I think this is being rude.. Is it?

by Dragon Posted 2012/07/18 23:13:50

Related Topics: Boyfriend, Word, Words, shell, Years, Year

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	Yes it's rude.	15 votes	25%
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	None of the above	17 votes	29%

I asked my boyfriend if I looked like a guy. When he replied I didn't know if it was rude or not. His exact words were: I'm pretty sure you're not. As for look..ehh! I don't know maybe in a couple of more years you well look like a bomb shell. ;) right now. I don't think.. That is just wrong for me if you do. So should I take it as rude, or not?

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Muver 2012/07/18 23:20:24

No it's not rude.

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It's the truth as he sees it...he could have been more tackful, but I'm sure he hasn't got a clue you feel insulted...
Do you think you look like a guy, due to how you dress, or your hair, or how you act???
If you do, then change it if you want to...then you might not have to ask that question..
Whatever, apparently it doesn't bother him, since he is still your boyfriend..
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rebecca 2012/08/17 16:24:20

All of the above

idk if it is or not

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SoulGlowActivatur 2012/07/25 21:55:16

Yes it's rude.

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That is like the number one thing you never say to a woman. He can take some manner classes and grow up.

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D.C.Verdone 2012/07/20 20:38:07

No it's not rude.

It was a little insensitive. Because if he thinks you would be beautiful "bomb shell" when you are older then it must mean you are pretty now.

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Raphy 2012/07/19 18:56:17

All of the above

Man. He is not good at lying. Maybe he thought your question was a joke or something. I probably would have answered the same....lol

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Steve 2012/07/19 04:39:00

All of the above

He's also around 15? Then his comments are totally normal for a guy of that age. That is to say, awkward and clueless. You want a guy who's thoughtful, classy, funny, and knows how to compliment? You'll probably have to wait 20 years.

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FAWKES' NOOSE ~ ΔTX 2012/07/19 04:34:02

Yes it's rude.

Well if he thinks you look like a guy you could always turn it around and accuse him of having latent homosexual tendencies.

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Eyes See Wide North 2012/07/19 02:43:25

No it's not rude.

Honesty is not rude, not sure if what he said was completely honest though just by reading it.

Rudeness is something every person determines themselves
the same way I might be determine your boyfriend as lying when hes not, someone might decide someone is being rude when there not.

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★earthbound_misfit★ 2012/07/19 02:43:15

None of the above

It wouldn't be rude coming from someone else, but if he isn't totally happy with the way you look, then why is he dating you? I would break up with this guy.

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Dweezle 2012/07/19 02:32:20

None of the above

You asked, He answered.

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Heisenberg 2012/07/19 02:27:28

No it's not rude.

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No, it's not rude. When you're fishing for a compliment, this stuff is bound to happen.

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Me 2012/07/19 02:03:20

Yes it's rude.

a little,,,but hes being honest soooo

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rereblue 2012/07/19 01:57:05

No it's not rude.

It's the truth, and he said it... decently, not mean or anything. If you don't want to hear the answer dont ask the question.

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malikasecrets 2012/07/19 01:55:34

None of the above

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My guess is that your question put him in an awkward position. You did ask the question for what ever reason. Does does you looking more masculine or feminine have to be the most important question in your relationship? is it enough that he likes you enough to be your boyfriend Let it go. be happy with who you are and learn to ask questions that don't put him on the spot.

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Julian 2012/07/19 01:49:52

No it's not rude.

Don't ask the question if you don't want to hear the answer. If he didn't like the way you look, I don't think he'd be dating you, and hey, at least he's honest.

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♠♠♠JeLLo♠♠♠ 2012/07/19 01:26:17

None of the above

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You caught him off guard he didn't know what to say. If he thinks you look like a man you need to worry about whether or not he's straight. Bottom line is, if he wants to be seen with you in public he thinks your cute. Don't ask him questions like this again.

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SlaveWaterNymph 2012/07/19 01:18:07

None of the above

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how about worrying about real things instead of this stuff.

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Lord Emperor of Dune 2012/07/19 01:17:19

None of the above

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A 15-year-old (or so) boy just doesn't possess the skills necessary to talk to girls with any modicum of tact. Well, most of the time... He could have put it to you better, but the fact that he felt comfortable enough with you to be honest should be taken as a compliment. You just need to train him up haha

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James 2012/07/19 01:16:11

No it's not rude.

Especially considering we have no idea what you look like to base it on.

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Marcie Darkheart 2012/07/19 01:08:39

All of the above

Well it's rude, but it's how he sees you. Maybe it was even a joke if you think about it, why would your boyfriend tell you that? 0.o

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boss hawg 2012/07/19 00:50:39

All of the above

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maybe you're a diamond in the rough. and he can see the diamond. but he sounds like a dick.

