If you live with somebody and you don't have any intimacy or emotions with that person and have sex with some other person-are you betrayed?

NO, you are the betrayer. It appears that he/she isn't giving you what you want, and the reason may be that they have found out about your affair. Why don't you just live where your emotions are and your bedding partner is, and spare your man/woman for God's sake. Stop fooling yourself, you are the one is betraying yours.

Isnt that a roommate?

Yes, I would consider it a betrayal. If you love the person you live with, especially if you're married, you should make the effort to find out why the intimacy isn't there anymore and if there is any hope of regaining it. You may not like what you find but it's better than not knowing and living a lie for the rest of your life.

You are not betrayed the person that you live your life with is the one that is betrayed.

So we are just roommates?
Not sure I understand the question.

"Elementary Watson"

You are not married. You are simply living together, and there is no sex between you, and there is no emotional connection. Do I have a clear understanding of the situation? It is absolutley within your rights to find someone else you CAN have that physical/emotional connection with. You owe your roommate nothing.

You're just room mates...WTF?

no...

Betrayal only

Try to fix what is broken at home first. If your partner doesn't want you,leave the sexless partner. Move and start your life over. Life is too short not to be loved and have it reciprocated. Many marriages end because of that. See the movie Hope Springs.

Betrayal can take many forms. It also depends on the arrangement you two have. Betrayal is betrayal. If you have no intimacy why are you together? Go your separate ways. No betrayal then.

depends if its a live in realtionship if its friends then no if other yes

First of all, if you live with someone but have no sexual relations with that person how can you feel betrayed if they have sex with someone else? This doesn't make any sense.

No emotions = no betrayal...just my thoughts.

But need more info here. Your relationship with the first person isn't clear.

In this issues was not written about relationships, it can not be betrayed. If the lover or mistress, then explained otherwise than in questions.

IF there is no emotions, no sex or personal relationship other then just living with them then there is no sexual betrayal.. YOU will probably feel betrayed if they do go out and have sex with someone else.. The reasoning for that is they CHOSE someone else over you to have sex with... you were rejected. You feel lonely and hurt... it would be time to reevaluate your arrangement with them or just adjust your own feelings and attitude about this person.... If you have to live with them or its just for convenience or financial then wake up ! your arrangement isn't as solid or good as you thought... PREPARE yourself for the eventuality of living ALONE ..... Suck it up and move on with your life and change your own state of mind about your relationship.....

In the situation you describe (assuming BOTH parties are indifferent to the other), you're just room mates.

When you say "live with somebody" I'm thinking your in a relationship or this is a partner or something... This is cheating/betrayal

If it's just a roommate or "friend" then who's betrayed and why?

I wish I had other options to choose from.

If this is just a roommate, not even a friends with benefits, then going on and having sex with someone else is fine. If there is any sex involved with the roommate, then that is a different story.

Are you betrayed or are you betraying? Either way, yes it's a betrayal.

OK, let me say this too, or rather ask. It makes a big difference. Is this person a mate or a room mate, not much to go on.

You're not even married just get out of what's not by any definition a relationship. Intimacy and emotions are the very core of a healthy relationship and doesn't include having sex with others.

I wouldn't get into such a situation.

No...if you're not dating or anything and you're just house-mates.....of course you can go have your own love life :/

Who is getting betrayed.....you ...or you are betraying someone..... in both cases both party ..... so pull on the way it is.... as that is the way it ought to be may be ? http://images.sodahead.com/pr...

But alot depends on the specific circumstances. People are sometimes driven to a "betrayal" of this kind by alienation of affection. Both people involved must bear the responsibility if this is the case. I knew a lady in a similar situation. Once the intimacy & emotions are taken from a person they often look elsewhere, as we all need these things from time to time in our lives.

Would have been nice to have "another" as a choice. Answer this with another question. Why would you be with this person in the first place?

What a convoluted question .

Agreed!

Wait...how can YOU be betrayed if YOU'RE the one having sex with someone else?

Wait, if you're living with someone and there are no emotions or intimacy, then you're just friends. Roommates. Having sex with someone else isn't a betrayal

But it's not easy.

Sometimes it's necessary, can't live happily without feeling needed....and you've probably already been betrayed to be in that position.

Be Loyal....like me...bark

why are you even married to someone you cant love.

We can't assume it's a marriage....they don't say.

That's true but would you live with a person if you can't have intimacy , love or physical touch not me .

I have. Things happen. Never ideally, but it does. Eventually you move on.

I have to that's why I say do you really want to live your life that way . I have told both my children try to live a happy life and find someone you can love and that person loves you life is to short to shortchange it .