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How mindful are you in your decision-making?

Allison Mack July 12, 2007 14:44:54

A human being is part of the whole, called by us “universe,” limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest - a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a prison, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons close to us.

Our task must be to free ourselves from our prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all humanity and the whole of nature in its beauty.

~Albert Einstein

Read Allison's latest Blog entry titled "An Einsten Blog" regarding decisions at AllisonMack.com.
I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world
I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time
I rarely take time to reflect on my decisions and how it will affect others
I let others make decisions for me, as I hate making my own. I don't really consider how those decisions made will affect others.
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  • small girl September 11, 2008 03:04:59
    small girl

    I rarely take time to reflect on my decisions and how it will affect others

    rarely reflect decisions affect
  • Lexie September 02, 2008 15:42:52
    Lexie

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

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  • Neil March 01, 2008 17:56:57
    Neil

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    Actually, I tend to think of the possible consequences of my actions; how it will affect others, before I amke the decision. Except, maybe, for purchases. LOL
  • chloesullivann February 13, 2008 05:28:43
    chloesullivann

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

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  • CrescentMoonglow February 01, 2008 19:48:29
    CrescentMoonglow

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    I consider myself to be a mindful person and try to walk as quietly on the earth as I can. I know that there are many things I do not yet know, but as I know better, I can do better.
  • Ann December 30, 2007 06:09:49
    Ann

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    I can be pretty analytical, sometimes it can get me in trouble. lol!
  • TwilightPrincess~Tamaki Suo... December 10, 2007 02:36:53
    TwilightPrincess~Tamaki Suoh <3~

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    And sometimes I ask my friends for their help, when I can't make the decision on my own.
  • tay tay August 13, 2007 19:31:35
    tay tay

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    You have to take into consideration how your decision will effect other people..
    I mean, there are times when I don't take it in to consideration... especially when I am being selfish..
    But now im at a point in my life where I can't make alot of my own decisions..
    especially since my mom is very protective...
  • LaChica (Daughter of the Ni... August 12, 2007 00:14:17
    LaChica (Daughter of the Night)

    I rarely take time to reflect on my decisions and how it will affect others

    I have a problem with acting and not thinking. It gets me in more trouble than I can handle sometimes.
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    <--That guy August 01, 2007 13:20:40
    <--That guy

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    I don't do this all the time. On small decisions, I've learned to do them automatically, but for big ones, I really like to give them plenty of thought.
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    Valkyries "In God We Trust" July 30, 2007 01:09:21
    Valkyries

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    I would love to take the first selection on this list, but than I would be a liar.
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    MAGGIE IRISH EYES July 27, 2007 01:05:22
    MAGGIE IRISH EYES

    Undecided

    I have troubles making decisions because I am ambidextrous.
  • anastacio July 18, 2007 13:40:29
    anastacio

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    its my honest opinion
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    Glenda July 17, 2007 03:19:36
    Glenda

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    Mostly I do the best I can with what I have. It's hard to weigh options when you have a screaming two year old and a four year old pulling at your skirt. But I let God guide me and I use common sense.
  • climbthetree July 16, 2007 18:34:16
    climbthetree

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    Great Survey!
  • AMarie July 16, 2007 17:45:44
    AMarie

    Undecided

    Like most things, it depends on the situation and the extent of the effect it will have on others; however, if it breaks my spirit and takes away who *I* am, I'm doing more harm to others being unhappy should *I* continue to make decisions soly on who and how it's effecting others.
  • Myles July 16, 2007 16:00:42
    Myles

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    Allison, are you happy?
  • Becky July 16, 2007 15:17:10
    Becky

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    Seeing as my husband and I have a large family to support, we weigh each important decision, and decide together on the outcome. However, I do tend to be more easygoing with unimportant decisions. That's because I would rather have a good time with my family or friends than fight over an insignificant thought like where to eat out, or what type of music that I like.
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    The Hand of John July 16, 2007 12:31:17
    The Hand of John

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    For the most part people consider their options and the consequences of them. But we don't dare to dwell too long on any one decision because paralysis can creep in and choices are often made for us after that.
  • nat =) July 16, 2007 10:19:29
    nat =)

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    I usually weigh all my options very carefully and choose the one that leads to a future I would enjoy the most, which is hardly ever the easiest way to go for me but I don't remember ever regreting any of my choices :P

    I don't think of how it will affect the world though. :P
  • CLAUDE July 15, 2007 04:43:27
    CLAUDE

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    Each day we take decisions for all our actions. The majority of decisions are easy to take. But somes decisions are an impact on others and on the futur. The impact may be good and less good for others. My decision may be good for one of my freinds and bad for the others. It's necessary to assume our decisions in the futur.
  • sheryl225 July 14, 2007 19:36:52
    sheryl225

    None of the above

    I usually take time to decide based on the best info at the time. I try to consider all possible impacts, but it is often the most practical decision that wins.
  • jerell July 14, 2007 14:44:16
    jerell

    None of the above

    I read this after I posted my comment. I don't know who actually read what I had to say but I thought this was real neat.

