Husband's pissed at me??? God let my life just end......

by spidermonkey™POTL~PWCM~JLA☮Paul Posted 2011/08/10 01:32:28

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It started last night when I didn't have dinner cooked.... (I'm guessing that's what set him off)... I wasn't home when he got home tonight... I was at grocery store... when I walked in he was pissed... so pissed he couldn't even look at me.....I think he hates me deep down............I don't think he's ever really loved me.......

Walking on glass tonight..... if he starts yelling at me or the boys I'm out of here... I can't take this tension and crap anymore.......
I'm going to take some sleeping pills and just go to sleep..........I'm fucking tired of it.
I can't do anything right..........

yelling boys nbsp tension crap sleeping pills sleep fucking tired

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AndyPeterson 2011/08/10 02:07:53

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Your married to a controller. Every thing you do is wrong.He wont change.He'll just get worst..He needs anger management.You and your boys need to get help to.There are programs out there that will help you.You might start with your family first?What ever you decide good luck and god be with you. Andy
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CharlesG BN-0 2011/08/29 20:52:40

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I just found this... Maybe it was dinner, probably wasn't. Rageaholics find excuses to lose their tempers. Insecurity rules their world.

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spiderm... to Charles... 2011/08/29 23:52:46

That's very true........when it hits him, it's usually over nothing at all........it's crazy.......things have been okay since I posted this.....cross my fingers!

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JB from T.C.~ Ijm ~∞ijm♥G☮F♀U∞ 2011/08/19 13:19:04 (edited)

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Hey Girlfriend! It has been a long time since we met up on SH. I just came across your post and was wishing we were living closer so we could sit and talk. But we don't so this is going to have to do. Please find yourself a counselor, and a counselor for the boys. You may not see it but the boys are going through the same thing you are. " walking on egg shells around him."
Do this for your boys they depend on you to keep them safe and to make the right decisions. Your husband needs help but that is his place to receive it. Take care of the boys and you. I'm here if you ever need to talk.

I shall keep your and your boys in my prayers.

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spiderm... to JB from... 2011/08/19 13:26:04

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Thank you so much sweet friend!!

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kfallslady 2011/08/18 01:49:10

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Please think of your kids and you... get help get away, You and your kids need to get away, he is controlling. God Bless

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spiderm... to kfallslady 2011/08/18 02:41:54

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thank you.......things have settled down.....

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Paradox25 2011/08/13 01:53:27

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I generally do not like responding to such personal questions and I'm not even aware of all of the circumstances involved here but do what you have to do to get by this and DON"T end it over this or you will end up destroying your kids lives not to mention your own.

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spiderm... to Paradox25 2011/08/13 06:20:39

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Thank you for your response and concern........

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permial 2011/08/12 06:58:19

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Welcome to real life. It sucks. I'm a three time loser (yes, three ex's). It all blows and we do what we can to stay alive. Just keep breathing and it'll be ok eventually. You've got the SodaHead community and you can find me on reddit.com

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spiderm... to permial 2011/08/12 22:51:44 (edited)

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Aww man......3x...........if this one ends, I will never remarry........marriage just isn't what it used to be......times have changed and it's I think it's harder for people to stay together these days....
thanks permial.....

I went to reddit.com... how do I find you?

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jackolantyrn356 2011/08/10 23:12:18

Don't do the Pills. Is this nasty behavior a new behavior of his? If it is you need to get out of his hands You need to "Shelter" or live somewhere else. Do not let him know where. Close your joint account I guess he's not the one to be working. ?
Ok, if he is a long time person who is there with a chip on the shoulder..
My best guess is that he's beaten you .... not a good sign.
Call a shelter in your town get the help and take their advice. You're a good girl. You don't need this.

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danila777 2011/08/10 18:19:30

If he was hungry enough he would have found something to eat. That's what I tell my husband. From what you say he is the controlling type and you enable him. Try giving him a little of his own medicine and then you will see that he starts changing.

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Stella Bella 2011/08/10 17:43:38

The problem isn't you, the problem is him. I can only imagine how insecure he will begin to make his boys feel if he needs to walk around seething and being angry all the time.

Get out...Get out...Get out.

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Bronar 2011/08/10 16:59:13

Time to bail! No amount of counseling is going to change a man tlike that.

