How respectful are U toward "Single Parents"?
jt
2012/04/11 17:42:40
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Are single parents equally respectable to the society? Pls discuss and share... thanks..
jt
Top Opinion
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**StarzAbove** 2012/04/11 18:57:12
It is tough going .. and those who do it faithfully are terribly underappreciated by society.
My mother had me when she was 20 and raised me as a single parent. My grandparents, aunt, and uncle helped out a lot too. But while I was growing up my mom worked 2 jobs, and went to college to get her degree in exercise science. She got a lot of crap from people for being a single mother , but she always ignored it, and treated everyone respectfully. She told me to treat everyone the way I want to be treated, and that's with respect. I think she did a good job raising me on her own, but that's just my opinion.
Benjamin Carson was born in Detroit, Michigan. His mother Sonya had dropped out of school in the third grade, and married when she was only 13. When Benjamin Carson was only eight, his parents divorced, and Mrs. Carson was left to raise Benjamin and his older brother Curtis on her own. She worked at two, sometimes three, jobs at a time to provide for her boys. Benjamin and his brother fell farther and farther behind in school. In fifth grade, Carson was at the bottom of his class. His classmates called him "dummy" and he developed a violent, uncontrollable temper. When Mrs. Carson saw Benjamin's failing grades, she determined to turn her sons' lives around. She sharply limited the boys' television watching and refused to let them outside to play until they had finished their homework each day. She required them to read two library books a week and to give her written reports on their reading even though, with her own poor education, she could barely read what they had written. Within a few weeks, Carson astonished his classmates by identifying rock samples his teacher had brought to class. He recognized them from one of the books he had read. "It was at that moment that I realized I wasn't stupid," he recalled later. Carson continued to amaze his classmates w...
Benjamin Carson was born in Detroit, Michigan. His mother Sonya had dropped out of school in the third grade, and married when she was only 13. When Benjamin Carson was only eight, his parents divorced, and Mrs. Carson was left to raise Benjamin and his older brother Curtis on her own. She worked at two, sometimes three, jobs at a time to provide for her boys.
Benjamin and his brother fell farther and farther behind in school. In fifth grade, Carson was at the bottom of his class. His classmates called him "dummy" and he developed a violent, uncontrollable temper.
Within a few weeks, Carson astonished his classmates by identifying rock samples his teacher had brought to class. He recognized them from one of the books he had read. "It was at that moment that I realized I wasn't stupid," he recalled later. Carson continued to amaze his classmates with his newfound knowledge and within a year he was at the top of his class.
The hunger for knowledge had taken hold of him, and he began to read voraciously on all subjects. He determined to become a physician, and he learned to control the violent temper that still threatened his future. After graduating with honors from his high school, he attended Yale University, where he earned a degree in Psychology.
In 1987, Carson made medical history with an operation to separate a pair of Siamese twins. The Binder twins were born joined at the back of the head. Operations to separate twins joined in this way had always failed, resulting in the death of one or both of the infants. Carson agreed to undertake the operation. A 70-member surgical team, led by Dr. Carson, worked for 22 hours. At the end, the twins were successfully separated and can now survive independently.
Carson's other surgical innovations have included the first intra-uterine procedure to relieve pressure on the brain of a hydrocephalic fetal twin, and a hemispherectomy, in which an infant suffering from uncontrollable seizures has half of its brain removed. This stops the seizures, and the remaining half of the brain actually compensates for the missing hemisphere.
Dr. Carson's books include a memoir, Gifted Hands, and a motivational book, Think Big.Carson says the letters of "Think Big" stand for the following:
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Only men, huh?
Anyhoo...
I know too many people who were abused and victimized in two parent homes to ever say or even infer that being raised in a single parent home is the sole cause.
The issue, IMO, is that many people are always looking for a single, simplistic reason for any given problem; when in reality there are often various contributing factors.
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There are worse things in life... like watching one's mother repeatedly get beaten and abused because she's too afraid to leave.
Or like households where every night is a vertiable screaming match. (I lived next door to a famliy like that once, it was SUCH a delight.)
My contention is the idea that two-parent households are just "automatically" better than single ones due to the mere presence of both parents is highly fallacious.
Quality means more than quantity is this case, and to imply that a single parent is somehow incapable of raising healthy, happy productive offspring is dismissive and unrealistic, IMO.
Not everyone can have the 'ideal' nuclear family with 2.5 kids, a dog and a white picket fence that society tells us is the "norm."
No, not everything in life comes down to worst case scenarios, but neither does it adhere to 'best case' scenarios all the time either.
Personally, I left my child's father while I was 8 months pregnant, because he was emotionally and physically abusive, and eventually someone would have died or gone to jail... and I made the choice that it wasn't going to be me.
So let random, faceless people judge me for it; IDGAF.
That was the best possible choice that I could have made for my child and myself; and I'll never regret it, regardless to any idealistic pipe dreams others may have about what a "real" family is.
That being said, to those who are lucky enough to have that idyllic 'dream family' where everything is all 'Ozzy and Harriet', count your blessings, because life doesn't always work out that way, for many of us.
All each of us can do is do the best that we can.
What is most important is the child is in a safe, secure home where he/she is allowed to grow emotionally and intellectually because one person loves that child with his/her heart and soul. Those super moms and super dads are fantastic and then some. My hat is off to you.
Lots of ppl don't wear wedding bands anymore.
So, how do you tell if it's a married person or not a married person?
you can't.
Give respect until not doing so is proven warranted.