    Jerell

    Is the Universe Dreaming Itself?

    By Paul Levy
    Source: ResonateView.org

    When you begin to spiritually awaken, it is like waking up inside of a dream and recognizing that everything you are experiencing is nothing other than a very convincing projection, or display of your mind. The boundary between inner and outer, between dreaming and waking starts to dissolve, and you begin to realize that the same dreaming mind that is dreaming your dreams at night is dreaming your life. You realize that there is a Deeper Dreaming Self that is having a dream and we are it!

    This Deeper Dreaming Self is active in us at all times and is continually seeking to express it itself. If we recognize the dreaming process that is happening right now, we can step into it and help it unfold consciously. It will activate our own inherent process of awakening and reconnect us with ourselves.

    It is as though there is a dream that is trying to be dreamt through each and all of us -- both individually and collectively. The universe is seen as a field not separate from and through which this deeper, dreaming process is continually expressing it itself.

    Recognizing the deeper ...











































    I read this after I posted my comment. I don't know who actually read what I had to say but I thought this was real neat.

    Jerell

    Is the Universe Dreaming Itself?

    By Paul Levy
    Source: ResonateView.org

    When you begin to spiritually awaken, it is like waking up inside of a dream and recognizing that everything you are experiencing is nothing other than a very convincing projection, or display of your mind. The boundary between inner and outer, between dreaming and waking starts to dissolve, and you begin to realize that the same dreaming mind that is dreaming your dreams at night is dreaming your life. You realize that there is a Deeper Dreaming Self that is having a dream and we are it!

    This Deeper Dreaming Self is active in us at all times and is continually seeking to express it itself. If we recognize the dreaming process that is happening right now, we can step into it and help it unfold consciously. It will activate our own inherent process of awakening and reconnect us with ourselves.

    It is as though there is a dream that is trying to be dreamt through each and all of us -- both individually and collectively. The universe is seen as a field not separate from and through which this deeper, dreaming process is continually expressing it itself.

    Recognizing the deeper dream, or archetypal myth that we have been unconsciously acting out in our waking life reconnects us not only with the deeper ground of the psyche but also with other people, as everybody is seen to be fellow actors in a divine drama. It takes one's life out of a purely personal framework and gives it a deeper sense of meaning, which makes suffering so much more bearable.

    When you begin to awaken to the dream-like nature of things you realize that waking reality doesn't exist in the way you thought it did, as something separate from you. Saying it is a dream, your own projection, reflection, etc. is the same thing as saying it is nothing other than your own mind appearing in a convincing, externalized display. Everything that happens is seen to be the unmediated expression of your mind, which you now understand can just as easily express it itself in outer events as it does in inner feelings, dreams or intuitions.

    This is related to Jung's idea of synchronicity, those "meaningful coincidences," where an inner situation gets mirrored through an outer event. They are examples of where there is a fissure in reality and one gets a chance to glimpse the underlying unity.

    By saying that our waking reality is some sort of a dream, which is the same thing as saying that it is a projection of your mind, the implication is that how you view it actually effects how it appears. This is very clear in lucid dreaming, where the dream is realized to be the unmediated manifestation of your mind.

    Once you realize this, you don't become conditioned by, and react to, the reflections as something solid, real, and autonomous (as a kitten would looking in a mirror), you just recognize them as your own energy appearing externally. Your relationship to the universe changes dramatically.

    Waking reality is seen to be a manifestation of "something deeper," just like the rays of the sun are the manifestation of the sun. In the same way that the rays are not separate from the sun, but rather are a perfect expression of it, waking reality is not separate from this "something deeper" but is it itself a perfect expression of it.

    The question then becomes: what would you do if you did wake up in THIS dream and recognize that IT was all your own mind? How would you dream it on if you were to have this realization? Imagine that there are all these other people in your dream who are so asleep that it is as though they have fallen under an enchantment. They've gotten absorbed into the dream and have become so identified with their roles that they literally have forgotten who they are. They are truly suffering a case of mistaken identity. And they're all just aspects of you.

