Is 'Flashy Spending' a Sign Men Want a One-Night Stand?

by SodaHead Living Posted June 23, 2011 22:42:55

Related Topics: Spending, Nice Cars, Fancy, Expensive, sex, One-night Stand, Romance, Relationships, dating, Showing Off, Midlife Crisis, Car, Relationship, Money, SodaHead, Scandal, Cars, State

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It's no secret that nice cars and fancy clothes can be a man's way of showing off to the ladies, but WebMD reported a study that shows "flashy spending" is specifically aimed at short-term romance.

[A] study found that men who are interested in short-term mating -- think one-night stands -- are more likely to spend money on flashy products meant to broadcast their desire. And it apparently works. Such men are seen as more attractive, but only by women who are likewise only looking for a short-term sexual relationship.

This puts midlife crises in a completely new light.

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More: http://men.webmd.com/news/20110623/flashy-spenders...

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MoniHead June 23, 2011 23:16:54

Yes

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i don't know what the answer to this question is but that guy in the photo's gonna have a tough time finding any-night stand!
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Beccy September 04, 2011 02:17:32

No

Maybe he wants to impress you so you let him stay around

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chief 00 July 13, 2011 19:19:17

Yes

Not really but it can be.

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strawberry June 25, 2011 07:28:57

Yes

Often men do use flashy spending, showing off to lure women into a one night stand. They do this to put a guilt trip on women, hoping the woman will feel she owes the man a night of sex. Men also do this when very attracted to a woman, to keep her interested in seeing him. I loved dating men with great sport cars. Being flashy can also be part of a man's ego, wanting to be admired in public places. Many men will spend money on a woman because he really likes and admires this woman, with intentions of a lasting relationship.

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moviebuff June 24, 2011 19:50:30

Yes

Whatever works.

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zebsmom June 24, 2011 19:48:47

Yes

Screams midlife crisis to me. Which I guess is probably pretty much the same thing.

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jimrthy BN-0 June 24, 2011 19:44:11

No

It's generally a sign that he's desperate and clueless.

Then again, I have a friend who could easily be mistaken for this sort of thing, if you just glance at the surface. He drives a souped-up sports car that he obsesses over (I've seen him freak out when a bird pooped on it once at lunch...he had to stop by the carwash on the way back to work). Rock star hair-do. Kind of a Brad Pitt clothing style. Rock hard body like he spends hours a day at the gym...

The car's because he was raised in a family or racers, and he's more than a little OCD. The clothes are chosen by his wife (to whom he's completely and totally devoted). The body's from spending hours a day gutting and redoing this insane mansion-style home that she talked him into buying. He's actually extremely frugal with the money.

About the only thing that can honestly be held against him is the hair (and, yes, I am totally jealous *grin*)

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jimrthy... to jimrthy... June 24, 2011 19:47:28

Oh, yeah. The actual point to my answer:

For most men, the sign that we want a one-night stand is, generally, that we walk up to a stranger and start talking.

I'll do it at random, because I enjoy talking to women. Most of my friends just assume that I'm a shameless slut, because they don't.

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Steelshrt June 24, 2011 19:23:30

Yes

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Some people never grow up. If a woman can't accept me for who I am, she's better off without me. Next!!!

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strawberry to Steelshrt June 25, 2011 07:45:09

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I understand what you are saying, but it often takes outward appearance, playing big shot to get a woman's attention first. When you first meet someone you don't know each other. A man could be a millionaire sitting at a bar looking like a bum. I bet most women would avoid this man not knowing he is very rich. Physical attraction usually takes place first. Both men and women have different taste in who attracts them. Attraction will only go so far, once you get more aquainted. If a man is so gross, most women would lose interest no matter how much money he spends.

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Steelshrt to strawberry June 25, 2011 21:18:55

That is the best description of a shallow woman I have heard in a while. Men also by the way.

So, a man has to make himself into a peacock to attract a woman? No thanks, lol.. I'll stay single.

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strawberry to Steelshrt June 26, 2011 05:30:34

If you go to a club wanting to meet someone, would you wear ripped jeans, dirty sneakers and smell.? I doubt anyone would approach you, so maybe you should stay single. A woman will only get to know you if she wants to get near you first.

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Steelshrt to strawberry June 26, 2011 06:54:59

Why such hostility? Wow! Lol.. I'll take your advise under consideration.

