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Have you ever tried the "Venus Butterfly" technique on your lover?

Mark In Irvine 2011/11/22 18:28:33
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  • K-ZOOMI-----0 2011/11/22 19:13:54
    K-ZOOMI-----0
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    Yes. When I was 23 I dated a divorced 52 year old that showed me how to do it. BUT, it is different for each woman in some was. Both have to put in the effort to learn this between themselves as everyone has different tastes and hangups.

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  • queenalyss 2011/11/23 04:42:01
    queenalyss
    +2
    no but id love to, any offers? haha
  • Mark In... queenalyss 2011/11/23 04:47:03
    Mark In Irvine
    +2
    [trying to remain calm and avoid saying anything inconsistent with my status as a married man]
  • K-ZOOMI... queenalyss 2011/11/23 07:27:59
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +1
    Don't have to ask twice! ^_^
  • queenalyss K-ZOOMI... 2011/11/23 08:38:25
    queenalyss
    +2
    ooooooh ;D
  • K-ZOOMI... queenalyss 2011/11/23 17:46:46
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +1
    hehehe;)
  • Mark In... K-ZOOMI... 2011/11/23 19:20:52
    Mark In Irvine
    +1
    i think this entitles me to a finder's fee ...
  • K-ZOOMI... Mark In... 2011/11/23 19:47:30
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +1
    CRAP! How much will this cost?
  • Mark In... K-ZOOMI... 2011/11/23 19:53:37
    Mark In Irvine
    +2
    it's nothing, really!! any children produced by the union, should it come about, ahem, must be named after me ...
  • queenalyss Mark In... 2011/11/23 20:43:42
    queenalyss
    +2
    sounds like a plan
  • Mark In... queenalyss 2011/11/23 23:44:10
    Mark In Irvine
    i actually have a bit of a track record of success with match-making ... ah, but that is another story for another day perhaps ...
  • Ms. Macabre 2011/11/23 02:24:56
    Ms. Macabre
    +2
    Haven't even tried penetration, quite frankly.
  • Mark In... Ms. Mac... 2011/11/23 04:47:50
    Mark In Irvine
    +1
    not to worry ... you'll get your turn ...
  • Ms. Mac... Mark In... 2011/11/23 16:23:31
    Ms. Macabre
    +2
    I'll wait til I'm out of high school though. :]
  • Mark In... Ms. Mac... 2011/11/23 16:33:48 (edited)
    Mark In Irvine
    +2
    very good idea ... you have your whole life ahead of you to get tangled up with all that stuff ... actually, it's best to wait until you're ready financially, psychologically and with a dependable partner who won't give you a baby and then disappear, because having a baby is a very strong possibility unless you are very conscientious about contraception ...
  • Ms. Mac... Mark In... 2011/11/23 16:44:16
    Ms. Macabre
    +2
    Good thinking... I'll wait til I've got a job and a husband before I even google venus butterfly. Or if I get drunk off my ass in college I'll at least remember to use a condom.
  • Mark In... Ms. Mac... 2011/11/23 16:47:41
    Mark In Irvine
    +2
    i'd recommend avoiding drunkeness ... if you're bombed you won't be able to remember anything either when the moment arrives or the next morning ... but you may end up with a life-long reminder and parental responsibilities - i'd say remain completely sober so you have some "control" over your sexual experiences ...
  • Ms. Mac... Mark In... 2011/11/23 16:56:07
    Ms. Macabre
    +2
    That was actually a joke. I hate alcohol. I don't think you'd ever be able to catch me drunk. I'd be able to maintain complete control, dont worry about that. :]
  • Mark In... Ms. Mac... 2011/11/23 17:00:10 (edited)
    Mark In Irvine
    +1
    we do all kinds of crazy stuff when we're young ... as i recall!! you're smart, though, and i'm sure you'll be fine!
  • Ms. Mac... Mark In... 2011/11/23 17:18:27
    Ms. Macabre
    +2
    Why thank you. :)
  • rwsncool 2011/11/23 02:15:30
  • Mark In... rwsncool 2011/11/23 04:48:47
    Mark In Irvine
    +2
    if you're paired up, give it a try!
  • Melizmatic 2011/11/23 02:02:37
    Melizmatic
    +2
    Manual or battery powered?

    manual battery powered
  • K-ZOOMI... Melizmatic 2011/11/23 02:28:41
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +2
    WHOOHOO! :)
    :)
  • Mark In... K-ZOOMI... 2011/11/23 04:49:42
    Mark In Irvine
    +1
    my sentiments exactly!
  • K-ZOOMI... Mark In... 2011/11/23 07:29:48
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +1
    Still enjoying the picture!

    *buzz buzz*
  • K-ZOOMI... Mark In... 2011/11/23 07:30:38
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +1
    Still enjoying the picture!

    *buzz buzz*
  • Mark In... Melizmatic 2011/11/23 04:49:17
    Mark In Irvine
    +1
    manual is certainly best!
  • Georgia50 2011/11/22 22:16:54
    Georgia50
    +3
    Gee...it appears I um...have some experience in this area without realizing there was a name associated with the technique.Still working on the Italian Chandelier though. Just my luck...do the one and don't know the name, haven't done the one for which I do know the name!

