Extreme Parenting: To Leash or Not to Leash?

Fef 2012/06/26 02:01:02
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Kids need parents to protect them. And parents need tools to protect kids. But leashes? Kid leashes make make them safer, but putting leashes on humans (big or small) violates some expected cultural boundaries.

“I felt a little funny about it. We were on vacation with my sister-in-law in Seattle. I was juggling a bunch of children and worried about someone running out, and she said ‘Why don’t you put this on your daughter?’ So I did and it just kind of made sense,” said Mother of four and family psychologist Kristen Howerton of New York City.

ABCNews.com reports:It’s becoming almost a common sight–and a great debate for any modern family. To leash or not to leash small children? For parents across the country, there is no middle ground. Mother of four and family psychologist Kristen Howerton of New York City says she was given a safety harness as a gift. “I felt a little funny about it. We were on vacation with my sister-in-law in Seattle. I was juggling a bunch of children and worried about someone running out, and she said ‘Why don’t you put this on your daughter?’ So I did and it just kind…

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  • jgh57 2012/06/26 02:07:58
    There is nothing wrong with using a leash. Anyone that thinks so should come and work a few shifts in the ER and see what happens when a child runs out in front of a car. It ain't pretty.

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  • ☠ Live ... vetogod 2012/06/26 23:50:06
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    And a child harness would've done it without me having to go to the emergency room.
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 00:01:43
    Because she didn't want you to get killed. I don't know why you would have liked to be treated like a dog, when not even dogs deserve lashes.
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/27 00:07:37
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    It's a HARNESS, first of all. Second, not even dogs deserve leashes? What are you, a PETA freak?
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 00:54:06
    Still, they are LEASHED they're being treated like animals, and you people defend other people as if we were not animals. And no, I'm not a PETA freak, I just believe in animals rights and freedom!
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/27 01:02:45
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    LOL, maybe you'll start thinking with your head instead of your heart when your kid or your dog gets sprayed all over the highway by an 18 wheeler.
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 01:24:33
    And it looks like you're not even thinking. If you take care, love and educate your kid/dog you will never EVER need lashes.
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/27 01:31:23
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    Keep telling yourself that...
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 01:51:02
    Same with you. I hope that when you have kids you actually think about how cruel it is to leash a child. Maybe having your own will change your mind.
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/27 02:01:22
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    Seriously doubt it.
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 21:46:11
    I'll pray for your future kids.
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/28 23:10:44
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    Okay, get on your knees and talk to yourself for my future kids. Whatever floats your boat.
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/29 03:04:41
    Do you actually thought I would waste my time praying for other people's kids?
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/29 03:06:11
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    IDK, I really don't care if you talk to yourself. Different strokes for different folks, and what not...
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/29 03:45:14
    I didn't understand that.
  • ☠ Live ... Mecynogea 2012/06/29 03:46:04
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    I know.
  • Mecynogea ☠ Live ... 2012/06/29 04:07:18
    I wonder how.
  • bricklyn Mecynogea 2012/07/01 02:58:32
    Not all situations are safe,.

    I always used to hold my daughter hand until I was at the CNE in Toronto one afternoon when the crowd became extremely dense and started closing in and I could not control the direction I was walking in. I could also feel my daughter hand slipping out of mine. I knew that if I let go of her hand she would be gone instantly and I would never find her in the crowd of thousand of people. It was one of the most difficult hours I have ever spent just trying to hand onto her and
    keep from being seperated from her.

