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I just witnessed a serious situation and I need everyone's opinion, however negative ones stay away.. not in the mood at all. Constructive criticism is welcome though just no name calling or anything as such

⚜3rd Street Boss⚜ 2012/06/07 01:58:51
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Okay so I'm listening to music and my dad asks if I liked the song I was listening to I said yes and he asked why I was getting smart. Before that though I asked "Yes, why?" and then started claiming that. I'm like "OMG" and continue. He asks how my cheating cousin was doing on Facebook because she is running her mouth about our family after cheating on his best friend with somebody on Facebook. I shrug my shoulders and say "I haven't been there" and then he claims I ignored him and starts cussing and yelling as loud as he could saying I'm disrespectful for not answering but I did with a shrug and said that I hadn't been on Facebook too much. He threatened to take my computer and Internet away and was using my glass for a drink of milk with dinner and slung it and broke it to pieces. My mom was crying and scared to death. I didn't say anything because I knew what he was doing-- drinking alcohol. Quite frankly I cannot take it anymore. People are giving me trouble in real life, on an online forum, I'm very occupied with shit right now, I can't take much more because I quit Karate and Zen which was a big source of handling my stress and emotions other than talking to my fiancee. I don't know what I did wrong but then all this happened. He apologized but I want to disown them.. all of my family. I've taken enough of this in my life.. it has been far worse than this before, far worse. I need to know what everyone's opinion is on this. I want to move out so badly now.. get a part time thing, see this man to publish my book at a cheap price, then move to New York City to pursue my acting dream once I have enough for a car and utilities and all that. I know I should move out but the hard part of that is the economy but I just can't take much more at all.
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  • cuzzbuzzla 2012/06/09 02:11:13
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    Just so you know me a bit, I'm the black sheep of my family, fiercely independent and ran away from home twice while still in high school. My advice: Follow your gut. At some point in the future you will move out, no matter what. If you can do it soon, knowing it will be tough, and your gut tells you so, do it. If biting your tongue a bit longer will make it easier to go for your dreams, take that into consideration. It took ten years, but my relationship with my Dad as an adult has been mutually respectful and great. He would never say so, but I believe my standing up for myself and moving away under circumstances similar to yours, i believe, made him respect me as much, if not more, than any of his other kids. A very prestigious US university did a study of following ones gut. Their conclusion: It's 95% right. Good luck buddy!

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  • Andrew 2012/06/11 03:20:56
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    Move out.
  • Andy Fletcher 2012/06/09 02:42:41
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    First know that it isn't you. My stepfather didn't drink, but he LOOKED for excuses to beat my brothers and I. Mostly me because I stood up for myself, even knowing the consequences. I think NY may be very expensive as a place to chase your dreams. You can continue your training on your own to an extent to find that zen. Good luck.
  • cuzzbuzzla 2012/06/09 02:11:13
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    Just so you know me a bit, I'm the black sheep of my family, fiercely independent and ran away from home twice while still in high school. My advice: Follow your gut. At some point in the future you will move out, no matter what. If you can do it soon, knowing it will be tough, and your gut tells you so, do it. If biting your tongue a bit longer will make it easier to go for your dreams, take that into consideration. It took ten years, but my relationship with my Dad as an adult has been mutually respectful and great. He would never say so, but I believe my standing up for myself and moving away under circumstances similar to yours, i believe, made him respect me as much, if not more, than any of his other kids. A very prestigious US university did a study of following ones gut. Their conclusion: It's 95% right. Good luck buddy!
  • Andy Fl... cuzzbuzzla 2012/06/09 02:46:15
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    My experience with my stepfather was similar. I moved out in the middle of my senior year and still finished high school. As an adult I gained favored son status even over his own kids. A bit of a dubious honor though, lol.
  • cuzzbuzzla Andy Fl... 2012/06/09 03:03:31
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    wow. cool. thanks for sharing. and yes, absolutely a double-edged sword...
  • Princess Luna 2012/06/09 00:13:09
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    your life is hitting a rough patch and you dont know what to do............. what ever you do is going to have pros and cons to the next part of your life and as for disowning all your family i think thats going a little far but takeing a step back and looking at it from there point of vew can help some times. as for your fathers drinking that is somthing he has to over come by him self and for your mother try talking to her to calm her down
  • P. Sturm 2012/06/09 00:03:14
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    I don't know, I can't see the entire dynamic, and it's too easy to be wrong in such a complex area. Generally, I'd say move in with a friend if you can, if your sure he won't turn on your mom if you do.
  • Noodle :3 2012/06/08 04:30:59
    You should do this...
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    Get out of the house!
  • ⚜3rd St... Noodle :3 2012/06/08 04:36:43
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    Soon as I get enough green stuff
  • Noodle :3 ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/08 04:40:15
  • sally 2012/06/08 03:45:22
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    Honey you have to get out of that house as soon as possible. You should find a friend or get your mom to help you get your dad in rehab. But most importantly you should find another outlet to let out your emotions. Personally I use my writing and tennis the most but you need to find something to calm yourself so you don't end up blowing up when your dad lashes out on you during one of his episodes.