    There are other techniques for the truly mind-bending feminine orgasm. If you haven't taken your lady to the edge of insanity, you're not there yet.
  • Mark In... Georgia50 2011/11/23 04:50:24
    Mark In Irvine
    +1
    please - share the wisdom of the universe with those of us who are still seeking it ...
  • Georgia50 Mark In... 2011/11/23 15:53:51
    Georgia50
    +2
    Well, guys who believe size doesn't matter are not going to like this, but basically it's more technique and being determined to please your female partner, which I've always been with my wife.

    It's all about bore and stroke. Bore is girth, and stroke is depth (without discomfort). Using an object substantially larger than I am, I determined stroke. She accepted the bore slowly, then it was a matter of matching stroke speed and radial angles for effect. So it was slow and go, but as she got into it, I increased the tempo. Then back off, then speed up. Before I knew it I slamming away for all I'm worth--never exceeding comfort depth--and she's making these god-awful noises I never knew women could make. From initial come to the point where she made me stop was about 20 minutes (I had eye contact with the bedside alarm clock), and she was temporarily numb from the waist down.

    Physiologically, this is not supposed to be. The whole "size does not matter" position is correctly premised on the concentration of vaginal nerve endings at the base or entrance. But this fails to account for the sense of fullness a woman's body will discern from having a large object penetrate her, as well as the extended friction across those nerve endings by the longest possible object (My opinion.)

    This t...
    Well, guys who believe size doesn't matter are not going to like this, but basically it's more technique and being determined to please your female partner, which I've always been with my wife.

    It's all about bore and stroke. Bore is girth, and stroke is depth (without discomfort). Using an object substantially larger than I am, I determined stroke. She accepted the bore slowly, then it was a matter of matching stroke speed and radial angles for effect. So it was slow and go, but as she got into it, I increased the tempo. Then back off, then speed up. Before I knew it I slamming away for all I'm worth--never exceeding comfort depth--and she's making these god-awful noises I never knew women could make. From initial come to the point where she made me stop was about 20 minutes (I had eye contact with the bedside alarm clock), and she was temporarily numb from the waist down.

    Physiologically, this is not supposed to be. The whole "size does not matter" position is correctly premised on the concentration of vaginal nerve endings at the base or entrance. But this fails to account for the sense of fullness a woman's body will discern from having a large object penetrate her, as well as the extended friction across those nerve endings by the longest possible object (My opinion.)

    This technique--at least for my wife--was subject to the law of diminishing returns. As she became used to it, it lost its novel appeal over time. She had a number of sustained, multiple orgasms on a number of subsequent interludes, then the intensity tapered off. I have no idea how this would work for a woman whose orgasms are singular instead of multiple.
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  • bud man (oYo) 2011/11/22 21:42:19
    bud man (oYo)
    +3
    The 1988 book, The One Hour Orgasm: How to Learn the Amazing "Venus Butterfly" Technique, written by Leah and Bob Schwartz, is dedicated to educating readers on how to perform the technique. In this variation either the woman or man is lying down, and their partner, sitting next to them with their legs positioned around each other, very gently, with just the minimal amount of pressure (the "touch" of a butterfly's wing, at least on the clitoris) stimulates the clitoris or the hood, with the penis at the two-o'clock or ten-o'clock position. The book suggests keeping the clitoral shaft steady with one thumb laid gently along and beside it, with the other thumb lying lengthwise just within the vagina but not moving deep within it. (All of this is done using a lubricant.) The light pressure continues using the same speed throughout until a peak is reached close to orgasm but not quite (although it can be continued if multiple orgasms are the goal), then the speed is slowed down even further or stopped, but very soon continued again and the person is brought back near orgasm or given a second or third orgasm. This orgasm control on the part of the person providing the technique can be learned over time with a particular partner. The technique can be sustained, "surfing" near the orgasm but stopping occasionally, for a very long time, hence the term "One Hour Orgasm."[7]
  • Fun-Betty bud man... 2011/11/22 22:26:34
    Fun-Betty
    +3
    Very educational
  • Assassin~ Badass Buzz Guru 2011/11/22 21:08:52
    Assassin~ Badass Buzz Guru
    +6
    Oh My. I have not be lucky enough to receive this.
  • Rogue_L... Assassi... 2011/11/22 22:46:08
  • Assassi... Rogue_L... 2011/11/23 14:03:54
    Assassin~ Badass Buzz Guru
    +2
    Beautiful butterflies.
  • K-ZOOMI... Assassi... 2011/11/23 02:31:35
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +2
    Ahem...Hi there Assassin. :)
  • Assassi... K-ZOOMI... 2011/11/23 02:42:03
    Assassin~ Badass Buzz Guru
    +2
    Hi there KZ
  • K-ZOOMI... Assassi... 2011/11/23 07:33:44
    K-ZOOMI-----0
    +1
    I overheard your delima.
    Is there anything that I can do to help?
  • Assassi... K-ZOOMI... 2011/11/23 12:32:25
  • Rogue_L... Assassi... 2011/11/23 12:42:34

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