Is it child abuse to spank your child's bare butt with a belt?

Jerry (Iron Priest)☮ R ☮ P ☮ 201 2008/06/27 02:29:23
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  • SunShine 2008/06/27 02:53:24
    yes.. a belt is made of leather and it leaves bruising and welts.. and sometimes hits where it shouldnt.. find a different way..I believe that there are better ways to discipline children when they are older.. when young a pat on the butt or fingers is ok..I was abused as a child and shudder to think of belts..

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  • Sarah 2014/11/29 03:24:04
    There are much better way to communicate with children with out hitting them to get your own way. I raised four children and all grown and have their own families, etc.,
  • Joan 2014/11/29 03:11:33
    There are far better was to discipline children. Hitting children teaches the wrong values.
  • fingers 2014/06/21 23:41:26
    My stepsisters and I are spanked bare butt with the belt and we are fine!!!
  • Hot Wheels fingers 2014/06/22 01:15:45
    Hot Wheels
    Tell me fingers how old are you anyway?
  • Eric Mason 2014/04/26 18:10:19
    Eric Mason
    whoever answered in blue is sick even of the green s are sick but not as much. All hitting is always wrong for everyone at all times.
  • Jerry (... Eric Mason 2014/04/26 20:49:07
    Jerry (Iron Priest)☮ R ☮ P ☮ 201
    I never did it. I was just really pissed off at my kids at the time. Way back in 2008 is when I put this here. I can't believe it's still going.
  • Tom 2013/11/19 03:07:49
    A belt across a child's bare bottom is just good discipline.
  • Hannah 2013/10/21 21:20:04
    If you think whoever spanked you crossed a line, then don't be scared to speak up and tell an adult you trust. Don't be afraid, to speak up. You deserve help.
  • Brandy Koester 2013/09/14 17:42:31
  • Jerry (... Brandy ... 2013/09/15 07:00:33
    Jerry (Iron Priest)☮ R ☮ P ☮ 201
    You have no clue.
  • jacob.beardsley.14 2013/06/29 21:04:22
    Hitting a child is definitely wrong. Violence is not the way society should be solving its problems.
    But, as bad as it is, I'm not sure it's fair to call all spanking abuse... many bad parenting techniques don't cross the border into "abuse". If a spanking is delivered in a calm manner, isn't too severe, and has no lasting damage, then is it really fair to say that it's "abuse"? Wrong, yes; violent, yes; counterproductive, yes; abusive...?
    I'm all for criminalizing spanking, but I feel that unless it crosses a certain point then it should be a milder offense than "child abuse".
  • j d 2012/11/16 21:54:47
    j d
    I feel Its not Abuse. Back when we were growing up (kids of the40s, 50s 60sz 70s and 80s) we would get a belting for something we did wrong. Looking at how I have turned out along with my brother and sister, I think we have turned out pretty darn good. US Military, Police Officer and Business Owners we are. Kids of this day in age 90s & 2000s dont know what it is to get a belting or any kind of discipline and because of that most are disrespectful and unmotivated to do anything. Most parents are afraid to discipline for fear of the Law coming down on them. Im not saying take a belt and go to town. Im saying a belting should be used as a last resort after warnings and or talking fails.

    This site has the child abuse laws for all 50 states
  • cody se... j d 2013/01/01 17:11:18
    cody secress
  • RUST@GM... j d 2013/05/28 04:30:57
    he is right
  • jacob.b... j d 2013/06/29 21:05:53
    You can't use personal experience or individual people as evidence; there are many people with those exact jobs who were never hit in their lives.
    Also, I think we can all agree that the law isn't always right...
  • True~Male j d 2013/09/14 21:12:34
    Kids today have no consequences of their action -therefore they will be the ones who destroy the world tomorrow !!
  • allen s... j d 2014/07/19 16:50:31
    allen saunders
    Torturing children is not discipline then i always it was done to me and i am fine you are not fine it did harm you or you would want to do this generation after generation its shicking to think that assaulting children is actually violence and children are really full persons not abused prooerty we need to remive violence from our very violent society not celebrate it
  • allen s... j d 2014/07/19 16:51:10
    allen saunders
    Torturing children is not discipline then i always it was done to me and i am fine you are not fine it did harm you or you would want to do this generation after generation its shockingly to think that assaulting children is actually violence and children are really full persons not abused prooerty we need to remove violence from our very violent society not celebrate it
  • beach bum 2012/06/17 06:47:35
    beach bum
  • les_gvt 2012/06/17 01:47:44
    but there is a fine line between spanking and a beating- I had beatings, and would be black and blues from the neck to the calves.

