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If you are in a long term relationship but your partner does not want to live with you, does that mean that he/she doesn't care enough for you?

hatshepsut123 2010/05/31 23:08:10
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  • Autumn 2010/06/04 14:11:25
    Autumn
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    I would think they didn't care enough about me, that they are being selfish. and they are probably hidding something from me. I would not stay in a relationship with someone like that because I would never trust them.
  • Jason~Art is Life~RWAC 2010/06/02 00:46:48
    Jason~Art is Life~RWAC
    +1
    I think that he/she may have commitment issues but perhaps do care about you. There are man things they may be taking into account. It also depends on how long the relationship has lasted. If it’s been five plus years I would be hurt by it.
  • babydracula 2010/06/02 00:10:29
    babydracula
    +1
    It seems more he/she doesnt care anymore. Wings, good wind...
  • Nick~believe ^MOTOOP^ 2010/06/01 19:49:53
    Nick~believe ^MOTOOP^
    +2
    That depends. If they are not living with you and want to marry you, but won't live with you unless you're married, that would generally be, I think, a moral issue to do with religious beliefs. My wife lived with me before we were married, and I had a difficult time trying to convince her that we should actually get married.
  • gwts 2010/06/01 18:22:27
    gwts
    +2
    it can mean that...but it doesn't have to. some people just need more space for themselves than others....for example when i was in school, 2 of my teachers were married to each other but still they were living in seperate apartments....and it worked well for them....some people just can't stand living together with somebody...and moving together with them would ruin the relationship.
  • hatshep... gwts 2010/06/01 19:23:39
    hatshepsut123
    +1
    that is weird lol
  • gwts hatshep... 2010/06/01 19:35:03
    gwts
    +1
    I know...but well....who says that couples have to live together? ;)
  • hatshep... gwts 2010/06/01 19:37:10
    hatshepsut123
    +1
    they really don't have to. :)
  • gwts hatshep... 2010/06/02 04:16:48
    gwts
    +1
    exactly...I think we're just so used to "follow the norm" that we forget that nowhere is written that it can't go without ;)
  • Annie 2010/06/01 14:19:19
    Annie
    +1
    i think that it just means that maybe the one who doesn't want to live together with its partner it's just afraid of life in two...or need/must have a space just for him to be alone
  • hatshep... Annie 2010/06/01 19:23:55
    hatshepsut123
    i think so too
  • StopDecomp 2010/06/01 06:18:32
    StopDecomp
    +1
    Not at all. I am that person. I need space.
  • Foxylady 2010/06/01 05:41:28
    Foxylady
    +1
    It depends. It can mean that, and on the other hand. He or she could just not be ready for that next step.. But doesn't mean they don't care for you..
  • ©TransAmTam~Metal Queen \m/ 2010/06/01 05:03:18
  • icymore 2010/06/01 04:23:49
    icymore
    +2
    It may just mean they prefer to live alone. That's not necessarily a bad thing.
  • Pl icymore 2010/06/01 05:18:28
    Pl
    then why be considered as a couple. Go with the "friend with benefits".
  • icymore Pl 2010/06/01 05:20:41
    icymore
    +1
    Not all couples live together. Living together isn't what makes you a couple.
  • Lee The Hybrid Snowflake 2010/06/01 02:42:15
    Lee The Hybrid Snowflake
    +3
    I think it means they have commitment issues!
  • Huki68 2010/06/01 00:37:52 (edited)
    Huki68
    +1
    I love my wife and in any cirscunstance I wanna leave apart from her and vice- versa. Sometimes people want space, time to think thru, yet everything depend on the individual, not always means that the person don;'t care enough for you, they might care for you as friend , yet not as lover, you need to place here what is going on, why the partner want to move out and what really happenned.
  • Treasure ♥ijm♥ 2010/06/01 00:00:15
    Treasure ♥ijm♥
    +1
    I don't know...I didn't live with the first guy before we married but we lasted 18 yrs. I am about to move in with my sweetie now that I have known for a year....we plan on getting married and just want to be together. Maybe it depends on the persons involved too.
  • Shelly 2010/05/31 23:59:32
    Shelly
    +1
    Not necessarily. I am in a long term relationship with my partner, but I won't move in with him because he has a very small one bedroom apartment at the moment and to be honest my stuff wouldn't fit in there on top of his. Current logistical issue, but sometime in the next year or two when we can afford a bigger place, I wouldn't be against it.
  • twocrows 2010/05/31 23:41:05
    twocrows
    +2
    these days, there are all sorts of reasons why people in a committed relationship may choose to live apart. most of them have to do with separate career patterns -- but others exist as well.
  • Weegee ~ PHAET 2010/05/31 23:26:56
    Weegee ~ PHAET
    +1
    I've been with my gf for 2 1/2 years now. I'll be moving in August to go to University, unfortunately we are both quite young 17. I don't feel ready or mature enough to get married.

