Getting Back Together With Your Ex: Worth a Shot, or Usually a Bad Idea?

by SodaHead Living Posted 2012/03/02 20:51:23

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We've all been there -- there's that one person you just can't seem to stay away from, even though you've gotten back together and broken up at least three times already. Is it worth one more shot? A new study says no.

According to a report published by Kansas State University, study author Amber Vennum, assistant professor of family studies and human services, found that couples in on-again, off-again relationships tended to be less satisfied with their partner; had worse communication; made more decisions that negatively affected the relationship; had lower self-esteem; and had a higher uncertainty about their future together.

Nevertheless, 40 percent of college-age young adults "are currently in a relationship where they have broken up and then have gotten back together," Vennum said in a university news release.

And don't think everything gets better if you decide to tie the knot. The study also found that "cyclical couples" began their marriages with less satisfaction and more conflict. Guess there's no such thing as a fairy-tale ending, though many of us still feel wistful about "the one who got away" ... do you think getting back together with your ex is worth a shot? Or usually a bad idea?

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PhillipDavis 2012/03/02 21:11:51

Usually a bad idea

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Cantus_bird 2012/03/03 04:16:08

Usually a bad idea

+1
Once you've both moved on, i don't think it's a good idea to get back with your ex.

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AurouraNatasha 2012/03/03 04:09:37

Worth a shot

+1
It would depend on a lot of things ,

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shelee.... to Auroura... 2013/05/04 11:44:46

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5 days ago, I asked of a love spell from dr.marnish@yahoo.com to help bring back my boyfriend and within 3 days he casterd the spell, the spell started working straight away. before i could know what is happening my lover who broke my heart came to my house to ask me out for a lunch" we back together now and we are living happily – Shelee Victoria, Australia

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Rhi-ot. 2012/03/03 03:57:18

Usually a bad idea

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There should be an "other" option. If the person cheated on you, abused you, you fight all the time, or just wasn't a good partner than it's usually a bad idea. If other factors had to do with your parting with one another, I say it's worth a shot. Like if you were both in university and too busy/ stressed for a relationship and want to try when your lives are more settled, it's okay to try again.

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Wayzuns 2012/03/03 03:29:52

Worth a shot

If a couple has been together for a while (1-2 years) and then for whatever reason break up (usually one or the other thinks it's time to "date other people") and a few weeks go by where they are both hearing every song on the radio as if it was written just for them and their situation, and then they realize breaking up was a serious mistake, then they really need to get back together. It becomes unbearable for them to be apart any longer, and all they can think about is getting back together. Their relationship once they get back together will usually be better than it ever was, and they figure out that despite that passing fancy one of them had to try out the rest of the field, they were meant to be together. They are a couple, and it will end up staying that way for a long long time. It's almost what the Bachelor Party was originally intended to prove. Yes, it is worth it for a person to get back with their ex.

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rebecca to Wayzuns 2012/03/03 12:31:41

try 4 almost,(3 yrs and 7months)

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Sabrina_! 2012/03/03 03:07:47

Worth a shot

If they weren't abusive, and treated you right, then maybe. If you feel so incomplete without them, probably should try again. If it's been a long, long time and you think that you need them(which you don't), it's probably just post-break up emotions, and you should try someone else you like

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Nam Era Vet #1 DNA TLC 2012/03/03 03:05:38

Usually a bad idea

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Not usually a good idea. But I suppose there are always excpetions.

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LdyLeo 2012/03/03 02:54:44 (edited)

Usually a bad idea

I would have to say both because sometimes you can work things out with an ex, but on the other hand, it is as bad as seeing your best friend dating that ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. That person might never change in that relationship.

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KristinnC: 2012/03/03 02:42:59 (edited)

Usually a bad idea

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i didd and i was happy:D

but all we did to each other is break each others hearts!!

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Giantfighter 2012/03/03 02:41:24

Usually a bad idea

If there was good enough reason to split without making an effort to stay together, there is no reason to go backwards. It's better to let go, learn from the mistakes that were so difficult to honor commitment, so move forward & make a better effort in your next opportunity.

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Dickens 2012/03/03 02:26:11

Usually a bad idea

..in my experience, they're usually the ex for a reason...

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JJ 2012/03/03 01:59:22

Worth a shot

+1
Anything worth fighting for is worth trying.

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GirlyAngel<3 2012/03/03 01:48:46

Usually a bad idea

+3
There your ex for a reason....

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Carambola 2012/03/03 01:39:48

Worth a shot

+1
..I guess.

