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How do you handle insults and put downs?

bob 2011/09/01 17:25:12
It's complicated, I .....
I may not be able to change poor behavior, although I can challange them
My worst handycap in handling insults and put downs is my own emotions
Stricking back feels all so good.
If this person repeats the put downs and insults, I come up with counters
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  • ladyjane 2011/09/01 19:51:09
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    ladyjane
    I consider the source and sometimes leave it at that, other times I try to find a way to come back with at the very least a comment that makes them think very hard about what they have said... Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.....
  • AdrianaE.Loera 2011/09/01 19:50:05 (edited)
    If this person repeats the put downs and insults, I come up with counters
    AdrianaE.Loera
    Sometimes the other person is an idiot so it's a waste of time to even pay attention to them. However when things get out of hand giving them a taste of their own medicine can help shut them up for good. Nothing seems to anger bullies more than laughing in their face.
  • Jan 2011/09/01 19:45:44
    None of the above
    Jan
    I think very carefully about what I am going to say in response. Then, I very politely reply whilst at the same time putting them down even more than they have done to me. It sometimes infuriates them and they resort to swearing at me and calling me names. I stay calm, laugh and tell them that swearing is no good as I have many other words in my vocabulary that will offend much easier than the bad language they're using. lol.
  • David 2011/09/01 19:45:43
    None of the above
    David
    I don't "stick back"; I believe in carpet bombing an insult aggressor.

    BTW, I find this question to be an insult. The word you were looking for in your answers is "handicap"--for heaven's sake get a spell checker if you can't spell.
  • angie45 2011/09/01 19:35:46
    Undecided
    angie45
    all depends on what the insults and put downs are about,in some cases i strike back,and other cases i just let them roll off my back.hey im the stronger one any way.
  • intolerantrwj 2011/09/01 19:32:18
    If this person repeats the put downs and insults, I come up with counters
    intolerantrwj
    .... dependent on actual slam, the subject and if it's in joking fashion or blatantly degrading ..... pretty much the determining factors on leaving it go, smart-ass rebut or an all out verbal bludgeon
  • Stan Kapusta 2011/09/01 19:28:52 (edited)
    It's complicated, I .....
    Stan Kapusta
    I consider the source first. If it's mean and degrading. Watch out no holds barred. If it's out of ignorance I correct it and laugh it off. If I want to make some one feel comfortable I make fun of myself or say something really stupid to get them out of thier shell. Like a very tall women standing next to a short man like me. She will be too quiet so I'll ask her to please clean out her nose. Ice broken.
  • Mrs Reckless 2011/09/01 19:21:55
    Stricking back feels all so good.
    Mrs Reckless
    say whatever comes to mind at the time
  • David 2011/09/01 19:05:29
    I may not be able to change poor behavior, although I can challange them
    David
    I did not mean to choose this category >>
  • David David 2011/09/01 19:08:30
    David
    This is what I am: "My worst handycap in handling insults and put downs is my own emotions"
  • tornado 2011/09/01 19:04:21 (edited)
    My worst handycap in handling insults and put downs is my own emotions
    tornado
    I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. It hurts to be bullied and slandered. I lost my last job because of harrassment and the company shut down. I was actually called insubordinate for having emotions. It hurts even worse when you're blamed for being victimized and doing the best you can to stand up for your rights.

