My Mom taught me to be a gentleman.
Imagine my shock as two college girls scream at me that I was an "old pervert" for holding the door open at McD's for them as I was leaving and they were entering.
Sad day in America when your nice deed gets your accused.
FAIR? MARRIED FATHER CHARGED FOR OFFERING GIRLS A RIDE HOME DURING IL SNOWSTORM
doofiegirl POTL~PWCM~JLA
2012/03/20 12:40:52
It's Chicago in winter. There is a snowstorm. A man sees two girls walking. The girls have no protection from the weather. The man kindheartedly stops, and asks the girls if he can take them to where they are going. The girls say no, they are OK. The man drives away. Three days later, the man is charged with disorderly conduct. Has the world really fallen this far to where every offer of help is a crime? Should the man have just driven on, and left the girls in the storm and on foot? There is something terribly wrong when real concern is turned into a crime!
I unfortunately failed to see the trouble my good intention would cause, my sincere apologies to the two teenage girls, their parents and the local school involved, you however can rest assured that this was a huge misunderstanding and that the girls were at absolutely no risk whatsoever.
Do you think the police are right to file charges, after seeing the bigger picture? Or are they being too cautious?
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K-ZOOMI-----0 2012/03/20 13:29:13
I can imagine their response now:
"If he were a non-Christian, we would know he was a perverted sicko trying to entice those girls into his car to do GOD knows what to them, but it says he's a Christian, so he was obviously just trying to do a good deed. Anyway, he shouldn't have stopped for those girls, because if they didn't have any protection from the weather, they're probably from a liberal family where the lazy bum parents are on welfare and don't provide the children with basic needs. They should get off their butts and go out and get jobs so they can buy those girls proper clothing without expecting handouts from the government or hardworking, taxpaying, patriotic citizens to take care of them!"
Don
I also don't think there is any predator "plague", they have always been around, it is just more in the public eye now (which is a good thing), but the media overblow it just like they overblow everything else.
Hell, when I was a kid I could go out and play.
If anything, I think it is much harder to get away with it now.
Ignorance is sometimes bliss, not in that case.
Even though I had molestation attempted against me and know many others who did or were actually molested, I do think the pendulum has swung WAY too far the other way.
Freedom is a precious thing.
Is that because news of these crimes was hushed up? Perhaps cases of incest or other cases of sexual abuse within families were, but I doubt that violent sexual acts carried out in the open were kept from the public.
I'm not saying you're wrong. You certainly know what happened to you or to people you knew. However, your experience is entirely different from mine.
I remember this one park we went to there was this man that would come and open up his coat and expose himself (this was to me and 3 friends). We went and told the Police (more than once). I don't know if they ever caught the guy.
Anyway, back to molesters, in most cases, it is people you know who try it (don't take my word for it, look it up, that is a fact). In my case it was a neighbor, my Uncle and my Brother's friend. Told on all of them, of course back then you got a "good talking to", not charges pressed, my Mom read my uncle the riot act, my Brother threatened severe bodily harm to his friend if he tried to touch me again, I avoided the neighbor like the plague, it was hard to pin anything on him, but he was a predator (his actions were NOT normal) and I never let him get me alone (there were several times he tried to get me in his car and/or in his house, he had a beautiful wife and kids too, what sicko he was). I could not report him to the Police unless he actu...
I remember this one park we went to there was this man that would come and open up his coat and expose himself (this was to me and 3 friends). We went and told the Police (more than once). I don't know if they ever caught the guy.
Anyway, back to molesters, in most cases, it is people you know who try it (don't take my word for it, look it up, that is a fact). In my case it was a neighbor, my Uncle and my Brother's friend. Told on all of them, of course back then you got a "good talking to", not charges pressed, my Mom read my uncle the riot act, my Brother threatened severe bodily harm to his friend if he tried to touch me again, I avoided the neighbor like the plague, it was hard to pin anything on him, but he was a predator (his actions were NOT normal) and I never let him get me alone (there were several times he tried to get me in his car and/or in his house, he had a beautiful wife and kids too, what sicko he was). I could not report him to the Police unless he actually tried something (just trying to get me in his car was not enough back then), and I was not about to let him try something. By the time the Neighbor happened, I was 13 so I knew enough to realize what he was up to, good thing for me, but I hope he did not get anybody else. I warned all my friends in the area about him.
Other people I know, it is the same story, mostly people near to and/or trusted by the family or even family members. Look up some statistics on it, those are the people who usually do it, the ones who have easy access.
Stranger abduction happens but is much more rare. I honestly think it happened just as much if not more back then, but there was not awareness of it like there is now. When my brother's friend tried to molest me, I was 8. I had no idea what sex even was, but I told my brother what he said and asked me to do, and he knew what it meant.
Do some googling on the Internet, you will be surprised how many adults have come forward with stories like mine (worse than mine, I was lucky to have people to protect me).
All of that said, the guy who tried to get me in his car actually stalked me. I think if somebody offers a ride in a snowstorm, you say no, they drive away and that is the end, they don't deserve to be charged. Even though that happened to me, I think the police doing that is crazy.
I can think of a couple of times when my car broke down when I was younger, before cell phones, and strangers stopped and helped me (men both times). I hate to think people can't get help when they need it due to excessive paranoia.
From 1962 to 2010, forcible rapes in Vermont increased by three and a half times.
From 1962 ro 2010, forcible rapes in Oklahoma increased by over five times.
From 1962 to 2010, forcible rapes in Hawaii increased by over ten times.
Should I check out the other 47 states as well?
I lived in a small city of around 125,000. My grandmother was always warning me to stay away from strangers and not to talk to anyone I did not know.
I can tell you some of my friends told and were not believed. I am so thankful that did not happen in my case, that really sucks when your Parents are not there for you.
Then again one of my friends was molested by her own Father.
That's what this story tells me. How sad.
Like he said something odd or questionable... because I think the police would normally let it go and not track him down unless their was something odd or questionable.
Did the girls write down his plate? Or did the police go through the trouble of finding his car via cameras, or what? ... this just sounds like a strange story and I feel like their is more to the story.
Also every now and then I ask people, walking if they need a ride... some say yes, some say no but I've never had a problem. Also sometimes a biker (when walking) trying to go up a steep hill, when I'm in a truck...
As for 3 days later... if the girls reported it and didn't get plate... the cops might of needed time to look for it via video tapes. Of traffic lights and/or video at the gas station. Or there could be another reason...
I can see where he was trying to help. He didn't pursue it or insist that they get in the car. He just drove off.
On the other hand, if I were one of those girls I'd be a bit disturbed by the whole offering of a ride.
Would this have "disturbed" you so much if the driver who stopped were a woman?
If your answer is no, then that means you're an anti-male sexist.