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HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! How do u kno ur in love with ur boyfriend/girlfriend?

mojo-jojo 2009/03/14 21:23:25
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i have a boyfriend and he said he's in love with me and i kno i love him, i known him since last year but we just going out about a month ago but im confused and i wanted to kno how do u kno wen ur in love and wen ur not? i need help. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!
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  • Insomniac Sweetheart 2009/05/31 05:14:38 (edited)
    u kno ur in love when.........
    Insomniac Sweetheart
    +2
    kno ur love

    but love is a decision. not a feeling. and it takes time to grow and develop between two people. but the amount of time it takes depends on the people.

    but think about it, if you have to ask then you're probably not. and don't tell him back just because he said it. if he really loves and cares about you, then he'll understand if you tell him you're not ready say it yet and he'll wait. if he leaves, then his loss.

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  • Juliet 2009/11/29 15:55:09
    u kno ur in love when.........
    Juliet
    +1
    u will know ur in love when u only feel like in ure dreams if u see him in all ure dreams that means u are kinda in love u now what im saying ok now right back if u see this message bye good luck i hope i helped u.
  • mojo-jojo Juliet 2009/12/09 23:33:34
    mojo-jojo
    yes u helped me lol.
    thanks cuz ive seen him in my dreams...ALOT.
  • emilee "ecstatic" 2009/09/05 21:01:17
    u kno ur in love when.........
    emilee "ecstatic"
    +1
    -you get jealous of him flirting with people.
    -you think about him 24/7
    -he never wants to hurt you, or make you feel bad.
    -if you spend all your time with him.
    or, if he's want you need.
  • jd 2009/07/16 14:33:41
    u kno ur in love when.........
    jd
    +1
    u get happy when ur around that person... u cant stop thinking about them
  • cutie15 2009/06/18 19:04:35
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    cutie15
    +1
    well when i was going out with my boyfriend he said "i love you " to me and i said i love u too when i first fell in love with him my stomache had butterflies and now we broke up and i still miss him and i still love him he was the best boyfriend i had.and he keeps on asking me if i still love him and i said yes i do and he said y? and i didnt know what to say so is there anyway i can say to him bec i dont know what to say to him?
  • mojo-jojo cutie15 2009/06/18 19:17:14
    mojo-jojo
    sit dwn nd tell him how u feel. u nvr kno he might still feel da same
  • Mejink 2009/06/10 03:47:42
    u'll c wen......
    Mejink
    +1
    No words will ever tell you. No happy feelings either. Love lasts even in the bad times, and only, dear truly, will you know through the "test of time". A month is not long enough to know. Yes, you could love him right now, but you surely cannot KNOW that you do, for real, because it hasn't been long enough to see if this, and this feeling, will last. It might, but don't worry so much about when or if you are in love. Love has many layers and stages. Each stage you get a bit deeper, a bit closer, but you feel the shift dramatically. Love is not entirely "light-hearted"... Love is deep and soulful and honest and REAL when you are together. You should feel just as close to him when you are sitting there talking, or doing anything with each other, not just when he is holding you, or whispering sweet nothings in your ear... those things can fade like the wind and change all the time. Anybody can make you feel that way. Love is special, and when you know it, you will know it... but it's not just a matter of knowing. Often real Love is terrifying, because you never thought you could fall that hard, and yet be perfectly ok with it because if this person was not in your life, after the test of time, you would be losing a part of you. You can feel the difference between a crush on somebody ex...
    No words will ever tell you. No happy feelings either. Love lasts even in the bad times, and only, dear truly, will you know through the "test of time". A month is not long enough to know. Yes, you could love him right now, but you surely cannot KNOW that you do, for real, because it hasn't been long enough to see if this, and this feeling, will last. It might, but don't worry so much about when or if you are in love. Love has many layers and stages. Each stage you get a bit deeper, a bit closer, but you feel the shift dramatically. Love is not entirely "light-hearted"... Love is deep and soulful and honest and REAL when you are together. You should feel just as close to him when you are sitting there talking, or doing anything with each other, not just when he is holding you, or whispering sweet nothings in your ear... those things can fade like the wind and change all the time. Anybody can make you feel that way. Love is special, and when you know it, you will know it... but it's not just a matter of knowing. Often real Love is terrifying, because you never thought you could fall that hard, and yet be perfectly ok with it because if this person was not in your life, after the test of time, you would be losing a part of you. You can feel the difference between a crush on somebody external and the Love of an extended part of you. Love him for the right reasons... his mind. His life and whatever matters to you... examine what matters to you in life and see or talk with him about these things. This will help you evaluate your feelings.
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  • mojo-jojo Mejink 2009/06/10 17:25:27
    mojo-jojo
    +1
    thanks for your answer.
  • cutie15 Mejink 2009/06/18 19:14:15
    cutie15
    +3
    i have been with my bf for at least 3 months and he has said to me that he loves me and i have said it back and he keeps on asking me if i still love him and i said yes and then he ask y like i dont know what to say bec i dont know y i love him so what should i say to him?
  • Mejink cutie15 2009/06/21 13:14:41
    Mejink
    +1
    ...if you don't know why you love someone, there's a good chance you don't. Saying you love someone just because they said they love you is not a good way to do a relationship. Especially if he keeps asking you, it kind of shows he is needy and maybe, doesn't really know if he loves you or not, but just wants to be loved. I can't tell you what to say, but be honest with yourself, and maybe you should tell him that you two should stop saying that until you really know why you love each other. You shouldn't just say it to throw it around, because that shows it isn't true, even if it makes you feel warm inside. Everyone likes to be told that theyre loved, but be honest with yourself about why and if you really do love him. At three months, honestly you've only survived the first real test.

