Does Verbal abuse Hurt more than Physical abuse?

I have been a victim of both, and physical abuse is less traumatizing.

Verbal abuse has a way of getting under your skin. Both literally and figuratly. They tell you what people think of you, and you can carry the scars forever. I should know. Been through hell.

Both are bad, both are a form of bullying...neither are healthy for the recipient.

Since I have fortunately, never experienced any great physical abuse, I don't feel I can give an honest opinion in that area. As for verbal abuse, any verbal hurts I have suffered, I remember every single one.

Many people end up killing themselves becuase of it.

Unfortunately, the abusers can't be prosecuted for a suicide...

Yeah that's true.

My mother was both verbally and physically abusive to me and it was harder to get over the verbal part.

having experienced both, both hurt. Ohysical wounds heal, the slow mental games that tear down the very core of who you are takes a LOT loner to heal or recover from. BUT having had stitches, briuses, and fractures, pysical hurts more in the short term.

May be get a life partner that makes him happy, and may he leave me alone forever.

verbal abuse may be worse as it can have more longterm psychological damage than a bruise that fades,...unfurtunately from my own experience

So sorry, I had a really, really great counselor post divorce who helped me put togehter enough pieces of me to make a nearly whole person. Albeit a VERY untrusting one.

I am so sorry for your pain!

Thanks, it is largely a bad memory now. I DO have lingering affects, I cannot stand to see any person being screamed at, I have a violent reaction and have to leave the area. I cannot be surprised-AT ALL. Hubby tried it once and I nearly clobbered him with the hammer I was holding. And not a good idea to sneak up on me. Ever.

Otherwise mostly normal. LOL

I am glad to hear that you have dealt with it as best as you can, and that you have moved on. Abuse, regardless of the form it takes, is an ugly, horrible act. And I think that most all of us are never more than "mostly normal" lol. Peace be with you and you husband.

P.S. I promise, I will NEVER sneak up on you. :-D

post divorce is bad,but unfurtunatelly i still battle issues with my mother,you can chose a partner,you dont choose parents,when abuse comes from your parents what do you do? i tried to hate her,i've pittied her,tried not to think of her,or think of her as unhappy person who doesnt know better or cant help it,tried to ignore it,forget it,but it still keeps creeping up on me,not sure if the damage done would end even if she no longer was in this world,but she is. i've moved the country,but i can run all i want,distance doesnt help as she can upset me no metter how far she is.....

That is a battle I fight. M birth mother lives 40 miles away and we have no relationship. What worked for me was just ignoring her. I told my dad years aog that I loved him, but would no longer allow verbal abuse, or guilt as a means of him acquiring pity. If they want to have a grown up relationship fine, if not, see ya later. I do really well with NOT having to interact with her, I see my dad occasionally, but he is always pleasant. The bad parts-well, I just remember they are a product of the parents that raised them, and I use the tricks my counselor taught me NOT to take their burdens on.

Here is a tip: If I try to hand you a wad of trash, you have a choice-take it or don't. Same with their abusive or guilt trip behaviours. Refuse to accept it, just tell her-no thanks on the side of abuse and control, have a nice day and we will talk later, when you are in a better mood.

It doesn't take that long of you politely hanging up or walking away for them to understand they have to change their behaviour.

You are quite correct. :(

Physical abuse may hurt more physically at the time than verbal abuse, but they both carry the same amount of emotional pain which can last for years to come. In many cases, the verbal abuse actually hurts more emotionally and for longer periods of time than physical abuse because the physical abuse can sometimes be just a blow to the ego and be physically painful, but sometimes the person being abused knows that the abuser is a bad person and did something messed up. Verbal abuse attacks the psyche and can lead to a lifetime of emotional consequences. But really, it doesn't matter which is WORSE, they are both terrible.

Physical abuse can leave both visible and psychological scars that last a lifetime. Verbal abuse leaves psychological scars that also can last a lifetime. Both can become self-perpetuating generation after generation.

you cant erase those scars

No, you can't, like I'm going to have to carry those scars to my grave. Thing is, my verbal abuse happened when I was mentally handicapped and the laws back then when my abuse occurred were quite lenient compared to now, so I had to take it the best I could. But because of the verbal abuse I went through, I still have problems. Not as many, thank goodness, but they are still there.

Only a pansy would think it was the same .

Uhh..They are the same people can commit suicide because it it if you didn't know.There are alot of things to consider that happen when someone is verbally abused and physically.

People who would commit suicide because of something somebody said to them are idiots anyway. I wouldn't miss them.

Verbal abuse leaves scars on the women's self esteem and it's hard to recover from the feelings of worthlessness.

It isn't only wives who go through it... many times women verbally abuse their husbands. They usually accompany reminders that women have all the power in court if he tries to divorce her. Such was the case with me. She was right. I tried to get her away from me and our kids, but I got the shaft because she lied in court and got away with it.

Oh I know,but mostly women are the ones getting the abuse.

Mostly, it is women who come out about it. Women have more choice to admit it, because most people are ready to sympathize. I know more men who take it from their wives and keep quiet about it (due to a feeling of shame at the helplessness of not being able to change their situation) than men who abuse their wives. And in some cases, it is mutual, because the two are the same type of people.
I'm not trying to say you are wrong, I'm just trying to spread awareness.

verbal abuse is horrible. they are both terrible, but verbal abuse really gets to you. something you say could ruin someone's life.

i said the same but i think physical is worst because while verbal can be painful, you cant die from it but you women are killed by physical abuse

Verbal abuse was the reason my parents got divorced. Physical abuse affected my grandmother and multiple aunts. Both are very traumatizing.

The thing with marital verbal abuse is it generally starts with somehting small-like"that skirt looks terrible on you" then "You look tired and not very pretty" then "you are so lucky I married you because you are too ugly for anyone to want you" It escalates and wears your mind down and then your confidence, and then you just give up. It is insidious. and without a good counselor it can become a pattern of choosing men who run you down. Pysical heals, verbal takes help to recover from.

Very true.

of course!! bruises can heal, while words cant

They're (NOT) really the same, but then again we all have our own opinions so I'm not going to denie what y'all think but I will say this: It depends!...always depends. And why is it always a guy doing it to a lady in all the pictures?

the brusies will go away but the mental damage is forever

they r da same. verbal ok yea sure is comin outta da mouth. but physical is usin a part of ur body. i got bullied badly 4 bein different & not bein able 2 do normal fings my classmates did. & i used 2 get my arse kicked everyday & told dat i was a disgrace 2 mankind. so i promised myself i wuld get all them kids 1 day. & i did a few days b4 secondary skool. i kicked all of there arses & plus i didnt lose 1 days sleep over it. oh & i didnt get a detention bcoz i was technically off of skool grounds LMAO! Oh & da bullies were really scared of me everytime i saw them & it still makes me smile. PMSL

cuz you feel it alot longer

All abuse is the same. I've had both, and IMO, the verbal is much worse. The physical is bad enough, but the pain eventually fades. Verbal abuse is more insidious- it gets into your head, becomes the truth to you if repeated enough, and affects you your whole life if those mental tapes don't get changed through therapy.