If you don't love someone is it wrong to be with them solely for the sex?

Having a good sex partner is wonderful1 Actually you become friends and enjoy both friendship and sex.

You should commite to someone you at least care about.

but i do think there has to be an agreement

As long as it's mutual.

Why not lol

No, it's not wrong ...but sex is much, much, much better with someone that you are in love with.

Not if it is a mutual decision. I have had plenty of FWB's's LOL

After my first husband just left me stranded, though we later got divorced, he was the only man I had sex with for 13 years, other then one man I was engaged to when I was 19, but the engagement was broken. After my first husband, I put my life back together, had a very good paying job, my own apartment, took care of my children, but we were hurt very bad. Their father never bothered to see them or call them. I became a very independent woman, not depending on a man for money. I did what I wanted, when I wanted, went dancing very often and I chose the man I wanted to have sex with, if I wanted to, when and where. It was freedom! No man to cook for, or clean for. I was very beautiful with a petite figure, size 6, 110 lbs at 5'4". I did not love any of the men I had sex with. It was mostly physical attraction. They treated me like a queen. There was no fighting or slandering, just mutual adult respect. This was New York. I am not bragging but people grow up faster on The East Coast. Communication is better, people say what is on their mind in an intelligent way. Men and women can have sex together, be it an affair, one night stand, or really enjoy being together, and respect each other like two adults.

I believe you should be in love.

I think so, i know people have one night stands and move on , but thats not for me....I like some love mixed in with my sex, makes it so much better

I meant to say NO ---As long as it's a mutual agreement between both consenting adults pleasuring themselves for that sole reason .

not if you are married to them.

Only if it's between me and this guy............ otherwise NOI!

Roxie, you wouldn't cheat on me would you?

Not that you would ever know about... I just want to use him for a week or two.... not keep him!

What I don't know won't hurt me!

Ya no one would know but me and him......... at least till the love potion wears off!

Because I have a daughter. No sex until she gets her Masters degree.

I prefer this, as oppose to being owned by a wife.

long as both sides are ok with it and know that it is just sex not love or commitment.

As long as the relation is clear on both sidez.....I don't see why it should be wrong..........

No it is not wrong at all. Just be honest and enjoy being with one another.

I would feel violated if that were the case.

just for the fun of it !!

well ... maybe not to you .... but some of us would rather enjoy it !!!
Different strokes for different folks --

it's okay

Having a bowling ball fall on your foot is not fun either. It is not as ugly as you make it sound. Stuck in you? I have seen that happen to dogs. I respect your feelings but you don't know what is fun unless you have tried it.

I agree cindy, good for us......

As long as the person with whom you're having sex knows it's not a "love connection" and is fine with the relationship being purely sexual, there's nothing wrong with have a purely sexual relationship as long as you're BOTH prepared to deal with any pregnancy that arrises from you having sex.

This question is a deep one that involves Dr. Phil. j/k:) I want to tell the world one little secret i know. There has to be 3 main core keys to any kind of relationship.. 1. Trust 2. Understanding, and 3. Communication. That is what makes any kind of relationship work. without anyone of those three keys , there is no relationship. I have been in love for 6 years and have not had sex in 3 years. Not because i cant, but i love the fact that love is the most beautiful thing. Sex is just that sex. Sure if you want kids you have to make love. but sex in a relationship is mostly a pleasure trigger to enhance your thoughts of who you are with. Ah but there is a twist to that. Have you ever noticed when you have sex in a relationship there always seems to be more arguements? Causing tension or misunderstanding of one's emtions is a tricky thing. But if you go without sex for a l;ong period you will see what I am saying . You have less tension as long as you both a mutally ok without sex during that period. You become much more intimant with love and emotion without sex. does that make sense to you?

Velocity...I don't know what book you're digging that out of but you need a new book. I've had a couple of PURELY SEXUAL relationships and there was NO need for "Trust, Understanding and Communication." It was SEX.

Incidentally, it was AWESOME sex.

me too - oh baby - come to mama.. lol j/k (kinda j/k)
I'm just saying I agree ;o)

Do you think it's because sex is so emotional?

no beacause they are your sex toy