Is Doing Dishes Strictly a Woman Thing or Should It Be Done on a 50/50 Basis?

I deplore men who don't clean up behind themselves.

You cook I clean, I cook you clean. That system works just fine.

I do most of the dishes in my house and I do a better job of cleaning them too. I'm always having to rewash dishes my wife washes. And before anyone says anything, I cook more than she does too. If it were up to me my son would wash them every night just like I had to do when I was his age.

I don't believe it should be one gender's responsibility, but you also shouldn't be keeping score on dish duty. If they bother you and need to be done, just do them!

You make the kids do them. My sister and I took turns with the dishes when I was a kid and it didn't hurt my feelings or damage my self-esteem like it does kids today.

Oh hey, didn't know answering a question with my honest opinion made me a troll. Nice to know that, just in case I run into the same problem elsewhere \o/

It varies from relationship to relationship, but all relationships should be 50/50.

He works as a door to door sales guy, and do my little work at home jobs to help with the financial situation. We don't earn 50/50 but it works well with our finances.

I do all the dishes for breakfast and lunch, and then when he comes home in the evening we eat dinner and he does the dishes. Often times when I cook, he preps. He has some mad cutting skills.

With cleaning, I vacuum, organize and do laundry, and he does the dusting, scrubbing counters, tables, the stove and takes out the garbage.

in my house including the kids help out with everything from setting the table to picking up after dinner, to washing the dishes so we dont really have a problem with that. but there is times when everyone feels lazy especially on sunday and when that happens we ususally play some sort of game and whoever loses gets the task.lol!

I guess it's sort of 50-50 with me. I do all the cooking and the dishes. She does all the laundry. I get to eat what I want and I hate a sink full of dishes. She has to deal with my drawers. Ha!

In my house we share the work. My wife cooks because she gets home first. I do the dishes and clean the kitchen. She does the laundry, I help fold it. We both clean the bathrooms, I cut the grass and she takes care of the plants and flowers. I do most of the grocery shopping, She does the vacuuming. pretty even split and nobody bitches about what is or isn't done.

As the one who faces a sink full of dishes nearly all day I believe it's easier for everyone to just wash out their own cup or plate after they use it. I don't mind doing dinner dishes, but all day long is ridiculous! Grow up men - women are not your slaves!

Okay, what happens when a guy lives by himself? If doing dishes is women thing should he wait to wash his dishes till a woman comes over? We're beyond divisions of duties based on gender. Many, many years beyond.

i would rather have to do it all the time willingly,
then argue with my husband because we agreed 50/50 and he's not doing his part.

YES, if you saw how my husband washes the dishes...you'd want to do them yourself too. I always go back and re-wash. besides, I enjoy washing the dishes...yeah, call me crazy - most people do! HA

Some of my female friends think it should be a man thing. They don't want to interfere with dish-washing geniuses.

Because of the various roles women maintain in the house hold e.g. mother, wife, employee/or, student, mother, cook, to name a few, I think a husband/partner who is loving and supportive, will step in where needed working with his wife and vise versa to ensure the continuity of a harmonious living enviornment within the home. If there are children both son and daughter should have dishes as a chore. The day for dishes being the daughters only chore is over.

Doing dishes should not be seen as a chore that is done only by women. That is a social norm concept that is as outdated as gas light street lamps. What I'm tring to say is times have change and within in that change include social norms. It may have been socially normal 40 years ago when the wife/mother was the housewife taking care of the home and kids while the husband went off to work well Leave to Beaver Days are over. The wife is a multi tasker working, raising children, and taking care of the house work and if a man can not see himself helping out because of jobs being segregated male/female, then thats not a man. He is a man still waiting for his mother to take care of him.

Answers this who is doing the dishes if there were no wife?

I don't think this should be a he/she issue.. If there's dishes just do them..

People living together split chores in whatever way works for them. I think a possible solution is that one person cooks and the other does dishes. But some people do both together.

in my house, if you cook you don't wash up. so he's gotta do one of them everyday! no 'it's a womans job' in my house thank you very much or you can do it all yourself! he doesn't like cooking as much as me though so he'd rather wash than cook

.... if she can do it, so can I .

You'd be amazed what I can jamb into a dishwasher < s >

Its only fair

Is your head still on straight?? Flowers hasn't knocked you silly for asking this yet? LOL. My 6'4" cop husband doesn't even question his share of the dishes...

That's because he has watched his 5'3" nurse wife crack chests in the ER and knows for a fact she keeps very sharp knives in the kitchen...

See her answer below...

50/50 all the way.

Why even 50/50 unless this is part of a deal both have worked out?
Called TEAM. If you have the time, do them.

I would love to see my brother-in-law say that to my sister she'll snap him.

.... that's funny ... quite funny !

LMFAO!!!

LOL! now, that's funny!

OMG, I'm sure you're receiving hell for that but it was funny. LOL

What if you're a single guy living alone? In that case it's all-or-nothing. If I don't wash the dishes, they won't get washed and I'll soon run out of clean ones.

Even if you're a married guy, don't be afraid of washing the dishes all by yourself. After all, "No man has ever been shot while doing dishes."

Yah! Women SHOULD do dishes for us men, BUT i usually do them, several times a day.

If I cook, he does the dishes, if he cooks I do the dishes....if your the only one eating then you clean them yourself...and if someone says their gonna do the dishes don't nag at them to do it now, and if your the one saying your gonna do the dishes, do them. problem solved.

I do most of the housework but I think a man should lend a hand around the house.
Sometimes I ask my man to wash the dishes or put them away when my hands are tied with other chores. He also helps me with the laundry and the garbage so I get help in other areas besides the dishes. I vote 50/50 with housework in general.

Share. Depends who is tired and who is not, and doing them together is fun too.

In our house, it was whoever cooked, cleaned. That way we were more careful of the mess we made. I fell for that 'I'll cook, you clean' routine at my daughters' homes a couple of times. They use every dish and pan in the kitchen, fill the garbage up, and drop stuff on the floor. It looks like a tornado hit the place.