Is being involved with Christianity like being involved in an emotionally abusive co dependent relationship?
rustex782
2012/08/21 15:38:47
Signs of Emotional Abuse
Abusers will tend to
- Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to explain their actions
- Accuse and blame to divert attention away from themselves
- Refuse to accept the perspective of others while irrationally defending their own positions
- Withhold information in areas affecting the lives of those they are abusing - it give them the control to manipulate future events.
- Avoid acknowledging the feelings of others, yet will often bring up how their emotions are being effected
- Slight or take digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner, allowing the abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive
- Change the subject to divert attention from themselves
- Make others feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser.
- Threaten or hint of physical, mental or sexual abuse
- Deny anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self)
- Show inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame)
- Try and control others to domineer and limit freedom or expression
- Forget commitments and promises.
- Deny success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a loser.
- Take advantage of vulnerabilities using shame, guilt or fear
- The actions and promises are out of alignment. They say one thing and do another
- Only be nice when all other options have been removed, when they feel they are trapped into a corner
- Cut someone off so they are not allowed to speak. Suppressing self-expression.
- Look to eliminate the choices of others, while gathering control for themselves
- Ask inappropriate questions or make insinuating comments to evoke emotional responses
- Humiliate others in public situations to show their superiority
- Keep pushing buttons and activating places of sensitivity
- Pretend to understand concerns and then disregarding them
- Slander the name, reputation, associations or activities of those they can’t control
Top Opinion
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NightWish1976 2012/08/21 19:26:46
But please don't misconstrue what I'm saying. I know there are absolutely horrible, intolerant Christians too. I just don't see any reason to have an "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" attitude.
God supposedly repented for making mankind which is the one thing that he was ever sorry about.
But he wasn't sorry for sending his son to be killed to make amends (rather than just forgiving people),. because he doesn't work that way.
And he destroyed all people and animals except for a few (I guess when he's mad he hates animals too).
And Adam's sins were something that was visited upon all future generations. Even though it had nothing to do with the future generations wrong doings.
And not that I believe in any of all of that but it would make him a psychotic and unforgiving and being that he couldn't find a way to keep Adam's sins from being visited of future generation,. and also rather stupid.
Abusers will tend to
Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to explain their actions
Accuse and blame to divert attention away from themselves
Refuse to accept the perspective of others while irrationally defending their own positions
Withhold information in areas affecting the lives of those they are abusing - it give them the control to manipulate future events.
Avoid acknowledging the feelings of others, yet will often bring up how their emotions are being effected
Slight or take digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner, allowing the abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive
Change the subject to divert attention from themselves
Make others feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser.
Threaten or hint of physical, mental or sexual abuse
Deny anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self)
Show inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame)
Try and control others to domineer and limit freedom or expression
Forget commitments and promises.
Deny success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a l...
Abusers will tend to
Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to explain their actions
Accuse and blame to divert attention away from themselves
Refuse to accept the perspective of others while irrationally defending their own positions
Withhold information in areas affecting the lives of those they are abusing - it give them the control to manipulate future events.
Avoid acknowledging the feelings of others, yet will often bring up how their emotions are being effected
Slight or take digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner, allowing the abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive
Change the subject to divert attention from themselves
Make others feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser.
Threaten or hint of physical, mental or sexual abuse
Deny anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self)
Show inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame)
Try and control others to domineer and limit freedom or expression
Forget commitments and promises.
Deny success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a loser.
Take advantage of vulnerabilities using shame, guilt or fear
The actions and promises are out of alignment. They say one thing and do another
Only be nice when all other options have been removed, when they feel they are trapped into a corner
Cut someone off so they are not allowed to speak. Suppressing self-expression.
Look to eliminate the choices of others, while gathering control for themselves
Ask inappropriate questions or make insinuating comments to evoke emotional responses
Humiliate others in public situations to show their superiority
Keep pushing buttons and activating places of sensitivity
Pretend to understand concerns and then disregarding them
Slander the name, reputation, associations or activities of those they can’t control
Plus, it really puts down those who have been through emotional abuse too.