Have you ever lost someone you were in a relation with and spent years wishing you had them back.

Not me man! I have run into my Ex every now and then over the years... and each time I am SO THANKFUL that I am NOT married to her anymore.

I have made a lot of wrong choices in my life... but divorcing her was absolutely one of the best choices I have ever made!

I'm glad for you though - - better late then never!

not really.There's a reason why they are exes

Not always a GOOD reason, though.

Well speak for yourself.

I did. I said "NOT ALWAYS".

In my case I will say "ALWAYS" so far

Good for you. But at your age, I have socks older than you. LOL. Give it time my friend. It happens all the time. I hope it never happens to you.

It may. Never say "never"

Yeah, I know. But I hope for your sake it doesn't

Well thanks for that

yes but it too long and too sad to talk about...still after some years

I fully understand.Very painful.

My recent ex, a Filipino, thought her citizenship was more important than the marriage. (It cost money to file.) It has been three years. I ended up in Ohio, because I could not live in CA by myself. So during the depths of a recession, I had to give up my temporarily stalled massage business to take care of an ailing mother, who has since died and now I have custody and the burden of looking after an autistic sister.... house under foreclosure, because I can't cover the 1st and 2nd mortgage payments...and downsizing into a trailer. It would have gone much smoother if my ex had reconciled. One other thing...a lot of native Filipinos hate snow...and will only live in warm climates.

My recent ex, after 37 yrs of marriage, filed for divorce. I had no idea why until I saw "THEM" together. A CATHOLIC priest no less. She has had open heart surgery,in line for heart/lung transplant, COPD, on oxygen 24/7, etc. I had stuck with her through it all. Then on Valentines Day last year, I came home from work and was discussing if she wanted togo out for dinner, order in or whatever she wanted. The doorbell rang and there stood a sheriff with divorce papers. I thought it was a joke of some kind but it was for real. EVERYBODY was shocked and had no idea why. Two days before we were discussing taking our 4th trip back to Italy. It was a few weeks later that I caught them together in my home. Long story but I got pictures. LOL. He WAS a Catholic Priest but I put an end to that. I sent a letter and picture to the Southeastern Catholic Dioceses . The odd part is that we are not Catholic ???
My ex from 43 yrs earlier contacted me from over 1000 miles away and we are together, now. My divorce was final last December 17th. Crazt,Huh ?

I do not know where my first ex is.
The 1st one and I also split over money.
She had a $125,000 work comp suit coming in, and did not want to share it. I think perhaps she had a crush on her work comp attorney...and he did the divorce. She did not marry him, however.

I wish women could be more moral.
My mistake with my Filipino wife was marrying her inside the USA. I should have married her over there. Divorces are not allowed in the Philippines without a trial. That way...I could have dragged her through our recession without her breaking off...and we would both be better off today. The 2nd ex is now living the life of Cinderella. Yes...there's Nevada... but she could not marry in her native country. A Guatemalan that was a friend of my mom, got married in the USA, and they had to have it annulled...because he was still married in Guatemala.

Keeping a couple together, if there is no violence, is beneficial for them in the long run. The best way to be happy over the long haul is to stay together and build wealth as a unit. I base this on a lifetime of experience. Today's American law makes divorces too easy...and many lives are ruined by stupidity and momentary greed.

I agree.Far too easy to "SAY I QUIT"

Some former decade's legislation from the bench judges thought no fault divorce was pretty cool. We have women's liberation, and the sexual revolution. I hope, and I think, despite our liberal outlook on sex...divorce has been very destructive. Lives are built and character strengthened by making people work it out. CA is mulling over a 6 month delay, plus they MUST seek counseling at least twice. And a divorce in NV is not recognized in CA, unless the rules are followed.

These former judges caused tens of millions of suffering couples and children. People when they get bent out of shape just are not thinking clearly. There needs to be some kind of mediation. 90% of divorces...upon a 2nd look...are really, really dumb.

A marriage is NOT a car or a house...but based on how we treat it - you would think it of less importance than your car. Most of younger people's emotional problems are based on broken marriages.

Giving the couple the power, instead of a judge, has almost ruined America as we know it.

I posted this after the others...but your divorce papers reminds me of a German friend of my late mother's, now also gone. He had been married three times. He was STILL living in the house when the mail came ... showing a divorce is final. She told him...they are divorced now...and promptly kicked him out! No...my mom had nothing to do with his divorce.

I feel for ya man.

to be honest no.

Most people haven't