    Her family are quite apposed to her moving in with me unless we are married. I've asked her and she wants to, but it would cause a rift with her Father in particular and I don't want to be the cause of that. We'll see how things pan out, but I want her to come with me.
  • hatshep... Weegee ... 2010/05/31 23:29:23
    hatshepsut123
    +1
    yes you are too young...and i know how it feels to live in such a conservative society.
  • Shelly Weegee ... 2010/06/01 00:02:00
    Shelly
    +2
    Even with older couples, it's easier to not upset anyone if you move in with your fiancee vs. moving in with a boyfriend/girlfriend.
  • ~HopelessRomanticM17~ 2010/05/31 23:26:51
    ~HopelessRomanticM17~
    +1
    Not necesarily
  • Barefoot Peace and Love∞ijm... 2010/05/31 23:14:35
    Barefoot Peace and Love∞ijm♥☮♥∞
    +2
    That would make me wonder?? For sure!!
  • hatshep... Barefoo... 2010/05/31 23:20:27
  • Barefoo... hatshep... 2010/05/31 23:30:33
    Barefoot Peace and Love∞ijm♥☮♥∞
    +2
    ♥♥♥
  • hatshep... Barefoo... 2010/05/31 23:33:58
    hatshepsut123
    +1
    :) *hugs*
  • Barefoo... hatshep... 2010/06/01 21:06:08
    Barefoot Peace and Love∞ijm♥☮♥∞
    +1
    thank you;)
  • Philo-Publius 2010/05/31 23:14:20
    Philo-Publius
    +3
    It 100% absolutely means that, yes.

    I let a couple girls live with me before I got married (I'd like that do it now, too, but my wife won't allow it)... but, anyway, if I was into a girl, it just seemed the natural thing to do within a very short span of time (like weeks or a few months)...

    If a girl and guy have been dating for more than a few months and aren't living together, I hate to say it, but there's probably nothing there. : (
  • hatshep... Philo-P... 2010/05/31 23:20:16 (edited)
    hatshepsut123
    +4
    few mounths? that is a short relationship where i live lol

    people have a different points of view here, much more conservative than yours in America, i just realized, maybe i shouldn't ask this question here lol

    nevermind
  • Philo-P... hatshep... 2010/05/31 23:27:28
    Philo-Publius
    +2
    That's a good point. American values are pretty bad, lol.

    A five month relationship here is considered a 'long-term relationship'. I'm sorry, hon. I wish I could have been more helpful. : (

    Love you! : )
  • hatshep... Philo-P... 2010/05/31 23:33:09
    hatshepsut123
    +2
    no worries, my thoughts are almost clear on this, i just wanted some opinions

    love you too :)
  • Annie 2010/05/31 23:10:19
    Annie
    +2
    No, I think it means the opposite. It means that they do really care about you. I have heard that couple who do not move in with each other till after marriage they have like an 80% better chance of staying with each other in the long run.
  • JJ 2010/05/31 23:10:11
    JJ
    +1
    maybe they just aren't ready for it yet.
  • Airsoftprosquad 2010/05/31 23:09:53
    Airsoftprosquad
    +1
    depends on how long you been with them
  • LEAHCIM368~POTL~RWAC... 2010/05/31 23:08:39
    LEAHCIM368~POTL~RWAC...
    +3
    kind da seems that way!!

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