not going to lie. my first relationship, he was verbally abusive and i felt trapped.
i was terrified.
when i DID end it, he cornered me in the hall at school and threatened me.. wouldn't let me go to class, then showed up at my doorstep the next day.
Telling the whole damn world? Sorry, I completely disagree. It's a private matter between a husband an wife and none of your, or anyone else's business.
Most people here do not reveal their real identity here, I don't think cheating confessions reveal very much when its by someone who is pretty much anonymous.
And all I basically stated was that I personally don't think there is anything wrong with someone who wants to be upfront and admit to their mistakes, that takes a big person really.
Not if it does more harm than good. In that case it would be selfish. People can break up their families and leave their children with divorced parents. I haven't cheated, but do you see how I look at things differently than you? If I had and told my wife, I would have ruined my family because I didn't know enough to keep my mouth shut.
Yes, I do see how you look at things differently and I even get it as I kind of agree with your pov, but..I also hold honestly in a higher regard, which is why I can really appreciate it when people own up to their mistakes. I also think it is unfair for the cheated spouse to be left in the dark about his/her spouse's infidelity.
i was terrified.
when i DID end it, he cornered me in the hall at school and threatened me.. wouldn't let me go to class, then showed up at my doorstep the next day.
And all I basically stated was that I personally don't think there is anything wrong with someone who wants to be upfront and admit to their mistakes, that takes a big person really.
that is something I could NEVER DO (And NEVER will I do)
(UGH .. just against my personal moral code)