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clasact 2012/03/03 01:33:36

Usually a bad idea

most people cant put the past behind them and move on or remember the good parts of the relationship instead of the bad so getting back together normally wont work

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Th8nos 2012/03/03 01:07:19

Usually a bad idea

Just make em

...and be done with it

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Moonbeams 2012/03/03 01:06:07

Usually a bad idea

+1
Considering the relationship;

I rather not recycle a disappointment.

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Georgia50 2012/03/03 00:53:13

Worth a shot

Not that I've ever made the attempt (don't have an ex, either), but if makeup sex is any indicator, get-back-with-the-ex-sex oughta be awesome.

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Candace Washington 2012/03/03 00:39:45

Usually a bad idea

Come on now, you broke up with them for a reason. If it was over something petty, sure I guess. But then again, you might blow up over something petty again

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naomicolleen 2012/03/03 00:32:33

Usually a bad idea

there's a reason why you broke up in the first place, they/you acted or portrayed in a way that pursued your future of being no more, generally what I'm trying to say is that theres a quality why you broke up and theres no realization that can change that habit, you are who you are

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Bocephus 2012/03/03 00:25:37

Worth a shot

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I got back with my X. Now we have 2 children and plan on getting married.

I guess it depends on how or who broke up. But in my opinion doesn't matter. Better than being alone and works as long as you are willing.

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rebecca to Bocephus 2012/03/03 12:28:45

+1
congratulations on that !

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Quazar 2012/03/03 00:20:12

Usually a bad idea

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The word that says it all is "EX".

Ask yourself why he or she is your EX. I bet something went wrong and that made him or her an "EX"! This is not that tough to figure.

I guess "EX times 2" is the new "EX"?

Oh well I guess it's alot like...... CRAP I can't think of anything it's like.

Just move on to the "NEW" and leave the "EX" in the past.

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laurissa 2012/03/03 00:13:54

Worth a shot

I'm dating my ex from a few years ago and its better then any other relationship. There's just something about him. It's wonderful.

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tallChristian 2012/03/02 23:55:19

Worth a shot

+1
I would like to try to get back together with my ex-fiance(e) or at least re-connect with her in order to know how she's doing. It depends on how your relationship was at the time that it ended, and why you want to re-connect.

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savannah milligan 2012/03/02 23:53:59

Worth a shot

i went out with my boyfriend Daniel Farmer for 4 months and then we just faded away.but a couple days after we broke up we got back together.but then it didnt feel right so we just split.bigest mistake of my lide was breaking his heart.he was truly the love of my life!

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Wonder Woman 2012/03/02 23:53:47
Candace... to Wonder ... 2012/03/03 00:41:18

+1
sorry that happened to you. sucks

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glasspixel 2012/03/02 23:53:27

Usually a bad idea

Usually it's a really bad idea.

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Phil 2012/03/02 23:52:44

Worth a shot

I would give up all I own even down to my blood to have my ex take me back.

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Bocephus to Phil 2012/03/03 00:23:48

Sweetest thing I have heard in a while.

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rebecca to Bocephus 2012/03/03 12:26:34

i agree with you

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[Katsu]™ 2012/03/02 23:51:38

Usually a bad idea

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If it didn't work out the last time for a major reason it probably wont work out the next time(s).

If it is something minor, then.. perhaps. But it really does depend on what you broke up over the first time(s).

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♌βļąƈʞƦơșƐ3033♌ 2012/03/02 23:48:04

Worth a shot

+2
I say worth a shot. I broke up with my boyfriend after a few months only to get back together with him soon after and we've been together for over four years.

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rebecca to ♌βļąƈʞƦ... 2012/03/03 12:25:58

mine was almost 4 yrs(3 yrs and 7 months)

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Starrella 2012/03/02 23:41:23

Usually a bad idea

+2
it may seem like a good idea at the time bc its comfortable but it doesn't take long to remember why it didn't work the first time around.

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TheMadChameleon 2012/03/02 23:28:08

Usually a bad idea

+2
It COULD end well, but that's not likely. I'll admit, were I single and certain we'd both grown up, I would not be opposed to giving my ex another shot, but I wouldn't seek it out, and don't think that in most cases that sort of thing would end well.

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Sister Jean 2012/03/02 23:23:05

Usually a bad idea

+5
99% not a success

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Bess to Sister ... 2012/03/03 17:39:12

+1
Thats what they say but would you want to try if you may have had doubts in the first place regarding the breakup?

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