If and when you have kids, do you think you will or have raised them the same way as you were raised?

Pretty much.My kids are all grown but when they were coming up and a situation arose I remember I would say to my self "How would my dad handle this?"I would get the answer then temper it with my personality and act accordingly.And if I must say so myself,I think I did a pretty good job.My kids are all well adjusted and happy.

No I didn't raise them exactly like I was raised. Some areas we shared. But I was more we will say family oriented then my parents were. I spent a lot more time and talked more to my children then my mother or father did to me.

And no....I never told my kids "Because I said so" ..I always gave them a reason for why I wouldn't allow something...I always hated it when my parents told me this so I refused to ever give that answer...if you have a good reason for this or that then kids are easier to convince it is for their own good.

The methods that I think are good when I was raised as a child, I will try to replicate..

Other methods that I think can be improved, I will try to do better.

Although I STILL hate my parents for how sheltered I was...there will be MANY similarities if I ever have children! The major difference is that I would want my children to understand the difference between religion and ethics...that the reason they might end up in religious school would be so that they have morals and ethics around them without as much temptation for things that they can do later in life! I would want them to understand that religion isn't what makes people people, it is a teaching that allows people to learn about morality! As long as they can keep that seperate from their political views and so on, I am fine with raising them the way I was...STRICT, LOVING SINGLE PARENT, MORALS BEING IMPORTANT!

but with more hugs, lolipops, and puppies

I incorporated most of what my parents did. We were well cared-for and knew we were loved. We didn't get everything we wished for (that's a good thing) and life had a rhythm to it with order; not chaos. I hope I listened more and told them they were good boys (when they weren't misbehaving!) more.

I will never raise my children the way I was raised. I am the man I am today because of my wife, not because of my parents. They did the best they could, but I suffered a terrible childhood and I will never put my children through that.

Same story for me. I tell everyone that my husband saved me.

ii'm just the man

I will not raise my children the same way I was. My parents tried but I think they did a terrible job.

My husband had a really rough time and he and his sibs were eventually removed from their mothers' care-he says it was the best thing that could have happened. I had to learn to be really patient with him in some things and realize he didn't have it as good as I did. He is an amazing father in spite of the awful example he saw.

I think there is a handful of people who had it bad tend to be good parents because they make sure their children have it better than what they did.

Yes. I knew he was a good dad, but I've been hearing comments (both personal and professionals that worked with with our kids) the last few years about what an OUTSTANDING father he is. I think some people rise above the tragedies in their lives and some use it as a perpetual excuse for bad behavior. It shows a lot of character to bring good out of the bad you've experienced.