For all parents out there, do you invade your childrens privacy or feel you should let them have their privacy.

by dr9nfly Posted 2012/07/15 12:58:15

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I put up another post about teenagers and it led to this post. I personally will invade the hell out of my childrens/teenagers privacy as much as I feel necessary. I will go threw their texts, I have their facebook passwords, I go through their room. And if there is something I'm not even slightly okay with I will call them on it. I know many people see invasion of privacy as a horrible thing and I would like to know why it's horrible. If I can prevent a problem from getting out of control I think that's a good thing.

ehrhornp 2012/07/16 08:03:16

When my daughter was growing up we respected her privacy. We must have done something right as she did very well in school, received a partial scholarship to college and is now an attorney.

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dr9nfly to ehrhornp 2012/07/16 08:13:03

Good job. My boys are animals and like to think they are smarter than me.

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ehrhornp to dr9nfly 2012/07/16 16:20:09

I think the best move we did was to get her involved in soccer. Through soccer she kept focus on what's important and came to the conclusion on her own that A's are what should be the goal and anything less is not good.

Now I don't know if soccer would work for you but I feel that kids need extracurricular activity and lots of it. My daughter also got involved in Band for a few years and Art. Two activities that had a calming effect upon her. Amazing that the more they do, the more they can do.

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dr9nfly to ehrhornp 2012/07/16 19:35:41

I wonder if gender has a lot to do with them being better. My sister and i didn't ever need to be watched so close but my one brother, that was a whole different thing lol. I'm don,t find stuff and yell at them but I bring it to their attention that it isn't acceptable.

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ehrhornp to dr9nfly 2012/07/16 22:09:07

I am sure gender plays a big role. Looking back glad I had a daughter.

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Beat Magnum True Hero 2012/07/15 21:46:21

The start of a very long and toxic relationship. Never confuse respect for silent festering resentment.

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XXrawwwrXX 2012/07/15 17:46:12

i respect my childrens privacy, and when/if they get facebooks or cell phones, i wont go through them unless i have reason to believe that they are in danger.

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Lord Emperor of Dune 2012/07/15 17:10:52
dr9nfly to Lord Em... 2012/07/16 08:14:45

Like maybe a little better at all those schools were kids and teachers got shot and thieir parents had "no idea" their kids had any of that in their rooms.

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Cantus_bird 2012/07/15 14:36:19

No, i don't invade my childrens privacy and if that is something you believe in doing for your children then that is your choice. There are all kinds of parenting styles out there for families and who are we to say what is right or wrong with this or that kind of parenting. The only kind of parenting i am against is the one that will abuse children ...

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Metaldane 2012/07/15 14:14:03

The reason many don't is first your kids will resent you for it, secondly they feel as if you don't respect them enough to trust them further hurting your relationship, and thirdly many of the kids I know who went though that started doing bad things because of it because they felt like their parents expected it anyways so who cares.

I know if my family had done that I wouldve probably cut them out of my life.

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