Why give away something so valuable just for a thought of losing it?
Only you can give it away but you can only give it once and it's a memory you will have for the rest of your life. Do you want that memory to be with just some guy you are going out with and possibly just lust after for the moment. Really it only lasts a moment at your age and it changes you....emotionally forever.
Would the man you are to love and someday marry want to be with you after other guys and destroyed the treasure? Why give him the left overs?
Value yourself and save those memories to someone you really love....not just lust after or peer pressure because your friends are telling you or they are not respecting themselves.
Here is a song for just this subject from my friend Rebecca St. James
Rebecca waited: She waited until her wedding day and she has said it was her greatest treasure and gift she could give her husband.
Here is her song she wrote long before she met him. She knew one day she would meet her prince charming and she was praying he would wait for her to and treasure himself.
Please listen to the words.
programmes like '16 and pregnant' scare me, most girls rush things
i like the idea that my first time will be with my husband
haha and i know you may get a bit excited around him, its only normal but dont rush into anything
My first experience and haven't done it again. I wasn't ready and even though I am older I still don't feel like I am ready to share myself with another.(I am being selfish):-).
For any of the methods chosen their will be those who it was a perfect fit for, and others who regret it. I personally am going for the second, waiting until I'm in a committed relationship with a guy I love and trust at the time, even if I won't end up staying with him for the rest of my life.
I don't look at virginity as any special treasure. It won't pay the bills, and it won't save someone's life. If a guy can't deal with me not being a virgin he isn't worth my time,as obviously I don't actually matter to him, just the number of guys I've been with. My virginity doesn't determine how good or nice a person I am. I've met sweet sluts who'd take a bullet for a stranger, and mean virgins who wouldn't save their own mother unless they got something out of it. Guess who I'd rather spend time with.
However I still think it's a special moment, one I want to go well. So ...
For any of the methods chosen their will be those who it was a perfect fit for, and others who regret it. I personally am going for the second, waiting until I'm in a committed relationship with a guy I love and trust at the time, even if I won't end up staying with him for the rest of my life.
I don't look at virginity as any special treasure. It won't pay the bills, and it won't save someone's life. If a guy can't deal with me not being a virgin he isn't worth my time,as obviously I don't actually matter to him, just the number of guys I've been with. My virginity doesn't determine how good or nice a person I am. I've met sweet sluts who'd take a bullet for a stranger, and mean virgins who wouldn't save their own mother unless they got something out of it. Guess who I'd rather spend time with.
However I still think it's a special moment, one I want to go well. So I want a guy who will respect me and let me set the pace.
In short, everyone is different, so do what's best for you. Don't let anyone, friends, family, or a guy, pressure you into doing something you don't want, be it wait until marriage when you're ready now or lose it before you're ready. Make sure it's with a guy you WANT to lose it with, not just someone you THINK you should want to lose it with. And if whatever you choose isn't what you hoped it would be, or leaves you feeling regretful, just remember that you're no less or worse of a person for your decision, and that life will go on with plenty of opportunities to make up for it. Your virginity is personal, and no one else has a right to feel wronged by what you do with it. If someone judges you based off your sex status then they are not someone worth being around.
And remember, always use protection unless you're sure he's clean and you're ready to risk a baby.
If you're a Christian, the opinions of you, your God and your parents definitely SHOULD matter.
Ultimately, though, you'll base the decision on what YOU want. Just be careful and realize that there are ways to 'handle' those urges which need not include a trip to your BF's house. If you don't know what I mean, seek the advice of a medical professional or a knowledgeable family member.
I can't tell you what to do, I could sit there and list all of then consequences good or bad, but I wont and hope you know them.
But I can tell you that it's overrated to lose it before marriage.
It's done nothing but cause me pain, severe depression and oh my the name calling.
Everyone's different, but ultimately it is your choice. Do what you feel is right, not what others want you to do. Not what HE wants you to do.
Good Luck and try not to feel pressured by others.
All I'm saying is wait for someone who truly loves you for who you are. Maybe you don't want to wait until marriage, that's your choice. Just wait until you know for sure the guy has the right intentions. You know teenage guys are... They'll sweet talk you into anything... Tell you they love you a million times... Tell you how beautiful you are... You've probably heard this a thousand times, but If they really love you they will wait.
So many people our age treat sex like this casual thing, but it's really not. You're giving a part of yourself away. It's a big deal, and society makes it out like it's not. Don't let people tell you that it's not cool to be a virgin or whatever. It's your body, your choice. Just think it over. Think of what you're actually doing, what it actually means. It's a big decision. Don't take it lightly.
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All I'm saying is wait for someone who truly loves you for who you are. Maybe you don't want to wait until marriage, that's your choice. Just wait until you know for sure the guy has the right intentions. You know teenage guys are... They'll sweet talk you into anything... Tell you they love you a million times... Tell you how beautiful you are... You've probably heard this a thousand times, but If they really love you they will wait.
So many people our age treat sex like this casual thing, but it's really not. You're giving a part of yourself away. It's a big deal, and society makes it out like it's not. Don't let people tell you that it's not cool to be a virgin or whatever. It's your body, your choice. Just think it over. Think of what you're actually doing, what it actually means. It's a big decision. Don't take it lightly.
I'd hope you'd take my advice though and make sure you wait for the guy who really, really loves you. It'll save you some heartbreak.
:)
Are you saying you believe that it's okay for kids younger than thirteen years old to lose their virginity? You're a pervert. 13-16 is not an okay time to lose your virginity. That's waaay too young.
And yeah, I'm sure you do... *rolls eyes*
Ha.
Obviously be careful and take precautions but If you find someone that you want to lose it with, then lose it.