    The next day, I noticed that her entire hand was completely brused and swollen. I had done that to her.
  • vetogod ☠ Live ... 2012/06/26 23:47:45
    if it hurts the kid knows not to do it more
  • ☠ Live ... vetogod 2012/06/26 23:50:15
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    That's terrible...
  • vetogod ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 02:12:46
    no it not if you run into something it hurts so you try not to do it again same concept if a kid runs away and you pull them back if it hurts they dont try it
  • ☠ Live ... vetogod 2012/06/27 02:14:53
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    But if you use a child harness, it DOESN'T hurt.
  • vetogod ☠ Live ... 2012/06/27 05:34:42
    also makes them look like and accessory leave leashes on dogs not children
  • ☠ Live ... vetogod 2012/06/27 13:24:30
    ☠ Live Free Or Die ☠
    Shouldn't safety come before what society will think of you as a parent?
  • vetogod ☠ Live ... 2012/06/28 19:59:49
    it dose and having some dignity by not taking your kid like a amimal and not being a lazy parent who prefers leashing the kid also helps
  • sjalan 2012/06/26 02:43:29
    When you have a hyperactive child that dashes this way and that a leash is almost manditory to protect the child.
  • Kat ♪ ~ ♪ 2012/06/26 02:28:16
    Kat ♪ ~ ♪
    My son is 22 I used one when he was small, it was much safer. It's not like I tied him out like the dog.
  • FencerCat 2012/06/26 02:26:26
    I think there is middle ground. I think judiciously used, they can be good. I've seen people use them effectively in Europe. You don't leash a kid all the time, but sometimes toddlers want their independce to walk and don't want to be in a stroller, so in that situation, especially one who likes to run off or in a crowd, they can be good. Hand holding has its downfalls, too. Toddlers are much shorter than adults, so it can be wrenching for them to have their hands held. Adults can accidentally pull to hard, or the child can, causing a bit of shoulder wrenching. I don't like the leashes that attach wrist to wrist with velcro. Too easy for someone who wants to grab a kid to get that off the child's wrist. If you're going to do it, use the harness type. Of course, they shouldn't be used all the time. In safe, uncrowded situations, toddlers should be allowed to test their independence a little more. And once the child is past toddler stage, the leash should disappear.
  • Bali 2012/06/26 02:20:44
    Not to Leash
    when we grew up leashes were not necessary....the leash was in your mind that your parents would beat you to death if you didn't behave.
  • vetogod Bali 2012/06/26 02:55:23
    but mow that discipline is not being practiced kids are so disrespectful now days they carry guns to school i bet that would not be the case if they were spanked every now and then
  • Bali vetogod 2012/06/26 13:48:02
    exactly. parents are to blame 100 percent of the time. why would anyone need to leash a well behaved child?
  • vetogod Bali 2012/06/26 23:25:51
    thank you like my opinion says they are not a dog let the little prick have some freedom
  • Kyle 2012/06/26 02:20:14
    kids got to learn to stay by there parents
  • Gracie - Proud Conservative 2012/06/26 02:20:09
    Gracie - Proud Conservative
    My brain would tell me not to leash because I could control my daughter. Then I met my husband's nephew's daughter. She started running down a busy street outside of her birthday party and they literally had to get into a car and run her down. Since then I understand that it's better to have people look at you funny than watch a child be run over or lost. I do believe that parenting could prevent that kind of thing but apparently some parents aren't great parents!
  • jubil8 BN-0 PON 2012/06/26 02:17:04
    jubil8 BN-0 PON
    Leashes -- or "leading strings" -- as they were called in England are a great safety device for young children. Mom has to learn to work it properly, but once mastered, they're very useful. A child can trip -- and they ALL do -- and Mom can control the fall letting the chid reach the ground so it learns about watching where it's going, but no hurt. Or Mom can carry on a sensible conversation while a child sits on the ground or wanders in a small circle -- no tugging on hands, no breaking off in the middle of a sentence to dash after Jr.

    I used to think they were terrible too until I saw them in use.
  • Caedus01 Sith Lord of the P... 2012/06/26 02:16:41 (edited)
    Caedus01 Sith Lord of the PHAET
    The first time I saw that i was disgusted but then I watched the news and saw how many kids were being kidnapped by sick people! So if that what it takes to keep children safe from psychos .... so be it!!
  • ♒ßεllεc... Caedus0... 2012/06/26 20:34:16
    duct tape works better!
  • Caedus0... ♒ßεllεc... 2012/06/26 20:35:52
    Caedus01 Sith Lord of the PHAET
    my mom carried me in one of those cages lol
  • ♒ßεllεc... Caedus0... 2012/06/26 20:38:35
    my parents beat my azz if i strayed. lol i just insisted upon hand-holding and used "the look"....
  • Caedus0... ♒ßεllεc... 2012/06/26 20:41:31
    Caedus01 Sith Lord of the PHAET
    i never wandered mom would drop me off at the bookstore the clerks were always nice and kept an eye on me while i read the comic books.
  • WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA 2012/06/26 02:15:20
    WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA
    In some cases if it keeps them safe. I never did, but I am not against it.

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