Friends with benefits; yay or nay?

by L1 Posted 2012/06/18 06:21:10

Related Topics: Friends, Friends With Benefits, Friend

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	Undecided	10 votes	25%

This is a tough one; if both are ok with it, fine. The only problem I think that happen is if one of them develops more intense feelings for the other, while that other doesn't feel the same way. How about you? What do you think?
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Sista Nunya 2012/06/18 18:54:56

Undecided

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Brendan... to john 2012/06/19 13:51:13

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Yea okay Mr. "buddy" hahaha

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john to Brendan... 2012/06/19 16:25:12

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should have expected a childish answer, i bet your parents are so proud of you...

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Brendan... to john 2012/06/19 16:28:38

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Maby....is your wife proud of you for saying your the "phuck buddy" type?

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john to Brendan... 2012/06/19 17:54:45

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she loves me, no problem ,people joke about on here, you might find that out when you grow up.....

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Brendan... to john 2012/06/19 17:56:34

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Oh yess I'm young very original.

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john to Brendan... 2012/06/19 18:00:10

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you seem to be trying to prove you have not grow up yet....

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Sista N... to Brendan... 2012/06/19 15:44:31
none 2012/06/18 17:48:39

Yes....

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I can't see anything wrong with it.

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L1 to none 2012/06/18 18:25:56

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Me neither. Thanks!

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sky 2012/06/18 17:00:39

Undecided

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Sounds like trouble.

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L1 to sky 2012/06/18 18:26:29

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It can be, if one or both decide to change their feelings.
Thanks!

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SteveMarine- JLA 2012/06/18 16:18:26

Undecided

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Fine with me.... Relationships usually suck horribly.

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L1 to SteveMa... 2012/06/18 18:26:47

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LOL! Some can that's for sure!
Thanks!

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Flowers 2012/06/18 14:04:05

Yes....

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if both people are okay with it, why the hell not? I wouldn't, I have a perfectly great best friend who is my fiancee.

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L1 to Flowers 2012/06/18 18:27:02

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I agree. Thank you.

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EmYo81 2012/06/18 13:15:36

No.....

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Meaningless sex does no good for no one. I couldn't imagine using someone for thrills.

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L1 to EmYo81 2012/06/18 18:27:41

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It's tough I imagine if feelings begin to emerge. Thank you.

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Cat 2012/06/18 13:09:09

Yes....

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I have someone I'm Friends with Benefits. We dated before for a very long time.

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L1 to Cat 2012/06/18 18:28:06

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Sounds like you got a good thing going. Thanks fir your input!

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NYCbrit 2012/06/18 12:55:50

Yes....

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I've had a few in life (none right now), and luckily no one's feelings got hurt.

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AM 2012/06/18 12:54:30

No.....

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Not for me.As lonely and difficult as it may get being single.I value myself and my sexuality far too much to ever take it that lightly.

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L1 to AM 2012/06/18 18:28:32

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That's true for some people. Thanks for sharing.

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joshua ben-ami 2012/06/18 12:08:21

Yes....

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Sure but the secret is absolute honesty by all, without recrimination

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L1 to joshua ... 2012/06/18 18:28:46

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Very good point! Thank you!

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Andy Fletcher 2012/06/18 11:12:21

Undecided

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I think it's in the realm of possibility, but I've NEVER seen it actually work for very long. Not for me and not for others.

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L1 to Andy Fl... 2012/06/18 18:29:04

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It's isn't for everybody, I agree! Thanks!

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"OG" 2012/06/18 07:41:31

Undecided

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I've been there done that one and yes the other had feelings that i didn't. But damn was it alot of fun.

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L1 to "OG" 2012/06/18 18:30:03

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It can be fun, yep! It does carry risk of one having feelings later on that are not reciprocated as you pointed out. Thanks!

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"OG" to L1 2012/06/18 18:33:10

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Yes it does happen. Just being human and feelings will always be thrown in. Be it male or female

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L1 to "OG" 2012/06/18 18:52:15

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Yep! True, and that's the risk that goes with FWB. Agreed!

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jake 2012/06/18 06:34:08

Undecided

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It never really ends up working out.

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L1 to jake 2012/06/18 06:37:41

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That's true for some people. Thanks for your input.

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jake to L1 2012/06/18 06:41:58

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I think it's true for pretty much every human being, sex is meant to be something that two people in love do, one person is always gonna develop feelings. Friends with benefits is an idea that lives on borrowed time. Trust me.

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L1 to jake 2012/06/18 06:44:29

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I dunno; I think it's possible to separate sex from love a lot easier than many people would think. Every one is different so I can honestly say that not all would have a problem with friends with benefits set up.
Your ideal is beautiful though.

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jake to L1 2012/06/18 23:52:34

LOL, it works perfectly, for awhile... then they either develop interest in each other or someone likes someone else and wants to be with them only. Matter of time. Your optimism is charming though.

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Pele Emerging 2012/06/18 06:29:49

Undecided

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It can be a dangerous situation, especially because women, in particular, have a hard time keeping their emotions from sex. If both understand the risks up front and are also up front about it if their emotions are getting intense, then...perhaps.

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L1 to Pele Em... 2012/06/18 06:31:41

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Agreed, and both need to keep honest about protection from STDs and contraception, etc.
Thanks!

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Pele Em... to L1 2012/06/18 07:02:21

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Yes, and also be honest if participating in multiple FwB situations.

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L1 to Pele Em... 2012/06/18 07:03:07 (edited)

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Of course. It be unfair and unjust to give someone a STD.

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Pele Em... to L1 2012/06/18 12:25:09

Even without that risk, to have multiple partners, but not be honest about it would not be a good thing.

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