    It is like your task is to try and wake up parts of yourself that have fallen asleep. How you do this is totally up to you; it is the ultimate creative challenge. In essence you are figuring out a way to wake yourself up, to break the spell you have fallen under.

    As the Deeper Dreaming Self, we are always dreaming each other up in exactly the role that is needed. It is an amazing realization when you discover that we can't help but play the role that other people have dreamt up for us.

    For example, you, as the Deeper Dreaming Self (your True Self) have dreamt up this article right now -- at this very moment. And I, of course, by writing it, effortlessly stepped right into playing and fulfilling exactly the role you dreamt up for me. Even to say that someone else stepped into a role that you dreamt up for them is to say too much. As it is all just you. There is no one else.

    It is exactly as if you were having a dream and into your dream walked a dream character who was having an awakening (he has become lucid in "his" dream). Let's make it even more real than that, let's imagine that this dream character expressed himself by sending you an article such as this. Who is this dream character other than the awake part of yourself? He knows that he's being dreamt by something deeper. He is a mirror, a reflection, a manifestation of the awake part of you.

    It is also no accident that he has delivered this article into your dream; he is trying to engage you. It is your own awakeness appearing in seemingly separate, externalized form. It is clearly your own projection, something you've thrown out of yourself. And it is trying to step back into you. Or better yet, you're trying to step back into yourself. It is a situation that you, as the Deeper Dreaming Self, have clearly dreamt up.

    This dream character realizes that the "I" who he thought he was, including the body that he's been identifying with all this time, is not only not who he is, but is itself being dreamt by "something deeper" -- what I call the "Deeper Dreaming Self." Becoming lucid means that he's recognized his true identity with the Deeper Dreaming Self, which is dreaming the entire dream.

    This is the same thing as saying that he has recognized his unity with the entire dream, which is realized to be nothing other than the manifestation, or expression of the Deeper Dreaming Self, not separate from it in one iota. Just like the waves of the ocean are not separate from, and are the expression or manifestation of the ocean. It is as if one wave discovered that it was one with the entire ocean, and hence, with all waves. Nothing has to be added, one just discovers an already existing fact.

    This awakening dream character has had an expansion of identity from a skin-encapsulated ego, or separate self -- which experiences it itself as being disconnected from the rest of the dreamscape -- to a larger, much more all-embracing identity, which recognizes that the dream is nothing other than a very convincing display of his true nature. This is analogous to having an archetypal death/rebirth experience.

    Our dream character also realizes that he can consciously step into this universal dream that we all are sharing and help it unfold. He can help co-create and co-dream the dream to its highest unfolding, whatever and wherever that may be. When he realizes his identity with the Deeper Dreaming Self, he also recognizes that everybody else has the same Deeper Dreaming Self. He realizes that there is just one Deeper Dreaming Self and it is not only his own True Self, but it is the True Self for everyone. He understands that he's not even the slightest bit special, as everybody else is in the same condition, but they just haven't recognized it yet.

    At the point when you understand this, is when you become that awakened dream character who can then step consciously into the next person's dream. You then become the mirrored reflection of their own awakened part. And what would you do other than to try and awaken them in as gentle, loving and creative a way as possible?

    When enough people awaken to this situation, and this is simply a matter of when the Deeper Dreaming Self dreams that enough people awaken to it, we can begin to create an art happening that we can title "global awakening". This is really a question of stepping into and owning not only your negative shadow, but your positive shadow also. It becomes so easy to project your own enlightenment out there onto whatever guru. It is a question of realizing who you are, for God's sake. I would like to suggest that there is nothing stopping us from doing this right now. And not only that, I would like to further suggest that IT IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW and it is simply a question of recognizing it.

    Don't place any limits on yourself. It is your dream, please dream it all the way, go totally far out, over every edge. If you woke up and realized that it was your dream, how would you then dream it on? Remember, I am not addressing you as the little egoistic self but as the True Self.

    I would like to suggest that if you are having a genuine awakening, you have no other recourse than to let the Deeper Dreaming Self dream itself through you. The question then becomes, if we are the dream of the Self, where is this dream going?

    We need to really expand our realm of possibilities and realize that we are living a historic time, maybe more amazing then if we lived in Palestine during the life of Christ. We are actually living in the time period where human beings wake up. We need to realize, to see that the universe is dreaming itself awake through us. And it takes the most visionary among us to help further the momentum of the process until it actually builds up a life of it is own, which it already has in us.