    I hope you have some friends that can help you at least get away from that environment.
  • ⚜3rd St... sally 2012/06/08 03:52:00
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    Thanks :) Only reason I didn't lash back out was because of my fiancee.. I actually have her to thank otherwise I'd have done some stuff to be at the police station. I gotta think of my future wifey always and forever <33
  • lstl5 2012/06/07 22:41:47
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    Have you tried alanon? My mom went to meetings because my brother was an alcoholic and it helped her alot. He was living with her at the time, but he wasnt abusive. I am so sorry for your pain and anger.
  • ⚜3rd St... lstl5 2012/06/07 22:49:03
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    Haven't tried it. And thanks, I'll get through
  • kyle 2012/06/07 21:45:43
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    why dont you move out
  • ⚜3rd St... kyle 2012/06/07 22:09:30
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    Financial stuff :/ I think my novel that is finished would bring in quite the bunch because it is a genre most everybody likes and it actually has hidden messages in it as well, but if I get a job I can only do part time
  • kyle ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/07 22:22:38
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    thats cool that you did a book
  • ⚜3rd St... kyle 2012/06/07 22:49:29
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    Thanks :) Think of it as GTA Vice City and Scarface mixed into one novel.. the action and storyline
  • Mikel_mad2002 2012/06/07 18:27:17
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    Could you stay with a friend?
  • ⚜3rd St... Mikel_m... 2012/06/07 19:21:27
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    Probably, hopefully. I may consider that.. messaged Joseph last night though didn't directly tell him what I needed. I'd need a job and my own laptop and phone, got all my clothes and everything else other than those three.
  • Mikel_m... ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/09 08:14:53
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    Hope it works out for you
  • Flowers 2012/06/07 15:14:51
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    living in NYC is VERY expensive. If you are going to move there, try and find other actors/writers that want a roommate. parents suck alot of time, and they are dealing with a bunch of stress as well and don't always handle it very well. Probably would have freaked out regardless of how you answered
  • ⚜3rd St... Flowers 2012/06/07 19:22:30
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    Thanks. I'm thinking of making another Twitter because my fiancee has one and says that other famous people are actually on there, unlike Facebook where I think some are faked. There's like two celebs I'd like to get hold of, three actually
  • Flowers ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/07 20:46:21
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    There are a lot of fake celeb twitter accounts so just be careful. I got twitter because I wanted to talk to People around the country
  • Rocko 2012/06/07 11:02:00
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    i think you and your mom need to take a stand right away it only gets worse with time if you allow a pattern of victim to him he will just keep searching out his "victims" because why go anywhere else so break the cycle right away and if your mom doesnt want to you need to seek help some other way and failing all else get yourself out because drinkers dont just stop drinking but i really hope you can help you and your mom out of this
    keep your head up bro it will get better for you
  • ⚜3rd St... Rocko 2012/06/07 19:20:19
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    Thanks man :)
  • Rocko ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/07 20:54:41
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    no problem man i totally understand my dad was the same way growing up and it got extreme sometimes so thats why i say do it now dont wait whatever you do my dad had to almost kill my mom before he got the we did anything what a mistake stay in touch and pm me anytime if you wanna talk i would like to know what you decided ok
  • ⚜3rd St... Rocko 2012/06/07 21:29:49
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    Ok man and sorry to hear :(
  • Rocko ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/07 21:36:33
  • heart of love ♥♥ 2012/06/07 10:01:22
    You should do this...
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    u should run away with ur mom (not in a sex way pleze no weird comments on this) becauase if u go with out her she could get hurt!!!!!!!!!
  • ⚜3rd St... heart o... 2012/06/07 19:19:15
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    Thanks..
  • The Fantastic Kai 2012/06/07 05:40:07
  • ⚜3rd St... The Fan... 2012/06/07 05:59:41
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    I'm sorry sis
  • Kashee 2012/06/07 04:10:31
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    It is not ok that this is happening to you. Please come talk with me. I sent you an email.
  • ⚜3rd St... Kashee 2012/06/07 04:40:04
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    I recieved. Thanks for commenting, Karen
  • KarenInKenoshaWisconsin 2012/06/07 02:38:41
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    You need to talk to your mom.

    Power and Control (abuse) Wheels:
    http://www.ncdsv.org/publicat...

    Equality (Non Abusive) Wheels:
    http://www.ncdsv.org/publicat... Offers a long list of Equality wheels, some of them adapted to specific situations
    httpwww ncdsv orgpublicat offers list equality wheels adapted specific situations
    (a teen equality wheel)
    http://www.bluegrassrapecrisi... shows both Power and

    Lots of links on abuse:
    http://www.cyberparent.com/ab...
  • ⚜3rd St... KarenIn... 2012/06/07 02:41:44
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    Talking to her is a lot better than with him, and I will talk to her
  • KarenIn... ⚜3rd St... 2012/06/07 14:50:41
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    I wish you luck.
  • blissful 2012/06/07 02:25:48
    You should do this...
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    If you are a troubled Teen who is having trouble in his/her home. You can go thru your teacher/counselor at your school. They will give you resources to help find a way out. Don't let anyone in the family know what you are doing, except the one's who you know you can trust or who may need to go with you..
  • ⚜3rd St... blissful 2012/06/07 02:28:18
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    Thanks for commenting. I'm 20 so I don't know if child services can help.. upcoming birthday marks official adulthood for pracitcally everything. I wanted to move out last year if I could've done something with my book. It is gonna be done soon so.. I have a bit of high hopes.. hoping to get somewhere

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