PS: I've been told I smell great. ;) As for ripped jeans and dirty sneakers, they have their place and uses.

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Tigger Too June 24, 2011 19:19:26
lia June 24, 2011 19:18:54

No

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Love the car, but that guy by it just makes me laugh! What's he trying to do, be an imitation of Magnum PI? Nice 80's look dude!

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Colleen June 24, 2011 19:12:39

No

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It is not a sign of a one night stand necessarily, but it is a sign of a character flaw. He needs all the help he can get. I had a guy tell me his first wife had been a playboy bunny. He then said, I guess that says a lot about her? I said no, but it tells me a lot about you.

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zebsmom to Colleen June 24, 2011 19:50:31

Ditto for me-except the ex was a stripper

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Emanon June 24, 2011 18:59:50

No

Don't know, don't care... his money .

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bboppitybop June 24, 2011 18:55:12

Yes

Sad, eh?

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mrscas June 24, 2011 18:54:50

Yes

I would run away from anyone that is flashy.

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wpsark_BN_0 June 24, 2011 18:36:58 (edited)

Yes

they'd be stupid just to blow their money for nothing ;-p

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Wolfman June 24, 2011 16:44:37

Yes

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I don't know. I drive a truck. Ask Biden.

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Boss June 24, 2011 16:26:06

No

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it means he has too much money and should save it for the depression...

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Lanikai June 24, 2011 16:17:57

Yes

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We have men in their 60's who spend a lot on fixing up their cars in order to go to the beach and pick up girls. One they pick them up, they spend a fortune on dinner and alcohol. Yes, they do it for the one night of blazing passion. LOL

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abubinc... to Lanikai June 24, 2011 18:15:39

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Yeah, why ELSE do we do ANYTHING ?
Girls like nice cars, and we like girls.....

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jimrthy... to abubinc... June 24, 2011 19:36:06

Try just doing the things you enjoy, in general. If none of them allow you to meet women, broaden your horizons.

*Much* more effective than the dinner and booze.

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abubinc... to jimrthy... June 24, 2011 19:47:12

I don't have trouble with girls. But thanks.

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Mater01 June 24, 2011 15:47:23

No

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A real man doesn't need to go to so much expense just to get laid! Charm, respect, and manners works just as good cause I don't have any problem!

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Lanikai to Mater01 June 24, 2011 17:55:06

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Charm, respect and manners generally work faster. LOL/

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jimrthy... to Lanikai June 24, 2011 19:31:46

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Well, if they're going to work at all. :-)

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jimrthy... to Mater01 June 24, 2011 19:33:30

There's a little more to it than those qualities.

By themselves, they just come across as creepy.

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XRenXVi... to Mater01 June 24, 2011 22:52:17

Charm, respect and manners in order to get laid use her and dump her? Or maybe she is just a slut, in that case she won't get respect.

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Fred Mannheim June 24, 2011 15:44:48

Yes

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In my studies in school we were taught about various species and their mating habits. All species develop habits from centuries of finding what works and applying it. Men like the pictured fellow do what they do because it works on the women who are attracted to it. They deserve each other.

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Sass June 24, 2011 15:40:01

Yes

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I would never have a "one night stand", I'm faithful & true. But if I ever did, especially not with that ugly goober in the pic. EWWWWW!!!! (IS HE SUPPOSED TO BE SEXY???)

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XRenXVi... to Sass June 24, 2011 17:46:47 (edited)

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"(IS HE SUPPOSED TO BE SEXY???)" If so then they failed.

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XRenXVi... to Sass June 24, 2011 22:54:12

One-night stands are trashy and for ppl who use each other, so that's good that some don't do that.

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dave b June 24, 2011 15:26:07

Yes

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I suppose so, but I've been married for 32 years so I dont know. I do know that the guy in the picture is a hopeless dork, though.

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Leia-Lou June 24, 2011 15:25:42

Yes

And that he has no clue about cars and is very material... Oh, and probably has a small penis too...

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Tom June 24, 2011 14:51:14

No

Not a sure sign anyway. Some men do very well in the $$ department and don't mind buying fancy toys.

The dude in the pic, wooo, what a loser.

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Tina June 24, 2011 14:43:03

Yes

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It shows they want people to pay attention to them. The dude in the photo would be lucky to get anyone to spend time with him, so he may want to try for something that lasts longer than one night.

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rusty June 24, 2011 13:18:06

Yes

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Who ever came up with the idea that men only want sex once?

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