    There is nothing wrong with 3-5 swats on the butt, and they do not require 100% muscle power, but anything outside the underwear line, and over 5 swats is too much
  • Eric Mason les_gvt 2014/04/30 00:14:57
    Eric Mason
    I got spanked by my dad with his hand and sometimes belt on my bare rump. no more the 5 times/spanking. it STUNG ! me pretty good but it never hurt as soon as it was over it never stung any more and I would just go off and play. it never left any mark. if children need a spanking then this is how it should be done.Oh and the belt never hurt more then the hand. he just would crack it to scare us a bit when we were extra bad. he never hit any harder and still only 5 times only on the right cheek.
  • Dagon 2012/06/17 00:38:14
  • Melicious Kiss of PHAET 2012/06/17 00:32:09
    Melicious Kiss of PHAET
    A belt leaves bruising and welts, in Nevada that is against the law. (Check with your state)

    There are better ways to discipline a child.
  • Harley Squiggles the God \(... 2012/06/17 00:31:48
  • Jackie G - Poker Playing Pa... 2012/06/17 00:08:15
    Jackie G - Poker Playing Patriot
    Only your hand - never a belt or wooden spoon or fly swatter or anything else, ends up using more force than you intend. How old? I found that from 6 on - 30 min on the sofa in the living room without a toy, TV, game or conversation worked nicely and when totally out of control - door off the bedroom, box the toy, games etc and spending all but meal time there for a day or two - then earning back possessions through good behavior worked. Try em if you like them. Remember you can only reach the brain through the ear at 6 and above.
  • rightside 2012/06/17 00:07:06
    I got spanked with a belt and it hurt like heck. It didn't damage me for life, but I do think it was extreme. It hurts the hand, so I would say a nice wooden spoon is a good one.
  • relic 2012/06/16 23:12:28
    It would leave too many marks...leave his pants on.
  • Sister Jean 2012/06/16 21:17:43
    Sister Jean
  • VERYwiseguy 2012/06/16 20:17:00
  • Stef and the City 2012/06/16 20:04:04
    Stef and the City
    Spanking your son's bare bottom with or without a belt is completely invasive and unnecessary. Taking away his privileges such as phone or internet use or a favorite toy will be much more effective. If he's young enough, you could always try a "time out." As far as I'm concerned you should punish a child, not go so far as to physically harm them, take away their pride or make them feel asthough they were invaded by someone who should be teaching and loving them.
  • Fighting4U 2012/06/16 19:53:04
    No need for that.
  • Kat ♪ ~ ♪ 2012/06/16 19:10:07
    Kat ♪ ~ ♪
    No, unless you do it too much or hurt them. Most adults were spanked when they were kids and it didn't damage us physically or mentally.
  • ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠ 2012/06/16 19:03:34
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    Not at all; Just don't go overboard!
  • pdarkow 2012/06/16 19:00:45
    Depending on the age and the severity of the spanking it could be abusive. Spanking them bare bottom allows you to see when their bottoms are well redened and when the spanking was effective enough for discipline. A spanking is to leave their bottoms red but not bruised, welts, or any other marks that leave permanent damage. Once they are at the age where a hand is insufficient for spanking them that is when paddles, belts, etc. would be appropriate for spanking.
  • Ali 2011/09/25 18:48:02
    I'm not sure on this subject, but I think that it is your attitude that matters. Are you punishing out of love and concern, or anger and rage? As a child my father would come home drunk and have us put our hands on the the wall and have us pull down our pants and he would spank us with a leather belt out of rage and make threats at us. It never left any scars on my skin, but it did on my heart. My mother spanked me with a spoon sometimes, but it was out of love, not blind rage. that is a differance.
  • TexasMentor54 2011/08/21 12:22:16
    It was how I was raised, and I think it can do a misbehaving kid a lot of good at times.
  • steven TexasMe... 2012/02/07 02:06:43
  • jgh57 2011/04/23 16:52:58
    I was. I spanked my kids but not bare and not with a belt. My hand was quite affective at getting their attention and getting my message across.
  • Darryl 2011/04/22 22:03:05
    Sorry a belt is not a good thing to use on a childs bare butt,spanking with a belt is abuse
  • DeAnna 2011/03/24 02:36:35
    My sons are both teenagers and were living with their father for the first time in years. I found out he was continually losing his temper for stupid things..My oldest is 17 years old and weighs 188 lbs..his dad outweighs him.They had a discussion one night and when my son asked his dad to please calm down, his dad hauled off and slapped him in the face and split his lip. I find this to be ridiculous as I do not hit my kids and have found alternate ways to correct them..My boys are not abusive, never done drugc alcohol, or and things else for that matter. I do'nt believe they given reason for even being struck at. I later found out this has happened n more than one occasion and my son finally couldnt take no more and went to the socail worker at school after he took pics of two of the instances..they called child protective services and now I am waiting to see if they are going to return my sons to me. I cannot as a parent stand the thought of my sons being hit and without good cause.I believe in firm punishment. just believe their is a better way and the fact that my sons never struck back shows I have raised them well..
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