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How many chances do you give someone that has hurt you (not physically) before you say good bye for good?

Treasure ♥ijm♥ 2011/11/26 17:18:17
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  • lady blue 2011/11/26 18:10:27
    lady blue
    +4
    Great question Treasure !
    I can really relate to this question because I have been in this situation a few times lately with a close friend. It's amazing how this person and I really like eachother and we have a strong chemistry but I find that we also clash very hard and he has hurt my feelings one too many times. I tried to dissolve the friendship but I keep on giving him chances because I have a big heart and I am a Christian. I am going to have to draw the line somewhere one day because I know I can't go on forever forgiving him and he doesn't change, I've already given him about 4 chances.

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  • Fun-Betty 2011/11/27 17:07:39
    Fun-Betty
    +3
    one too many
  • patrona 2011/11/27 14:15:49
    patrona
    +1
    ..I am a Good Christian Women * Know my Place..in life..
    and been very Successful Seemingly I am so Busy..
    have no Time...for Abuse...just Pay Your Rent..*
    ..Don't Get Mad..." If not for You *..I WOULD NOT BE WHOM I AM..!! "
  • sglmom 2011/11/27 08:01:42
    sglmom
    +2
    There are some things .. for which the hurt is too deep .. the trust is so broken .. that there's no turning back (and I must walk away from that -- a good example of this .. is cheating, stealing from me or those close to me .. threatening others .. bad choices (addictions over people) ..)

