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If you are invited to a wedding,R.S.V.P and don't go would you still give a gift?

Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞ 2009/08/20 21:51:38
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  • Nick~believe ^MOTOOP^ 2009/08/21 17:56:45
    Yes, I would....
    Nick~believe ^MOTOOP^
    +1
    Whether it's RSVP or not, if I'm invited, I send something. Perhaps not as grand as if I were actually going.
  • Firekit... Nick~be... 2009/08/22 04:15:27
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +1
    Yes I agree.
  • Peggy 2009/08/21 15:59:49
    It depends on who they are....
    Peggy
    +1
    Depends on who it is and if I do not go I give less because they do not have to pay for me to eat. Out of twn relitives, yes, I send a gift.
  • Jcap ~ Peace ~ 2009/08/21 14:32:21
    Yes, I would....
    Jcap ~ Peace ~
    +1
    First, I wouldn't RSVP and not attend....unless something dreadful kept me away.

    I would definitely send a gift, the same amount as I would give had I attended.

    I don't often get invited to weddings for people I don't care for,so I even send a gift if I RSVP that I can't attend.
  • Maddie 2009/08/21 11:47:37
    Yes, I would....
    Maddie
    +1
    I always send a gift even if I don't go to the wedding
  • moonpie 2009/08/21 07:59:00
    Yes, I would....
    moonpie
    +1
    definetly
  • Holliegirl11 2009/08/21 07:19:33
    Yes, I would....
    Holliegirl11
    +2
    I would still send out a gift or just give something nice at bridal shower at least
  • Gracie - Proud Conservative 2009/08/21 00:33:26
    Yes, I would....
    Gracie - Proud Conservative
    +3
    If you receive an invitation you are supposed to give a gift. At least that is the way I understand it.
  • Firekit... Gracie ... 2009/08/21 00:44:15
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +2
    Me too~
  • ☼ Homeward Bound ☼ 2009/08/20 23:50:13
    Yes, I would....
    ☼ Homeward Bound ☼
    +2
    Yes....
  • Yes, I would....
    spidermonkey™POTL~PWCM~JLA☮Paul
    +2
    Yes I would..........
  • Firekit... spiderm... 2009/08/20 23:33:31
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +2
    When can I send you and Rover a gift?
  • MrDazzling~ 2009/08/20 22:37:33
    Yes, I would....
    MrDazzling~
    +1
    out of respect, you bet...
  • Firekit... MrDazzl... 2009/08/20 23:33:15
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +1
    Me too!
  • Pixie Lover!!!! 2009/08/20 22:33:22
    No, I would not...
    Pixie Lover!!!!
    +2
    hell na
  • **Bessie** 2009/08/20 22:31:19
    Yes, I would....
    **Bessie**
    +3
    I believe you should....they expected you and it's costly. It should be $$$$. That's my opinion!
  • Firekit... **Bessie** 2009/08/20 23:33:54
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +2
    Can't go wrong with money.
  • BONNIE 2009/08/20 22:29:50
    Yes, I would....
    BONNIE
    +3
    Yes, if they honored me with an invitation....the least I could do is send a gift!
  • Firekit... BONNIE 2009/08/21 00:44:32
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +2
    I agree Bonnie~
  • butterflygirl70 2009/08/20 22:14:15
    It depends on who they are....
    butterflygirl70
    +2
    I probably wouldn't get an extravagant or huge gift in that scenario. But I'd still probably get a card with a check or a little sweet gift.
  • Kate 2009/08/20 22:09:29
    Yes, I would....
    Kate
    +3
    I was taught to send a gift regardless of whether I intend to attend or not. I would think that IF you RSVP that you are going to attend then for some reason don't it would be only polite to inform the couple (or the bride's parents at least) that you are not going to attend so that they will not include you in the head count and send a gift. When my sister got married there were several people who RVSP'd they would attend knowing there would be a sit down dinner and dance then did not attend and did not have the courtesy let anyone know that they would not be there. One whole family (parents & 3 kids) called at the last minute the night before the wedding to say that they would be able to attend then didn't show up. The adult male decided that it would be good weather to play golf so he went golfing instead. As a result of all these people, my folks paid for about 20 dinners that went to waste because they were prepared but not eaten. At $25 or above per head, that can get to be expensive!!!! I was shocked at how many people attended and never did even send a card much less a gift. People seem to be getting more rude every day or maybe I'm just getting old. If you RSVP that you are not going to attend then I guess it would depend on how close you are to the couple. Emily Post's Rules of Ettiquitte have been flushed down the toilet it seems.
  • Hula girl - Friends not Fol... 2009/08/20 22:00:12
    Yes, I would....
    Hula girl - Friends not Followers
    +3
    More than ever and it should include a monetary gift that covers more than the cost of the dinner besides the gift. If you RSVP and don't go you just cost the bride & groom the cost of your dinners because no shows are charged. I have been a wedding planner and event planner (and now planning our own wedding) for years and know full well the costs of what a bride and groom pays for. Expect that they are paying between min. $50 - $100 per person for your dinner...even if you don't show.

    Gift should be just that....a gift and not part of the dinner money that should be included.
  • Firekit... Hula gi... 2009/08/20 22:04:07
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +4
    Great point. I remember when I got married. We had guest there that did not even leave us a gift or a gift of money. I thought that was pretty shitty of them
  • Dark Knight 2009/08/20 21:59:39
    Yes, I would....
    Dark Knight
    +2
    Twice the estimated "plate" price / guest is pretty customary around here, or so my wife says! Personally, I'd rather invite the bride over later for McDonalds, give her a soft pat on the butt and wish her well - but, that's just the romantic in me, I guess!
  • Firekit... Dark Kn... 2009/08/20 22:04:38
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +4
    Oh yeah Ted your wife would love that.LOL
  • Dark Kn... Firekit... 2009/08/20 22:19:34
    Dark Knight
    +2
    40+ years - hasn't it been a surprise?
  • Firekit... Dark Kn... 2009/08/20 23:34:31
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +2
    LOL...
  • secretmoon 2009/08/20 21:59:23
    Yes, I would....
    secretmoon
    +1
    My mom taught me manners to do so.
  • Firekit... secretmoon 2009/08/20 22:04:49
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +3
    Great!
  • Big daddy 2009/08/20 21:58:49
    Yes, I would....
    Big daddy
    +5
    i always do...
  • Firekit... Big daddy 2009/08/20 22:04:59
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +4
    As we all should.
  • Moderated 2009/08/20 21:56:38
    Yes, I would....
    Moderated
    +2
    I've done that before. The type of gift usually depends on how well I know them.
  • Firekit... Moderated 2009/08/20 22:05:10
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +3
    Yes true.
  • kahless 2009/08/20 21:56:16
    Yes, I would....
    kahless
    +2
    It is proper to do so.
  • Firekit... kahless 2009/08/20 22:05:20
    Firekitty ∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞
    +3
    I totally agree.

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