Friend's gf might be cheating? read all before responding!

by Juno_Bell Posted 2012/07/10 23:16:54

Related Topics: fiance, Family, jail, dancing, Guilty, Cheating, Father, Writing, Yard, Person, tell, Front

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	do tell him in letter	1 vote	10%
	do tell him in person	3 votes	30%
	don't say anything at all	4 votes	40%
	wait until he finds out then tell him you had suspecions.	2 votes	20%

I have a friend... he's been in jail for a while and I suspect that his gf isn't being faithful. None of his gf's ever have been. Do I tell him in the letter I'm writing, OR let him find out himself and then tell him I had my suspecions but didn't want to say anything because I didn't know if I was right or wrong? He just wrote me and said he hadn't heard from her in a month. There's been a guy upstairs with her and the family she is staying with on and off and I've seen her converse in inappropriate ways. My father saw her lap dancing a guy in the front yard and my fiance has seen his face a week before that and the guy looked guilty. Please help me. My friend means everything to me!!

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JCD aka "biz" 2012/08/03 15:42:55

don't say anything at all

Is he serving a long sentence?

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Andy Fletcher 2012/07/12 23:07:57

don't say anything at all

You are in a no win situation on this. Right or wrong on if she's cheating, you will be the bad guy if you tell and the bad guy if you don't. Go with your heart. Whatever makes it easiest for you to live with yourself in the aftermath.

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Jimbo 2012/07/12 22:52:38

do tell him in person

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If you can visit him it might be the best. He must be lonely since he's locked up. A lot of guys get dumped when their in jail. Girls get lonely. Maybe it will work it self out when he gets out.

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Dan 2012/07/11 01:26:20

do tell him in person

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If he's already writing to you saying he's not heard from her then he's got to be putting 2 and 2 together, ask him how it's going with his gf, and you'll probably find he already has about 80% idea what's what.

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dustin.oubre 2012/07/11 00:35:39

don't say anything at all

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No offense to you or your friend, but depending on why he's in jail, I'm not surprised his gf is seeing other people.

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AguardianF 2012/07/11 00:00:15

do tell him in letter

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Tell him in the letter so he at least has a heads up...

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blissful 2012/07/10 23:57:45

do tell him in person

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If you are his friend you should let him know what is going-on. But!! I got alittle-feeling that he already knows how his girls work. A wise lady would always tell me that the way you get them is the way you will have to keep them..

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Melizmatic 2012/07/10 23:38:35

don't say anything at all

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Consider this:

What if you're wrong?

Further, can you define conversing in "inappropriate ways"?

Lastly, he's in jail; those sorts of relationships rarely work out in the end.

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Munster 2012/07/10 23:33:44

wait until he finds out then tell him you had suspecions.

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I've been in a similar situation but my friend was not in jail, which was why I decided to tell him about it. Do not tell your friend right now, he's in jail and already has enough to deal with. I'm not sure how long he has to be in, but when he gets out you tell him YOUR suspicions and then let things go from there. It really sucks, especially if this person is like a sibling to you. I had to be honest, it frayed us at first but he eventually came around and thanked me in the end.

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The Elitist Libtard SodaJerk 2012/07/10 23:27:54

wait until he finds out then tell him you had suspecions.

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He's got enough on his plate and way too much time on his hands to obsess over his gf cheating on him. Who knows how fragile his mental state is, It could lead him into making an impulsive decision that lands him in more trouble.

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