    I can definitely state to the person .. I cherish the good times we've shared .. but I just can't be a part of the toxic nature of what choices you've made ..
    (and then I walk away .. I must .. I can't be around toxic people .. and I can't endanger my life either).
  • Treasure ♥ijm♥ 2011/11/27 04:03:13
    Treasure ♥ijm♥
    +1
    If it's in a relationship that I am in....and I love the person, I will forgive them. But, if they keep hurting me I have to wonder if the relationship is worth it. I will still forgive, of course but sometimes you just can't forget how badly it hurt and you have to move on. With family, I have been hurt many times and have always forgiven but some distant family members are not ones that I trust anymore. I will keep forgiving but I won't get close to them again.
  • Malachi 2011/11/27 01:57:44
  • The River Rat 2011/11/27 01:39:38
    The River Rat
    +2
    Seems as though that is always part of them hurting me. They are gone forever on their own.
  • elijahin24 2011/11/27 00:32:04
    elijahin24
    +2
    Depends on how badly they hurt me. If it's an unforgivable offense; one and done. And if it isn't: as many as they need. If what they did is forgivable, it means I'm not keeping score.
  • highdesertgemini 2011/11/27 00:18:25
    highdesertgemini
    +2
    I wish I knew!
  • Reggie☮ 2011/11/26 23:35:51
    Reggie☮
    +2
    It depends on who the person is and what caused the hurt.
  • Vision of Verve 2011/11/26 22:46:04
  • Seonag 2011/11/26 21:49:16
    Seonag
    +2
    Depends, but usually they get one chance. They do it a second time, I'm out of there. Life is too short to put up with 'mean' people.
  • Myself94 2011/11/26 21:35:47
  • john 2011/11/26 21:10:26
    john
    +2
    Now that would depend on how badly they hurt me....
  • Luckydog38 2011/11/26 19:45:25
    Luckydog38
    +2
    7. Unless there is a note from a parent or a Dr.s note regarding the said infraction. : )
  • trigger2fish 2011/11/26 19:44:38
    trigger2fish
    +2
    Family unlimited forgiveness,unless there is physical abuse.
  • rand 2011/11/26 19:29:33
    rand
    +2
    An infinite number. As a Christian I don't reject others, but also accept that others may reject me for my views. True friends (& people of civility) agree to disagree.
  • Mus 2011/11/26 19:29:07
    Mus
    +2
    it depends on the person who it is.....
  • www.sodahead.com/smithy 2011/11/26 18:55:33
    www.sodahead.com/smithy
    +2
    i gave my ex too many to remember
  • lady blue 2011/11/26 18:10:27
    lady blue
    +4
    Great question Treasure !
    I can really relate to this question because I have been in this situation a few times lately with a close friend. It's amazing how this person and I really like eachother and we have a strong chemistry but I find that we also clash very hard and he has hurt my feelings one too many times. I tried to dissolve the friendship but I keep on giving him chances because I have a big heart and I am a Christian. I am going to have to draw the line somewhere one day because I know I can't go on forever forgiving him and he doesn't change, I've already given him about 4 chances.
  • FJ lady blue 2011/11/26 19:08:16
  • lady blue FJ 2011/11/26 23:27:46
    lady blue
    +3
    So sweet J ~ thanks for this. Surprised you caught my comment and replied like this.
    I thought you were off the treads. I really appreciate it ! ;))
  • FJ lady blue 2011/11/26 23:41:54
    FJ
    +3
    Thank you, you are more than welcome, I am glad you liked it ;)
    Since I managed to hide the laptop, I guess I wont have to leave, but if I for some reason stop showing up, you know what happened
  • Deandra FJ 2011/11/26 23:54:58
    Deandra
    +3
    So... you stay! *yay*
  • lady blue FJ 2011/11/27 00:04:10
    lady blue
    +3
    Thanks again ! It means a lot. Think positive...rid yourself of all negative thoughts and forces that stand in your way. Think and look from a new perspective for a way out. You are bright. You can accomplish that. ;))
  • FJ lady blue 2011/11/27 00:15:56
    FJ
    +3
    Thank you very much ;)))))) It means a lot to me XD
  • lady blue FJ 2011/11/27 21:08:19 (edited)
    lady blue
    +1
    You're welcome and you mean a lot to me as well ! You are stuck with me as I am you ! XD
  • lady blue FJ 2011/11/27 21:07:07
    lady blue
    +1
    If that ever happens you have my phone # and I will give you my email address just so you have it as a backup. I have your # too but you don't make it easy.
    I have your address too so we will never lose touch. I know that instinctively !
    Think positive always ! ;)
  • FJ lady blue 2011/11/27 21:19:58
    FJ
    +1
    Yeah, I will, and I will be anxiously waiting for your reply on my mail XDD
  • lady blue FJ 2011/11/27 21:27:50
    lady blue
    +1
    I am so tied down with emails and other replies but I wouldn't want it any other way. I love my SH friends and my SH life so much. God has brought me so many wonderful people in my life and you all have become just as close as family to me. Why am I telling you this ? You already know so much of what I think and say. I will message you in a while... your conversation being very interesting. I am hopelessly saddled in here for the night. XD
  • FJ lady blue 2011/11/27 22:43:21
    FJ
    +1
    I understand ;)
    Don't worry, take your time ;D
  • lady blue FJ 2011/11/28 00:58:26
    lady blue
    +1
    Thanks for understanding ! ;)
  • Fun-Betty lady blue 2011/11/27 17:06:52
    Fun-Betty
    +1
    You're a very great lady. In such a relationship, both sides give and both sides take away. Two stubborn heads cannot get along all the time. It's a problem I am dealing with constantly. And you are right, there comes a point when a line has to be drawn, issues put aside, no matter how much you love someone, sometimes you've got to let go. (basically I'm saying this more for myself, than anyone else.) xoxoxo
  • lady blue Fun-Betty 2011/11/27 21:21:35 (edited)
    lady blue
    +1
    Hi Angie, so great to hear from you and I am honored you replied !
    How are you today ? I hope life is kind to you and you are looking up !
    You have touched on it nicely. It's all about give and take and both parties have to be very open minded and willing to compromise, sacrifice and endure whatever it takes to make a solid friendship / relationship work. I think most humans all have good intentions but each individual life is so closely woven and either the time and circumstances allow it to work or it doesn't. Then after all is said and done, sometimes love is not enough.
    Better to have loved and lost...than not to love at all. Love and time run parallel but not all love that we experience is meant to last a lifetime. Sorry to go in so deep. Just saying things on my mind. Thanks for replying Angie. It's always a pleasure to hear from you.
    Thanks for the great compliment ~ you are a great lady too ! :))
  • Fun-Betty lady blue 2011/11/27 22:01:38
    Fun-Betty
    +1
    Thanks for the words. You have no idea how much idea your words have helped me at this very point in my life. ;)
  • lady blue Fun-Betty 2011/11/27 22:22:26
    lady blue
    +1
    Thanks Angie for that. I am so glad that we have become friends and you are able to confide in me about the delicate issues in your life. I do have an idea how much I have helped you and I am so grateful to be in that position to not only call myself a friend but show that I am in my small random acts of kindness. If you ever want to share, you can always mail me and we can get to know eachother better ! Remember Angie, you've got a friend and whatever encouragement I can share with you or anyone here is my pleasure ! God bless you my friend and always look up,... God loves you ! ;))
  • ♒ßεllεchεvεllε®♒ 2011/11/26 18:09:11
  • SA 2011/11/26 18:03:10
    SA
    +2
    My children are the only ones that get more than 1 chance..........and they are walking on very thin ice right now.
    I've learned from past experiences......
  • Doug King 2011/11/26 18:02:01
    Doug King
    +2
    Depends on what they did, some deeds only get 1 chance.
  • babydracula 2011/11/26 17:35:02
    babydracula
    +2
    untill he or she hurts you deadly, or untill you find another one who takes out your mind of that
  • Ruadon 2011/11/26 17:34:23
    Ruadon
    +2
    enough for me to be sure of their true self. some ppl that is just one

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