Is a long marriage with affairs the secret to happiness? - Telegraph

by Heisenberg Posted 2012/08/20 18:03:28

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TELEGRAPH.CO.UK reports:
In an extract from her new book, the controversial sociologist says it is time
to redraw marital rules – with a radical rethink on fidelity

book controversial sociologist redraw marital rules ndash radical rethink fidelity

book controversial sociologist redraw marital rules ndash radical rethink fidelity

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Heisenberg 2012/08/20 18:04:01

Disagree

+5
Perhaps for sleazy men but not for honorable people.
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BBCoach21 2012/08/21 21:03:25

Disagree

I have a hard time believing that affairs can be good for any marriage...it just seems to contradict the idea of marriage and give individuals yet another reason to be promiscuous. If you want to be justifiably sleazy, don't get married in the first place.

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Laura C 2012/08/21 16:05:09

Disagree

+1
whats the point in geting married if your gonna cheat may as wel be single

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deBrice 2012/08/21 16:01:25

Agree

Woohoo I'm the only one who thinks it's ok :)

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Mike 2012/08/21 03:42:36

Disagree

No. It only concludes you should have never been married in the first place.

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The Mosher 2012/08/21 02:12:21

Disagree

not even a traditionalist but I'd rather be with only one women who cares about me Affairs seem to me to be a betrayal of trust

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Tori 2012/08/20 22:15:09

Agree

For some people. It depends on what you think marriage should be and how secure your ego is. This is hardly a new idea - the concept of "open marriage" has been around for a long time. I think that a lot of marriages end over infidelity when they didn't necessarily have to. I think that many times it's the lies and the betrayal that hurts the worst and this type of arrangement would prevent that. I think, in fact, that a whole lot more people have exactly this type of marriage, but they don't talk about it for fear of being judged.

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Freeranger 2012/08/20 21:12:21

Disagree

Nah.....idiotic. Not buyin' it.

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Professor Wizard 2012/08/20 20:35:13

Disagree

Hmmm.... Long marriage with affairs.. or a short one without them?

My wife had an affair.. then left me for the other guy... she got what she deserved in the end.

Hitler had affairs... but his life wasn't so long!

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RLUX 2012/08/20 19:47:35

Disagree

+1
I STRONGLLY DISAGREE HAPPINESS IS WHAT YOU FIND WHEN YOU GET MARRIED ..

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LittleMistersMom 2012/08/20 19:10:56

Disagree

In my opinion, that kind of completely negates the entire reason for marriage in the first place.

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Smokey 2012/08/20 19:10:48

Disagree

Why get married if you want to sleep around with other people?

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Selene 2012/08/20 18:47:37

Disagree

+1
R u kidding?! That's what marriage is- two people together forever. ONLY 2 people! That's the whole point of being married! There should be no other people in the relationship.

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Moonage 2012/08/20 18:47:10

Disagree

The key to true happiness is constantly re-inventing your relationship with the one you trust most. Gone both routes, plan A obviously didn't work so well. Once you start getting what you think you need outside of the home, the home loses value. Once it loses enough value, the marriage is toast.

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ed 2012/08/20 18:40:03

Disagree

one without the affairs is the secret.

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IndyLinda 2012/08/20 18:24:14

Disagree

36 years with NO affairs. Still quite happy, thank you.

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American Girl 2012/08/20 18:17:41

Disagree

No

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SA 2012/08/20 18:09:56

Disagree

NO!!

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gracious43 2012/08/20 18:05:21

Disagree

+1
Song of Songs 8:6
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.

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MJ 2012/08/20 18:05:21

Disagree

No it is not..

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Heisenberg 2012/08/20 18:04:01

Disagree

+5
Perhaps for sleazy men but not for honorable people.

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