If your kid is very smart and love to learn should you skip them a grade if the teacher say it would be good?

Gifted children need to be challenged academically, but kept at their grade level socially. A very bright child who skips grades often ends up at a disadvantage, being smaller and less mature both physically and emotionally than other kids in the higher grade. It is very difficult to have friends in high school, when for example you are the only girl who doesn't wear a bra yet, or the only boy who doesn't shave, or the only kid in class without a driver's license.

It is far better to put your child in a school where they have a good honors or gifted program, where your child can be taught at his/her advanced level in things like math, literature and science, but can remain with his/her class level for things like physical education, sex ed, and the class dance!

In that scenario, your child is not the nerdy little kid in a higher grade, but instead makes friends with other honors/gifted kids who have similar interests and face similar challenges, and can develop a good peer group of fellow bright children.

Thanks for the help.

:-) I've been through this twice with my own kids and I struggled with the same decision. We actually moved to a different school district to take advantage of a great honors/gifted program, and my kids actually thanked me for the decision later! In the new school, they soon developed a great peer group of other kids who were advanced; joined school activities with other advanced kids (tutoring commitees, language clubs, National Honor Society)....socialization and study mixed together because all their friends were also advanced, things happened like study/pizza parties during exams, etc... They were really happy. And in the end, they both got full scholarships to college, and they both have full and busy social lives with lots of friends.

Scholarsps is the plan , We both know knowlege is King.

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My son had the same problem...Advancing to a higher grade doesn't always 'fix' it as maturity levels may differ...She sounds like a candidate for the 'Talented and gifted' programs many schools offer or home schooling...Good luck!

I think the school is becoming aware , she gets all 100% on her work.

Push the school...my problem with the schools is that they tended to find all kinds of silly reasons to not challenge my son (Also got 100% on all class work) and some of them were things like, 'he taps his pencil so we won't do anything until he stops tapping his pencil'. Or, "We know he gets 100% on his in class work and has shown he knows the material, but he didn't turn in the homework so we won't help." Sheesh! I kept telling them that the homework protest was because he was BORED! I begged them to challenge him rather than pick on the homework thing but NO! God it was frustrating...

I also have books and work and reading stuff at home to keep her busy.

I think it depends on the childs social/emotional development. sometimes it can be better to hold the child back to aid with those skills. Then there are kids that are just fine making new friends and steppping up to their new peers.

That the problem she the only child at home , and very hard to get alone when reading . She like to focus on what she doing .

Sounds like any kind of social situation would be good for her. Are there cousins or neighborhood friends she likes to hang with? My first thought was that as an only child she is most likely more mature than other kids her age. Have you discussed it with her? Always important to involve a kid in a decision that includes them. It helps them in the long run to have input. good luck with little einstien

She plays a lot , but like her own time to . she and a lot groups Brownies and swiming . I have not discussed it with her but she always say the work is to easy . She is very Mature for her age .

Sounds like she is ready to move on. good luck.

Gifted children skip grades all the time now. If you hold them back, you are hurting the child because they have to spend an entire year being board because they already know the things that the Teacher is trying to teach. Let them go ahead and let them challenge their minds.

Good point , what about there freinds .

Of our 5 kids one skipped the 4th grade. She went from the top to the bottom. I do not recommend it, but rather more home education on areas she can use later in life (math, mechanics, photograph, landscaping, ...heck, even juggling).

But that's only if they like to learn

Love it

Thanx

why not...it's better than being held back. I went to college with a kid who was getting a Bachelors with me. I was 25. He was 18. He was waaaaaaay smarter than me!!!
It's not a bad thing to get through school early. I wouldn't know!! :)

Definately,
My daughter started pre-K in Texas and was going 5 days
a week and going from 8:00am to 3:00pm. When we moved
back home to Maine they wanted to have her do just the half
a day Kidnegarten like Maine does. I told them no way that
she would be bored out of her mind. They agreed to let her
go to one teacher for half the day and have lunch and then
go to another teacher for the other half of the day. Now when
it came time for her to attend first grade the following year
the teacher told me that she was way to smart for the class
and that she was bored. They put her into second immediately.
Then when she got to her Junior year in High School she
doubled up on her classes and took her Senior classes a year
early. She ended up graduating High School at 16 years old. She
is now 18 and is about to leave for bootcamp in Georgia. She just
enlisted into the Army. I am very proud of her accomplishments.

My daughter want to be a scientist , She draws and writes storys , love the stars . She scares me sometime . Very wise beown her years. She only 7 and love to read .

Very nice J,
Keep encouraging her to do the best she can with what
she enjoys doing the most. Encourage her to follow her
dreams.

I just love it when a kid has goals and the drive to get there. My stepdaughter was like that. Even though she later decided that there were more things in life that she wanted experience in other areas, I think the whole process is still with her and is something that can be transferred from on interest to another. It was important to us that she get to pursue as many interests as could. By the beginning of HS she was so beyond being able to deal with the large classroom size and the apathy of the teachers. We allowed her to drop out and self home school. She is such a keeper. Well in the heart anyway. Already she's out on her own doing her thing in NM.