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Smartgirl 2011/08/10 16:12:32

i had a bf like that no matter what i did he would never be please and their is always something i didnt do right or something i didnt do i know how you feel

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Dave 2011/08/10 15:40:00

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Take a deep breath and start making your contingency plans......
Life is too short to live like that.
You have those boys to keep safe.
And make sure he can't see your computer.

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Bill in Niantic 2011/08/10 15:21:32

Don't YOU quit life. There are better things and people than the creep you have. Get out, far away, and take the kids with you. You must have family and friends that can help you get a new start.
But this creep shouldn't treat anyone like you say he treats you.

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amazinggrace 2011/08/10 14:38:27

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Sounds like my first husband, get out while you still can.

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SweetTemptation 2011/08/10 14:19:16

I've been in that situation before, thought about leaving, but that wouldn't do any good. My mother always told me it takes two to make a marriage and two to break it. I stuck it out, when he tried to control me, I would just ignore it and walk away, I know that's very hard to do, but I did it and it worked. We stayed together and he treats me so much better. I showed him that I was a person with feelings and he wasn't going to browbeat me any longer. It worked for me, but it may not work for you.

But good luck with whatever you decide. But stay away from those pills, that won't do anyone any good. Remember you have two very precious boys that depend on you.

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bags 2011/08/10 13:33:06

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Lots of smartass men on this thread. The top comment is absolutely the right answer. Children learn what they see.....and they see a Dad that doesn't respect their Mother (and kids see that as a representation of women in general). They will not respect you, and they will not respect their wives/girlfriends either - perpetuating the cycle.

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dandieselonian 2011/08/10 11:42:08

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most men can be reasoned with tell him how you feel and get a set of handcuffs and cuff him up while he sleeps then as he awakes attack him sexually

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Carlo 2011/08/10 11:28:48

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Shoot the bastard and say you thought it was an intruder. You got a 50% chance of getting away with it and getting his life insurance.

This suggestion is not intended to promote, cure or otherwise solve any problems, and has not been evaluated or approved by the FDA

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Mr.Steve 2011/08/10 11:17:27
spiderm... to Mr.Steve 2011/08/12 00:52:12

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He is all those things and more......but he controls himself most of the time........most of the time things are okay...

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Mr.Steve to spiderm... 2011/08/12 09:44:53
Doc. J 2011/08/10 09:59:56

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Get out.
Life is too damn short to put up with that.

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spiderm... to Doc. J 2011/08/12 00:51:46

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Thank you Doc..........you are right!

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tom C to spiderm... 2011/08/15 21:40:01

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my guess ......its your kids that are keeping you there right now..

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spiderm... to tom C 2011/08/16 02:35:12

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Very much......

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Lady Whitewolf 2011/08/10 09:13:59

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Sounds like THAT boy needs a can of Whoop Ass opened up on him....

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spiderm... to Lady Wh... 2011/08/12 00:51:31

I don't know......anger just feeds anger and makes it worse.........that's why I don't fight with him......

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sigh 2011/08/10 08:03:42

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it doesn't sound like any of that is your fault, you need to get out

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spiderm... to sigh 2011/08/12 00:50:49

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Things are pretty good most of the time........he loves his boys and he struggles to give them things and spent time with them.......that's why he hasn't left me.........or I him........but I'm sure the time is coming..........I just don't know what's right anymore.......but I'm not going to let me blame me and make me feel inferior.........that cycle is over.......

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sigh to spiderm... 2011/08/12 04:24:02

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i hope things start going better for you, marital problems are the worst

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spiderm... to sigh 2011/08/12 04:42:51

Marriage can suck!! I'm so tired of having to answer to someone......

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Anna E 2011/08/10 07:13:23

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He's made his problem yours. I'd write him a note including the phone numbers of places that help with these kinds of problems and then leave.

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spiderm... to Anna E 2011/08/12 00:49:11

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It's a bit Obsessive Complusive and just a control freak!!! I'll never be perfect enough for him...........he does need help, but he will never admit it......

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Anna E to spiderm... 2011/08/15 21:27:36 (edited)

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Well, Honey, that'd be up to him. But in the meantime, there's nothing wrong with you and the boys leaving; at least until (if or when) he gets his poop in a group. It's definitely healthier for the kids and you. Abuse is abuse. Don't put up with it.

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spiderm... to Anna E 2011/08/15 21:29:14

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Thank you....

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Anna E to spiderm... 2011/08/15 21:37:52

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Anytime, Hon. :)

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