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Tom R 007 2012/08/08 01:04:54No
+12Not sure. If it is, women only have themselves to blame. The jerks get the girls and the gentlemen get ignored, so it's little wonder that many men choose to be jerks. I've lost count of how many times I've held a door open for a woman and she's turned and scowled at me like I just pissed on her kitten.
ALL women, huh?
>>>"The jerks get the girls and the gentlemen get ignored.."<<<
That's what ALWAYS happens, 100% of the time, in every situation?
Okay glaringly obvious over-generalizations aside, let me clue you in, sugar; that's the difference between girls real women.
"Nice girls" like "bad boys" but a grown-ass woman with a healthy sense of positive self-esteem appreciates a real man who treats her well, and she respects him as he respects her.
As for the door thing; in my opinion, its whoever gets to damn thing first.
;-)
If I get there first, I hold the door for whomever is behind me; regardless to gender.
If they scowl, that's their problem; I just smile even wider.
If someone gets to the door before me and holds it, I say 'thanks.'
It's just my opinion, in response to a (rather bitter-sounding) comment that you made.
If you're "the choir", then perhaps you might want to work on your 'harmony.'
And no one is 'bent out of shape'; My shape is still awesome:
;-)
It seems like you lost that wonderful sense of humor you had when you first tried to troll me a little while back.
'Tis a pity.
And nope, I dont "need" the last word, so here's your chance; go for it.
I'll even have 'keyboard cat' play you off...
It's just that, well many men believe that they are gentlemen when in reality they aren't. They occasionally open a door for a pretty woman and then expect her to jump their bones practically, or they are nice to some women and get insulted and moody when they women don't give them the attention they feel they deserve. They call themselves 'nice guys' when in reality their behavior is rather self-centered and often desperate. They also don't say what they want, often just acting like a friend and then out of nowhere throwing love confessions out there.
Now I'm not saying all men who call themselves gentlemen are like that, and there are some very true gentlemen out there. But those 'fake gentlemen' really give a bad reputation for the rest.
Also it's not as if anyone actually likes a jerk, it's not the jerkiness that women are falling for, it's the other aspects that come along with it. Usually only men who can get 'away with it' are jerks, as in they already have very good looks or are highly talented in some aspect and it's more the superficial nature that draws women to them. The same way very attractive women can get away with treating men poorly simply because they'll still have men lining up ready to date them because of their looks.
Also jerks are very often more confident than nicer guys, because jerks don't generally care much about rejection, they are more likely to be very forward with what they want and simply get more girls because they go for it, while the nicer guys might wait around for a woman they really like and then be too nervous of going through with it. So by default, the jerk goes to more women, he gets more women. And if he gets rejected, he simply moves on to someone else.
Also there's the whole challenge aspect too, jerks are self-centered, and some women want to...
Also it's not as if anyone actually likes a jerk, it's not the jerkiness that women are falling for, it's the other aspects that come along with it. Usually only men who can get 'away with it' are jerks, as in they already have very good looks or are highly talented in some aspect and it's more the superficial nature that draws women to them. The same way very attractive women can get away with treating men poorly simply because they'll still have men lining up ready to date them because of their looks.
Also jerks are very often more confident than nicer guys, because jerks don't generally care much about rejection, they are more likely to be very forward with what they want and simply get more girls because they go for it, while the nicer guys might wait around for a woman they really like and then be too nervous of going through with it. So by default, the jerk goes to more women, he gets more women. And if he gets rejected, he simply moves on to someone else.
Also there's the whole challenge aspect too, jerks are self-centered, and some women want to see if they can change that.
But no one actually enjoys being mistreated or abused in any way. The relationships that jerks have never really last, the gentleman usually gets the real, healthy relationship which actually means something. It's worth more than whatever the jerk may get.
But I mean, jerks often approach women very directly, and if they do it often enough, some women will go for it. Jerks from my experience don't really care if they're rejected, or at least act like they don't.
I appreciate when a man holds a door, etc., and I always acknowledge it to that person.