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Elizabeth 2012/07/19 00:47:17

Yes it's rude.

becuase he probably deep down meant it.

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LoverDearest 2012/07/19 00:45:40

No it's not rude.

He's just teasing you, boys, whatcha gonna do?

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John Hall 2012/07/19 00:21:29

No it's not rude.

My favorite thing to say if your not ready for a honest answear don't ask . Maybe he needs to be more tactful with the answear .

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Tom R 007 2012/07/19 00:17:16

None of the above

It's an old cliche, but it's not what he said but how he said it. I joked with my ex all the time. I never said she looked like a dude, but then again she never asked me if she looked like one. If she had I probably would've made a joke about it because that's my personality. She would've understood this though. Does he joke around a lot?

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METALheadMom 2012/07/19 00:14:25

No it's not rude.

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I've never quite figured out WHY people ask these kinds of questions, then get all bent out of shape when people answer them with their truths. IF all you wanted was for him to compliment you, then you should have told him you needed an ego boost.

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Absynthe, Lady of Snakes 2012/07/19 00:11:26

No it's not rude.

Seems like he was just being really honest with you.

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LunarRain 2012/07/19 00:00:11

Yes it's rude.

You're 15 he shouldn't be saying maybe in a few years you'll look girly maybe that would be ok if you were like 12, atleast that's what I think.

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Fashionable60s 2012/07/18 23:52:35

Yes it's rude.

You need to build up your self esteem and self confidence so that you do not ask a turkey if you look like a guy. Once you have built up your self esteem and confidence, you choose however looks you want to have and own it proudly. At 15 you are too young to have a serious relationship with a boy. You need to concentrate on your studies and go out with lots of casual friends. Go to work and get rid of him. There's lot of fish in the sea once the time is right. Good luck.

P.S.

At 15 I looked like a boy and nobody ever asked me to dance. It did not worry me, I just worked hard on myself. Yes, my efforts paid off nicely.

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Linnster 2012/07/18 23:49:01

None of the above

First of all, we aren't able to hear the tone of his voice or see the expression on his face when he said that. Second, there aren't many 15 year old girls who can be classified as "bombshells." I think a more mature gal is more likely to be called that. Clearly, if he thought you were a beast, he wouldn't be dating you and last, if you ask a question, you had better be prepared to hear an honest answer. If not - don't ask.

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GothicaVende††aSquiggles\(#... 2012/07/18 23:48:25

None of the above

$GothicaVende††aSquiggles\(#_#)/$

Not really, I guess. Maybe a makeover is needed...

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Lord Emperor Kami Guro Bage... 2012/07/18 23:47:51

None of the above

I'm not sure.... its a bit insensitive

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Cinna 2012/07/18 23:45:26

No it's not rude.

+1
It's not rude, you're just dating a ditz.

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Changeling 2012/07/18 23:43:03

No it's not rude.

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You asked and he answered. IIf anything he thinks you are attractive enough to date and feels you will be even better looking in the future

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.: LiVi :. 2012/07/18 23:43:00

Yes it's rude.

Insensitive, though I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings. He sounds insensitive to the point of moronic. You need to find yourself a boyfriend who makes you feel good about yourself. If a guy said that to me, I would get rid of him immediately, he's not worth it. You don't ever need a boyfriend who makes you feel bad about yourself, no exceptions.

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Jasmin 2012/07/18 23:39:00

Yes it's rude.

i would have told him mean things about his appearence

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METALhe... to Jasmin 2012/07/19 00:27:40

Yea, that's the best way to communicate your feelings - get mad and intentionally hurt him in the name of "fairness". Wrong. Treat others like you WANT to be treated. Being a nasty bit**, means your a nasty bit** - and a flaming hypocrite. NOT a good choice to play when you want someone to care about you.

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Jasmin to METALhe... 2012/07/19 02:38:13

mad much bro. i get it but im not about to sit around like a bimbo and listen to my significant other insult me. besides he shouldnt have said anything mean in the first place it could have just been a simple no or yes. hello listen to yourself "treat others like you want to be treated" if he treats me like that ima treat him how he treated me. if he wants to go get specific about what he thinks i can be specific too, and considering my relationship has lasted over 4 years so far i think im doing just fine with him besides he and i know when were playing with eachother so if i do say something back to him most likely im joking and he already knows it you have no room to be calling me a bit** if you dont even know me.

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me being me 2012/07/18 23:38:45

Yes it's rude.

Ouch.

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Moonage 2012/07/18 23:38:00

No it's not rude.

From a guy's perspective, why would you think he'd date someone who looked like a guy? That means you think he might be gay ( not that there's anything wrong with that. ). Rude, not so much. Harsh, maybe.

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Jersey Roze ♥Jwon's Cyar'ika ♥ 2012/07/18 23:35:24

None of the above

It's honest...

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