How to make sex more satisfying.
Evan
2012/06/15 18:23:51
In 4 days, It will mark the 10 month mark of the magnificent time me and my significant other have been together. She is my world, and nature has bestowed her with such beauty that I am hardly deserving of. I try to be the best I can be for her, in the bedroom and outside it. I prefer to make her orgasm before worrying about my self. Im not saying it isnt satisfying, i just find myself wanting more and more when she is exhausted and ready to cuddle and fall asleep with me. She has such an incredible body that she does not like to flaunt. I just cant get enough of it. Sex is not my favorite thing about her. I love that she can be so funny she makes me laugh so hard i cry, and how the summer sun lights up her blue eyes. I know normally people in relationships have fantasies or urges, but i am somewhat reluctant to ask because I do not want her to feel she is obligated or that I want to tip the balance away from love towards sex. Which I do not. Sometimes...I just wish she was "in the mood" as much as I was. So, should I leave things as they are, which would be the least desirable, but it would be okay. Or do I suggest a little "after action" would be a nice cool down? Also, about how many times do a young adult couple engage in sex on a weekly basis?
Everyone approaches things differently, though-- I'd suggest that you find out what puts her in the mood for sex that satisfies both of you. I'd also recommend that you be a bit more vocal about your own satisfaction. It's a two-way street, and she can learn to do the things that you enjoy as well. This can avoid a lot of problems down the road.
Not sure what to tell you about the idea that you don't deserve her. Probably better get over that pretty soon. Don't know about what's 'normal' but I'd typically have sex once or twice a day when I was living with somebody. Doesn't have to be too involved-- just enough that I could think about something besides sex for the rest of the day. :O)
It's different for everyone, though. Again, you should find a comfortable compromise if you both feel dramatically different about it. It's not unreasonable in the least.
If you have a problem with your sex life, the whole relationship does. Right now, she's calling the shots.
No matter how good looking she is, there are millions of average-looking ones who REALLY know how to make it great for both of you. They're infinitely better than what you're putting up with. If she's not willing to figure out a way to make it good for you too, it might be time to move on before you make a baby together and have to put up with blue balls for the rest of your life.
Good luck to you. Really.
Just play it by ear and see how it goes. I'm not sure I even understand the problem correctly. Most of my relationships have only lasted about 6 months... so what do I know? I'm a 51 year-old bachelor. :O)