How do I bring this up to her?

You could just tell her straight. Mom I'm sexually active and I feel that I need to take extra percautions and take birth control to make sure that if the off chance something breaks that I will not get pregnant.

Idk. Just be mature and ask her straight out. Talk to her about which one would be best for you.

A lot depends on the relationship you have with your mother. If she has always been up front with you and explained things you have asked about, especially things about sex, it should go pretty well. Don't beat around the bush or wait until you have already had sex. That will freak her out. Good luck!

You: Mom, I need to talk to you about something important
Mom: Ok, what is it sweetheart
You: I know sex is a major decision, and not one to be taken lightly, but I love my BF, and staying sexually celibate is getting harder and harder. I'm not asking your permission to have sex; but I am asking your permission to get on birth-control, so that if or when that decision is made, I've taken precautions to avoid pregnancy. while we're at it, I'd also like to get some condoms, so that I can avoid STD's too.
Mom: (choking on coffee) um...so...you're probably gonna have sex soon?
You: I dunno. I haven't decided yet. It's too big of a decision. I need to think about it more. But I want to be as prepared and safe as possible, which ever way I go. Are there any other precautions you can think of?
Mom:(respiration normalizing) um...not having sex is pretty safe.
You: (eye-roll) mom. Look, I know you probably don't want me to do this, but I also know that you didn't wait for marriage, and that leads me to think that staying celibate is really hard. I just want to make sure that If it turns out to be TOO hard, that I'm prepared, ok?

Hahaha thank you!

Have an intelligent, mature, private conversation with your mother. Don't get emotional, and accept the possibility that she might. Don't make threats or try guilt or blackmail. And remember, in the end, she's the mom, you're the daughter, and responsibility rests with the adult.

By the way, I have a 16 year old daughter....

Just come out and tell her, be open and honest, and say it.. assuming u r of a good age she will/should understand and that u want to be responsible.. and tell her that..

chances are she already knows that u two are having sex anyways..

Tell your Mom that what you told us: That you and your boyfriend are talking about having sex and you want to make sure you don't become pregnant.

Tell her you are going to need it, with or without her blessing, so does she want to help or not?

Ask her if you and her could go and have lunch. Then calmly tell her what you want. Tell her why, let her know you have done the research and you understand the consequences. Let her know that you understand that birth control pills only prevent pregnancy and do not prevent std's. Be informed, be concise and listen to her concerns as well.

Thank you!

Good luck!!

If you're mature enough to have a sexual relationship, you're mature enough to make the hard decisions. Just talk to her straight up.

Be honest. Hopefully, she will have your best interests in mind.

You're in high school and you're thinking about having sex? Big mistake. It can only lead to trouble. You're not old enough. You probably should grow up first.

This is your advice. Many girls wouldn't even think about birth control, it sounds to me like she has a good head on her shoulders.

You're right.

Thanks Bessie. I don't think we should tell young women who are looking to be responsible to grow up, nor should we speak down to them.

Trust me. I agree. Talking to them like that just makes them do the opposite. Been there!

What do you think her odds are of getting STDs, pregnant, and probably followed by an abortion? Adults don't use contraceptives correctly. Do you think a teenbobber will?

http://www.stltoday.com/lifes...

You are doing this girl a grave disservice, and her parents ought to be ashamed. First of all, she shouldn't even have a boy friend at her age.

Marlow, we can agree to disagree. I was a teenage girl way back when and even though I was not sexually active I knew many who were. I now have an adult teenage daughter, and am going on experience from what I've seen and heard.

Why should this girls parents be ashamed? Wow!!

You are the proud Daddy of a very young child...very happy for you, and I hope one day you can understand where I am coming from.

I meant to say the parents should be ashamed of themselves for the job they did as parents. Sounds like your parents did a great job. Teens having sex can only, only lead to trouble.

I love ya Marlow...but be careful how you judge other parents. Take care my friend.

Take care Bessie. :)

You too. :)

Then you're just as big a fool. I guess someone deciding to jump off the 10th floor instead of the 22nd floor has a good head on their shoulders too. Teenagers should not be having sex.

Because "abstinence only" works so well?

Your analogy is stupid, there is nothing safe or responsible about jumping out of window, but sex can be VERY safe, should you be responsible enough to protect yourself. This girl obviously wants to do that.

To tell her not to, is going to do what exactly to protect her?

For real. Just because I am a rare case who practices abstinence, that doesn't mean everyone does. Marlow is not in the right on this one. It doesn't matter if she's "too young" and "not ready for a baby"; that's not going to stop her from making her own decisions. And she has to make her own choices.

Abstinence worked great for me, but I had many friends, in fact most of my friends did not wait, and most of those friends were too afraid to talk to their parents and a great many of them, the ones who didn't talk to their parents, they ended up pregnant.

Exactly my point. >:|

What do you think her odds are of getting STDs, pregnant, and probably followed by an abortion? Adults don't use contraceptives correctly. Do you think a teenbobber will?

http://www.stltoday.com/lifes...

You are doing this girl a grave disservice, and her parents ought to be ashamed of themselves for the job they have done in raising her. First of all, she shouldn't even have a boy friend at her age.

Just saying, every single one of my friends who I know is sexually active (especially around the age of 16) have been safe, haven't contracted an STD and haven't gotten pregnant/had an abortion.

My older sister started having sex at 16, and she's still very clean. I'll be quite insulted if you say my parents ought to be ashamed of themselves for the job they've done in raising her--my sister has a job, she's athletic and in shape, she's social, she goes to a private college that PAYS her to go there because of how many scholarships she got, and she's always on the Presidential list (aka, getting all A's in classes every semester).

You, good sir, do not put enough faith into America's youth. Yeah, sometimes it may be for good reason, but you'd be surprised how many young adults ARE actually responsible and take every precaution to not have a baby.

Did you just say she shouldn't have a boyfriend at age 16? Are you in your 80's? Seriously. No, I'm being serious. Are you from a generation that doesn't understand that dating and experimentation starts around the same time as when an individual starts driving/getting their first job?

Not quite in my 80s yet. ;) I still think teens, girls and boy, should not be sexually active. Like I said, it can only lead to trouble. I apologize for referring to your parents that way. Peace. :)

What is her age?

And some protection is better than none.

My age is sixteen.

Thank you. I think it's silly to demand that a 16 year old girl not date.

I guess that's a matter of opinion. I wouldn't let 16 year olds date. But hey, you're influenced by the celebrity brain dead culture, and i'm not.

Yes, because you know me so well you know what influences me.

I dated at 14... didn't end up pregnant or with an STD, wasn't even sexually active until I was 19. You know why?? Because my parents TALKED to me, and they gave me some trust, trust that I earned, and they were honest.

But, pish... they obviously did a horrid job in that area!!

What do you think her odds are of getting STDs, pregnant, and probably followed by an abortion? Adults don't use contraceptives correctly. Do you think a teenbobber will?

http://www.stltoday.com/lifes...

You are doing this girl a grave disservice, and her parents ought to be ashamedof themselves for the job they have done in raising her. First of all, she shouldn't even have a boy friend at her age.