Guy Advice
TrailOfTears
2012/06/13 03:55:20
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Me and this really great guy started going out last week. He's the whole nine yards; sexy, sweet, flirty, smart, nice. When im around him, i always have butterfly's in my stomach so to speak; basically all the mushy gushy crap you hear about in books. We've been friends for about 5 years now and have just started going out.
Upon him asking me out, i was unbelievably happy so i said yes and told a couple of my friends the news. They basically called me an idiot.
You see, this guy sorta has a reputation for sleeping around. In all of his past relationships, hes either flirted or slept with another girl.
I keep thinking that since iv known him longer and am closer to him than all of those other girls that maybe he wont do that with me, but then another part of my brain is calling me stupid for even thinking that i would be any different.
What do you think i should do? I really like this guy and don't want to break up with him when the relationship has barely even started, i want to see where it goes, but at the same time, i don't want to have to constantly worry about him cheating.
Upon him asking me out, i was unbelievably happy so i said yes and told a couple of my friends the news. They basically called me an idiot.
You see, this guy sorta has a reputation for sleeping around. In all of his past relationships, hes either flirted or slept with another girl.
I keep thinking that since iv known him longer and am closer to him than all of those other girls that maybe he wont do that with me, but then another part of my brain is calling me stupid for even thinking that i would be any different.
What do you think i should do? I really like this guy and don't want to break up with him when the relationship has barely even started, i want to see where it goes, but at the same time, i don't want to have to constantly worry about him cheating.
dating shouldn't have to be about insecurities and issues like this; it should just be about having fun!
just talk to him about it, and if he does anything to poop on the party, then leave, cuz the prior knowledge won't make it as bad.
I think you would be more of an idiot if you didn't give him a chance and threw him away on your friends' advice before he can prove himself to be good to you. Maybe he's ashamed of his reputation and doesn't want to be like that, who knows. If you never give someone a chance to redeem themselves then they never will.
I hope that was helpful? :)
I'd keep on my toes.
A true friend relationship should take a while before morphing into the horizontal bop.
Otherwise, you'll wind up a statistic as your friends suggested.