  • ruisoares65 2011/09/01 19:01:54
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    ruisoares65
    +2
    They talk about themselves...
    One finger pointing straight ahead; 3 pointing back...
    talk finger pointing straight 3 pointing Finger pointing
  • fairiesnwizards 2011/09/01 18:59:16
    None of the above
    fairiesnwizards
    +1
    People who insult other people have inner turmoil. I honestly feel no need to rebut, because I know who I am. I don't need someone else telling me what i should be, or what my flaws are. That's where knowing yourself comes in, knowing the good and the bad about who you are, so you can deal with this kind of people.
    Insulting them back is only going to create larger problems, because a lot of people who insult others often have problems with themselves and turn to insulting others.
    We have to be understanding of those who can't understand themselves. Everyone comes to the same conclusion that treating others poorly is BAD, no matter how they get there, it is not always in our place to set them straight.
  • w2xad 2011/09/01 18:57:08
    All of the above
    w2xad
    Oh well
  • FAWKES' NOOSE ~ ΔTX 2011/09/01 18:54:23
    Stricking back feels all so good.
    FAWKES' NOOSE ~ ΔTX
    With more creative and intelligent insults and put downs.
  • AssataKnox 2011/09/01 18:49:45
    None of the above
    AssataKnox
    Let 'em talk all the stuff they want. I know who I am, so what they think of me doesn't matter.
  • lu lu 2011/09/01 18:47:33
    I may not be able to change poor behavior, although I can challange them
    lu lu
    Like some of the insults I receive from certain members of sodahead & you know who you are!
  • bmxschoolbus 2011/09/01 18:46:56
  • Billy the kid 2011/09/01 18:40:53
    None of the above
    Billy the kid
    Duck/Water/Back..... duckwaterback water off a ducks back
  • Prime Time Lime 2011/09/01 18:40:30
    None of the above
    Prime Time Lime
    Ignore them,and eventually they give up.
  • MrDazzling~ 2011/09/01 18:38:38
    None of the above
    MrDazzling~
    Phaaaaa phaaaaa bitch slap
  • ETpro 2011/09/01 18:36:31
  • Sheled Umlal 2011/09/01 18:30:22
    It's complicated, I .....
    Sheled Umlal
    +1
    BLAME CANADA!!
  • Danny Barker 2011/09/01 18:26:27
    None of the above
    Danny Barker
    I realy don't give a damn what they think about me .I am who I am and that the way it is. Like it or not thats tough.
  • SweetTemptation 2011/09/01 18:22:34 (edited)
    None of the above
    SweetTemptation
    +1
    I just ignore that type of person and consider the source. they must have low self esteem or just plain jealous.
  • ziad SweetTe... 2011/09/01 21:14:51
    ziad
    +1
    I will be tolerant to the farthest boundaries
  • Frank 2011/09/01 18:17:45
    None of the above
    Frank
    +1
    With facts, videos and specific happenings.......
  • Emanon 2011/09/01 18:13:24 (edited)
    It's complicated, I .....
    Emanon
    +1
    .... ask them can I stick it in their vag.... or propose anal raping


    back to the cave I go.
  • Glfer65 2011/09/01 18:02:34
    It's complicated, I .....
    Glfer65
    +1
    Most of the time I let it roll off the back. Those who make these comments only means they have their own issues and don't want other people to know about them. Mostly I ignore these people and that gets rid of them.
  • Mandi Pandi 2011/09/01 18:01:18
    It's complicated, I .....
    Mandi Pandi
    let it seep in then laugh in the person's face. good attempt at putting down, i'll pat you on the back to make up for the tears you don't get to see. however, when its family, it does sting a bit and i go about the situation differently.
  • HipJipC 2011/09/01 17:58:17
    None of the above
    HipJipC
    +1
    Most of the time I poke fun at them. After all they just prove how ignorant and immature they are on their own without my help or without me stooping to their level.
  • no no 2011/09/01 17:57:16 (edited)
    None of the above
    no no
    +1
    I simply remember that such behavior is one standard barometer by which ignorance is measured, and I move on realizing that if I counter the insult or put-down I have allowed the person to drag me to their level, and in most cases they will beat me through experience. Develop thick skin and avoid as much as possible non-enhancing forces and people in life.
  • Funky Monk 2011/09/01 17:56:08
    If this person repeats the put downs and insults, I come up with counters
    Funky Monk
  • Mr.Steve 2011/09/01 17:53:19
  • IMAOZI 2011/09/01 17:52:29
    All of the above
    IMAOZI
    Depends on my mood. 90% of the time I just ignore them unless I have time for a really good rebuttal. It's not that important anyway. Life is too short to worry about it.
  • Shawna 2011/09/01 17:52:22
    None of the above
    Shawna
    I ignore them. Sometimes I return a comment that lets the person know I just laughed and was not upset about it. Other times I don't respond. I have gotten angry enough at someone's hateful comments a couple of times that I was the first to call them an idiot, but I can count on one hand the number of times I have done that.
  • JoLost 2011/09/01 17:51:23
    Undecided
    JoLost
    It all depends on the subject matter and medium instituted.
  • Andy 2011/09/01 17:51:09
    None of the above
    Andy
    Lately I have used the line... I'm sorry you feel that way. I then walk away. What can the person do... you appologized and you did it without demeaning them.
  • I NEED A HORSE 2011/09/01 17:46:51
  • Chris 2011/09/01 17:42:51
    It's complicated, I .....
    Chris
    It really depends on the prson and the situation and the insult...

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