Guys: have you ever had the "talk" with your future brother in law? Ladies, do you know if your brother had the "talk" with your future husband?

I guess I just can't relate to this. My two brothers were much more welcome-to-the-family with my husband, and as such, they would not get into issuing these bombastic macho threats.

The other thing is that I'm a woman, which means I am a GROWN-UP. I don't need anyone else, not even my brothers, to fight my battles for me.

Also, the man I chose to marry is not the type of person whose butt would ever need to be kicked by one of my brothers. My brothers know me and trusted me enough to marry a man who was already of high-quality and would not need anyone else to "set him straight."

That's how my husband and my brothers are. That's why, again, maybe I just can't relate to what I am reading here.

My brother likes my husband a lot. They hunt and fish together all the time. They get along great, it was just a formality that my brother had to put out there. He has heard bad stories about women marrying police officers. He just wanted my husband to know he won't sit back and let anything happen with out making noise.. My husband, even though he likes his brother in law did the samething when his sister got married. It's a kind of "welcome to the family but don't wrong my sister or you WILL have a problem with me" formality..

Hum.... I guess our family just minds their own business. My brother would never dream of telling my man what to do.

I think that's the sweetest thing I've ever heard. On both counts.

My little brother is a good guy, he was just doing his duty as a brother. Hubby knows not to mess with my brother or he has to answer to me :)~

Why would your husband mess with your brother anyway?

He wouldn't, they get along great. I think there is a communication gap here... There is a formality that takes place in some cultures. My husband was welcomed into the family with open arms, but he could easily wear out that welcome if he does anything to hurt me mentally or physically. My husband is not like that, he is pretty easy going. He didn't take offense to what my brother said like you are. He understands that a brother is expected to watch out for his sister, you know, defend her honor... In return, if he did try to do anything to my brother (which he would never do) he understands that my family is important to me, I wouldn't stand for it and he would possibly lose me too..

I have that talk every time my sis (not technically but we've been like siblings for years) gets serious with a guy but mine goes more like If you hurt her they'll never find your body lol

That's a good one, I bet it gets the guy's attention lol

Yea it helps that I'm kinda a big guy and becoming a cop lol

My hubby is a cop and a big guy that's why I think it's hilarious that my brother told him that.

Lol it's our job to

Hmm.. I thought it was the beer.. :)~ But that makes sense too..

Well booze helps if ya got to stand up to someone bigger then you lol

I tell that to every guy my sister dates. One guy I'm still looking forward to running into.. >:) He better be glad he never hit her though.. First bruise I ever see on my sister, I am going to jail for a very long time..

You are a good sister...

*i screwed up and originally said brother. My apologies...

Sister. Younger sister, but, stronger than my older sister. I can take a hit and throw one back stronger than the other person, mainly because if I get hit I get pissed and black out. Though I try not to black out.. That can't be a good thing. But it makes me mad nonetheless, my adrenaline levels rise and it makes me stronger.

Oops sorry... Sounds like you are protective of your big sister, that's good. some guys don't know how to treat a woman, someone needs to be there to keep them in check..

Haha yeah. :) I wish we did have a brother though. That would be cool. (Older, not younger. Younger brothers seem to be annoying.)

Haha... Tell me about it. My brother is younger than me. He caused me all sorts of embarrassment growing up. But I still love him dearly..

Hey girl !! :) You gotta take care of her. If she has a problem you can borrow my hubby :). He will be more than happy to set the guy straight..

He is a big imposing looking guy. Especially when he has his uniform and bullet proof vest on. He likes scaring the poop out of young punks that don't have any manners :) *hugs*

Ohhh trust me, he has a geeky side LOL. I don't understand his fascination with Star Wars..

Nope, he turns me on :) nothing like big strapping guy with a geeky side LOL

BTW.... Congrats on the graduation :). I hope you didn't trip on stage :)~. I'm glad to hear from you. As a worried mom and paranoid trauma nurse I always worry about people i know going to graduation parties. I can't help it I guess, I'm just wired that way :)~

I wish my son would stay away from drinking parties, he could learn a good lesson from you...

I can't stop my son because he is 21 and I have to respect his decisions whether I like it or not... :/

No, my sister would do far worse to my brother in law than I ever could.

LOL.

I have females cousins and I have given the talk a few times

That's very sweet of you to look out for your cousins. My cousins don't even know what city I live in. The last time I heard from them on a regular basis was while I was deployed and I have been out of the Army for 8 years..

I was an only child. So My Cousins "ADOPTED" me

Ohhh, i thought you meant the talk where I inform him where Dad keeps the Playboys hidden in the barn loft.

No, that part of the orientation is AFTER the marriage takes place and the honeymoon is over :)~