2009 17:51:42

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It depends with what she's hitting in with..
If she comes at him with something that could cause serious damage, then yes, I think he should at least defend himself even if that means having to hit her..
kareka May 17, 2009 17:48:57

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never hit a girl/woman not even with a flower
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Nairb to kareka May 17, 2009 17:57:06

I don't know a soft lashing with a aromatic thornless flower may be kind of nice.
<3*FInDinG BEaUtY iN NeGitV... May 17, 2009 17:48:03

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see what a guy dosent relize is he could relly hurt her with a hit but when she hits him it relly wouldnt hurt him but im mean a dude should have the right to defend himself i guess he could restrain her oh hell i dont know its too hard!
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jan May 17, 2009 17:46:38

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if a women is going to act like a man yes if she acts like a lady no
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Ambert May 17, 2009 17:43:23

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No its not ok for anyone to hit anyone no matter the circumstances, violance is not the answer to everything