    At one month, they start to show their true colors. At three months, you really begin to get to know each other. After that, is six months when you might face your first real problems and you get to see how they deal with differences with each other, and then a year, then annually from there. At three months, your relationship is still in that infantile stage where you're learning about each other, but love is a strong word and has lasting effects. If he's still a "now" person, and you're not even thinking ...''
    ...if you don't know why you love someone, there's a good chance you don't. Saying you love someone just because they said they love you is not a good way to do a relationship. Especially if he keeps asking you, it kind of shows he is needy and maybe, doesn't really know if he loves you or not, but just wants to be loved. I can't tell you what to say, but be honest with yourself, and maybe you should tell him that you two should stop saying that until you really know why you love each other. You shouldn't just say it to throw it around, because that shows it isn't true, even if it makes you feel warm inside. Everyone likes to be told that theyre loved, but be honest with yourself about why and if you really do love him. At three months, honestly you've only survived the first real test.

    At one month, they start to show their true colors. At three months, you really begin to get to know each other. After that, is six months when you might face your first real problems and you get to see how they deal with differences with each other, and then a year, then annually from there. At three months, your relationship is still in that infantile stage where you're learning about each other, but love is a strong word and has lasting effects. If he's still a "now" person, and you're not even thinking about a longer future where he is in your life, maybe you guys should chill on the love bit. You don't have to come up with a reason to love him, especially if you cant by yourself. He may not be what you're looking for.
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  • mojo-jojo Mejink 2009/06/22 14:00:42
  • Mejink mojo-jojo 2009/06/24 18:29:48
  • cutie15 Mejink 2009/06/25 20:49:22
    cutie15
    +2
    thanks that might help me alot i will try it but now he wont talk to me but when he wants to talk to me i will tell him how i feel
  • Mejink cutie15 2009/06/25 21:09:33
    Mejink
    +1
    :) I'm sorry to hear that.. why wont he talk to you? It may be his pride is hurt but if he cares, he'll come around.
  • cutie15 Mejink 2009/06/25 21:26:10
    cutie15
    +2
    ya he will come around and idk y he wont talk to me i will let him calm down and then he might talk to me
  • Mejink cutie15 2009/06/25 21:40:04
    Mejink
    +1
    Yea, that sounds good. I wish you the best. :)
  • cutie15 Mejink 2009/06/25 22:01:13
    cutie15
    +2
    thanks and i hope it will work bec i really miss him
  • Mejink cutie15 2009/06/25 23:30:47
    Mejink
    +1
    Well, he can't treat you like that though. Hopefully he has some reason as to why he just stopped talking to you. Cause if he's not willing to understand your feelings, then he's probably not worth it... but if you feel different don't let my words stop you.
  • Insomniac Sweetheart 2009/05/31 05:14:38 (edited)
    u kno ur in love when.........
    Insomniac Sweetheart
    +2
    kno ur love

    but love is a decision. not a feeling. and it takes time to grow and develop between two people. but the amount of time it takes depends on the people.

    but think about it, if you have to ask then you're probably not. and don't tell him back just because he said it. if he really loves and cares about you, then he'll understand if you tell him you're not ready say it yet and he'll wait. if he leaves, then his loss.
  • mojo-jojo Insomni... 2009/06/01 03:34:50
    mojo-jojo
    thanks i love ur answer.
  • Insomni... mojo-jojo 2009/06/01 03:40:16
    Insomniac Sweetheart
    +1
    welcome. and thanks.
  • mojo-jojo Insomni... 2009/06/01 03:41:00
    mojo-jojo
    ur welcome
  • Insomni... mojo-jojo 2009/06/01 03:48:45
    Insomniac Sweetheart
    +1
    so, what're you going to do?
  • mojo-jojo Insomni... 2009/06/01 03:50:51
    mojo-jojo
    not tell him till i kno tht the feeling of bieng in love is truly there. cuz i dnt wanna say it and not truly mean it. know wat i mean. tht'll just hurt him more.
  • Insomni... mojo-jojo 2009/06/01 03:56:40
    Insomniac Sweetheart
    +1
    yeah, that's good.
  • mojo-jojo Insomni... 2009/06/01 04:00:05
    mojo-jojo
    yup =D
  • Insomni... mojo-jojo 2009/06/01 04:03:02
  • mojo-jojo Insomni... 2009/06/10 17:25:44
    mojo-jojo
    =D
  • Insomni... mojo-jojo 2009/06/11 03:36:21
  • Crimson Water World 2009/05/29 23:50:23
    u'll c wen......
    Crimson Water World
    +1
    U have 2 find out if that person is right 4 u ull wen 2 person 4
  • mojo-jojo Crimson... 2009/05/31 02:43:42
    mojo-jojo
    thanks for u help.
    i really appreciate it. =D
  • Crimson... mojo-jojo 2009/05/31 05:09:43
    Crimson Water World
    +1
    Anytime anytime
  • mojo-jojo Crimson... 2009/06/01 03:34:59
    mojo-jojo
    lol
  • Crimson... mojo-jojo 2009/06/01 13:47:58
  • mojo-jojo Crimson... 2009/06/02 13:57:20
    mojo-jojo
    =D
  • Crimson... mojo-jojo 2009/06/02 15:50:08
  • mojo-jojo Crimson... 2009/06/04 17:20:49
    mojo-jojo
    lol
  • Crimson... mojo-jojo 2009/06/06 06:30:03
  • Psycho the Psychic 2009/05/28 22:12:33 (edited)
    u kno ur in love when.........
    Psycho the Psychic
    +1
    This should cover it, lol! cover lol
  • mojo-jojo Psycho ... 2009/05/29 03:06:56
    mojo-jojo
    +1
    lol thanks this is really true.
    nd cute.

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