If you don't put your past behind you and leave it there will it ruin your present?

my husband lives in the past and it has ruined this marriage. we just co exist and when he starts talking, 7 out of 10 times, i hear charlie brown's parents.

It will eat at you and ruin every aspect of your life and that includes relationships.

it'll only cause hate, jadedness, paranoia, and other negative energies. Not only that but ur health may be at risk as well.

Thanks for posting this question. I will vote as undecided, and hopefully learn something from the comments. Smile

Was it a sad, or happy and prosperous past?
Are you networking with old friends? etc

Obsessing over something one cannot change is only pointless. It's best to move forward with life. making sure to leave past in the past. It's in the past for a reason

yep...it keeps one obscessed with THEMSELVES. I did that. I was there. I remember that. etc. self absorbed, repetitive and boring!

sometimes you have to deal with the past, as it still affects your present and future. Bad financial issues, chemical use, relationship problems. You have deal with them, and then work to never go back to the bad stuff of the past.

then deal with it and get over it.

Agree... but, for some, they have to continue to deal with it on a daily basis... chemical dependency, gambling addictions, porn...

then it is now the present.

For some...it is their future as well!!!

yep, their choice. drag the past along and it becomes your future.

There was a lot of stupid things I did in the past.

everybody does...its part of growing.

You're right.

Whoops, maybe I shouldn't have clicked yes. Let's see. If you continuously dwell in the past then you are going to miss the present and screw up your future.

Now, if you have bad things in your past, it will influence your present-day decisions in a harmful manner. If your past holds really neat things, you may dwell on those good things and not be properly handling today's issues.

No, the past holds many things from which you should learn lessons; however, you need to deal with things in the present, right now, and hopefully with wisdom gained from the past, but definitely with strictly present actions. I have unfortunately seen a couple dear loved ones of mine slowly destroy their lives because they couldn't get over things that happened in the past. No matter how much we tried to help them. And it breaks my heart to even think about it. Life's way too short for that kind of crap.

It will influence your future too.

your just living in the past

YUP. Look at it like this - you can't move your car forward while your gears are in reverse. There is a huge difference between coming to grips with your past, and staying in the past.

I forget the past anf live for the future

I can only guess the "past" you're hinting at are problematic parts of it. Keeping those times in mind isn't a bad thing - the memories of those could help one through some similar ones (key word: could). Coversely, it's rarely beneficial to dwell on problematic parts or one's life, and not good at all when no resolve exists.

It all depends on how you take it. If you learn from it, then by all means move on from it, but don't leave behind what it taught you. If you just ignore something major though, and bottle it up, then it can surely ruin your present

Usually what happens to you in your past also affects your present life. I don't believe that saying "you have to leave the past behind you." Your past and present are who you are. Past and present take you into your future. Of course some changes can be made.

Everything happens so you can learn from it. You can only ever truly be happy by living completely in the moment, enjoying the present, instead of dwelling on happier times gone by or waiting in frustration for better times to come. All we have is now, now is all that exists, everything else is gone. It's best just to accept it and live in the moment

and a ot of people are filled with anger over the past or living in the glories of the past and dpoing nothing in the presenty

Exactly, and that's why people are sad, because they're not living in the present. I should take my own advice and stop dwelling on things in the past!

Most times when dealing with leaving your past behind it means the bad experiences. . in those cases you DO need to leave it behind . . learn from it only and move on. If you have verbally forgiven someone the experience associated with it needs to be left behind so it does not effect your present additude. . . otherwise you have not truely forgiven the person. Remember your past only to the level of NOT being fooled twice; remember the knowledge gained from it but do not live with it now allowing it to ruin your life.

It's ur past, it already affected you. But I do believe that you need to learn How to drop the weight of the past in order to move forward more properly.

Whatever goes around, comes around.