Is it child abuse to spank your child's bare butt with a belt?

I feel Its not Abuse. Back when we were growing up (kids of the40s, 50s 60sz 70s and 80s) we would get a belting for something we did wrong. Looking at how I have turned out along with my brother and sister, I think we have turned out pretty darn good. US Military, Police Officer and Business Owners we are. Kids of this day in age 90s & 2000s dont know what it is to get a belting or any kind of discipline and because of that most are disrespectful and unmotivated to do anything. Most parents are afraid to discipline for fear of the Law coming down on them. Im not saying take a belt and go to town. Im saying a belting should be used as a last resort after warnings and or talking fails.

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YOUR TOTALLY RIGHT!!

yes

but there is a fine line between spanking and a beating- I had beatings, and would be black and blues from the neck to the calves.

There is nothing wrong with 3-5 swats on the butt, and they do not require 100% muscle power, but anything outside the underwear line, and over 5 swats is too much

A belt leaves bruising and welts, in Nevada that is against the law. (Check with your state)

There are better ways to discipline a child.

Only your hand - never a belt or wooden spoon or fly swatter or anything else, ends up using more force than you intend. How old? I found that from 6 on - 30 min on the sofa in the living room without a toy, TV, game or conversation worked nicely and when totally out of control - door off the bedroom, box the toy, games etc and spending all but meal time there for a day or two - then earning back possessions through good behavior worked. Try em if you like them. Remember you can only reach the brain through the ear at 6 and above.

I got spanked with a belt and it hurt like heck. It didn't damage me for life, but I do think it was extreme. It hurts the hand, so I would say a nice wooden spoon is a good one.

It would leave too many marks...leave his pants on.

yes

Spanking your son's bare bottom with or without a belt is completely invasive and unnecessary. Taking away his privileges such as phone or internet use or a favorite toy will be much more effective. If he's young enough, you could always try a "time out." As far as I'm concerned you should punish a child, not go so far as to physically harm them, take away their pride or make them feel asthough they were invaded by someone who should be teaching and loving them.

No need for that.

No, unless you do it too much or hurt them. Most adults were spanked when they were kids and it didn't damage us physically or mentally.

Not at all; Just don't go overboard!

Depending on the age and the severity of the spanking it could be abusive. Spanking them bare bottom allows you to see when their bottoms are well redened and when the spanking was effective enough for discipline. A spanking is to leave their bottoms red but not bruised, welts, or any other marks that leave permanent damage. Once they are at the age where a hand is insufficient for spanking them that is when paddles, belts, etc. would be appropriate for spanking.

I'm not sure on this subject, but I think that it is your attitude that matters. Are you punishing out of love and concern, or anger and rage? As a child my father would come home drunk and have us put our hands on the the wall and have us pull down our pants and he would spank us with a leather belt out of rage and make threats at us. It never left any scars on my skin, but it did on my heart. My mother spanked me with a spoon sometimes, but it was out of love, not blind rage. that is a differance.

It was how I was raised, and I think it can do a misbehaving kid a lot of good at times.

I was. I spanked my kids but not bare and not with a belt. My hand was quite affective at getting their attention and getting my message across.

Sorry a belt is not a good thing to use on a childs bare butt,spanking with a belt is abuse

My sons are both teenagers and were living with their father for the first time in years. I found out he was continually losing his temper for stupid things..My oldest is 17 years old and weighs 188 lbs..his dad outweighs him.They had a discussion one night and when my son asked his dad to please calm down, his dad hauled off and slapped him in the face and split his lip. I find this to be ridiculous as I do not hit my kids and have found alternate ways to correct them..My boys are not abusive, never done drugc alcohol, or and things else for that matter. I do'nt believe they given reason for even being struck at. I later found out this has happened n more than one occasion and my son finally couldnt take no more and went to the socail worker at school after he took pics of two of the instances..they called child protective services and now I am waiting to see if they are going to return my sons to me. I cannot as a parent stand the thought of my sons being hit and without good cause.I believe in firm punishment. just believe their is a better way and the fact that my sons never struck back shows I have raised them well..

A leather belt on the bare bottom is discipline. Not child abuse.

Amen --we need more of that in todays world --these kids are getting out of hand !!

Thank you True-Male. Spanking is not child abuse.

your most welcome : )

Oh yes I believe in that!! I have been spanked with a belt on my bare bottom, and seriously it works!! Spank him until he cries and then two licks more on his hot bottom it will do the trick!

what ?? makes no sense

I agree makes no sense. We have a spanking chair and when the kids act up they get sent to there room spanking chair comes out they get 3 sharp slaps on the bare bottom with hand and nothing else.

This is great -- This is why our society is going to the dogs and chikdren are so very bad today --Parents must be able to discpline their children . Old way is the best way ! I like your way !!

Is this a joke??? OMG! read the book 'toxic parents' you will find yourself along with many others in the book..two licks more??? the first 'lick' is too much, but really?? two more licks? just for fun? or kicks? either way ABUSE! Hhmm wonder if u guys have kids? If so how sad, handing out violence is teaching violence..read up people, get educated!

I do not think it is child abuse because you're
spanking the childs butt. The Bible says: “Don't fail to correct your children. They won't die if you spank them. Physical discipline may well save them from death” (Proverbs 23:13-14; see also 13:24; 22:15; 20:30). The Bible strongly stresses the importance of discipline; it is something we must all have in order to be productive people, and it is much more easily learned when we are young. Children who are not disciplined often grow up rebellious, have no respect for authority, and as a result find it difficult to willingly obey and follow God. God Himself uses discipline to correct us and lead us down the right path and to encourage repentance for our wrong actions (Psalm 94:12; Proverbs 1:7; 6:23; 12:1; 13:1; 15:5; Isaiah 38:16; Hebrews 12:9).

Child abuse is what happend to Kelsey Briggs, or what Antoinette White and boyfriend did to their 20month old or what Anthony Boone did to his son.










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Amen

How does God use discipline? My God does not punish, maybe I'm confused. Help me out please. The bible also tells us that or children belong to him, they are a gift, we are to love them, teach them and encourage them. I hardly think God wants his children beat with a belt!! reality check!

Yes. Spanking is a lazy way to deal with your children challenging you. Remember, they learn from you, they will learn from your modeling behaviors much more than from being afraid. I am witnessing my daughter in law in a terrible negative feedback cycle- my grandson disrespects her or won't come when she calls cause he is afraid of her and she spanks him once he does come. Where do you go from here, once you spank a 4 year old with a belt? Have you ever seen someone hitting a dog with a belt? How did that make you feel? Why if it is not ok for a husband to hit a wife or a sister to hit a brother, do we model for children that we as parents would inflict pain on them if they don't listen. If you want to yell at a kid from across the room and get them to mind you, then fear might be the way, but is that parenting? Why not get up, take them by the hand or pick them up and take them away from what they are doing. Same message: no you cannot do this, but done without violence. Kids will learn the lesson from this- if you spank your kids regularly, this might not work the first time, but will very shortly, once they realize you are nuturing them rather than bullying.

Yes this is abuse! How old is your son? There is lots of different options out there
research them on the internet they help, or tap into resource in your city that will help you with this.