    Isn’t it just a question of whether you see the situation or not? And if you do see it -- it is not a question of thinking about it but of seeing it -- then at that very moment you become an awake, responsible player in this dream drama you've found yourself in. And not just a player, but writer, director, producer and the audience, too. You begin to realize that this isn't a universe that you are just passively observing but one that you are also actively participating in and co-creating with. At this moment you step into your Bodhisattvahood, which is who we are meant to be. You realize that there is no separate "self" or "other", just "Self". Out of this awareness naturally arises genuine compassion.

    Finally, you realize it is total insanity to be waiting for the Messiah to arrive. We are the Messiah.
    (more)
  • superneo July 14, 2007 06:35:01
    superneo

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    I would not say I take time to think it over. Im usually quick to make my decision, but I do consider how it will affect those around me 1st. I almost always come 2nd in this equation.
  • Magpiez July 14, 2007 05:30:56
    Magpiez

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    I always do my best to take in the people and surroundings into consideration when making descsions. I know sometimes I fail and then others I think to hard, but I never try to dwell on a sitaution after I have made my descion.
  • katie July 13, 2007 19:33:37
    katie

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    i try my best to think hard on my options of my decisiom
  • GEMINII : queen of hope July 13, 2007 14:57:24
    GEMINII : queen of hope

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    i hate making decisions but some one has to do it right?
  • Kasey July 13, 2007 14:03:17
    Kasey

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    I really hated to admit that I usually take the road that's most appealing... I try to believe that I care about others more that I do myself, but it's just not true at all.
  • Oxymoron July 13, 2007 06:12:07
    Oxymoron

    None of the above

    sometimes i kind of scan over my desicions quickly, and other times i look through them thoroughly... it just depends what the decision is, and how serious i feel about it. whatever theoutcome, my intentions r 99% of the time good.
  • Jeremy July 13, 2007 00:13:28
    Jeremy

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    The amound of effort I put into the decision making process largely depends on the decision being made. I spent months looking for a house, but only a few seconds deciding on lunch. If you're one of those people that reverses the process...well, good luck.
  • ray July 12, 2007 23:35:29
    ray

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    nice poll
  • Villainous July 12, 2007 20:52:37
    Villainous

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    I try to do my best reasoning in decision making, but sometimes I make a decision instantly but reaction and that can't be helped.
  • RedK July 12, 2007 19:26:39
    RedK

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    know thy neighbor and respect yourself and others without following the currents of convienience.
  • Seth July 12, 2007 18:35:25
    Seth

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    Allison....are you in a Foxwoods commercial?
  • dpac July 12, 2007 18:15:18
    dpac

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    you rock Allison!
  • Clint July 12, 2007 17:52:44
    Clint

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    "Without compassion there can be no wisdom" I heard that somewhere, and I try to keep that in mind when I'm making decisions that affect other people. Just remember you can't predict the future. Just make the best decisons you can with the information you have availible.
  • Elizabeth July 12, 2007 17:07:14
    Elizabeth

    Undecided

    I make decisions in one of two ways.

    For most of my life I have been the type to take a lot of time with each decisions, weighing up pros and cons, and ultimatley worrying my silly little head off.

    Because of that I have been trying to be rapid with my decision making - just making up my mind and sticking with it. It's not easy.

    Generally I am probably a bit selfish with my decision making - I decide on the best thing for me, and I do this for a reason. I made a difficult decision years ago, and I made it to please others, and it resulted in a nightmare for me. It was one of life's lessons, and it is one that I value the most. Yes I can try and please other but ultimately I must ensure my happiness first.

    Decisions are never easy but I think its important to settle one and act upon it striaght away, never look back and never have any regrets.
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    chilton~In God I Trust~~ July 12, 2007 17:03:41
    chilton~In God I Trust~~

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    My first consideration is always for my family, then friends but with mindfullness of how it impacts other people. The older I get, the more concious I am of global responsibilty. We create divisions, but in reality we are a global family.
  • Tabby July 12, 2007 17:02:37
    Tabby

    I look at my options and take the one most appealing, I take into consideration of how it will affect others most of the time

    I do it unless I don't have to. So I guess I'm in between. If it's "what do you want to do for dinner?" I pitch a fit about having to choose. :)
  • TxKicker July 12, 2007 16:51:14
    TxKicker

    I take a lot of time with each decision, weigh all of the options and how it will affect the world

    If you weigh your options carefully you might find out that the thing you were leaning away from will be wiser to choose than the one you liked at first. This also makes you realize that on the surface you may want something, but look at it closer and it may not be for you.
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