Do your parents try to control your life?

Well my parents are worse than any other. They never taught me how to get friends, that's why I'm a loner. They buy bad discount stuff and use 50 coupons a day, force me to be a good kid and they are making me do things for the community. Both my parents are part of the reason why I'm considering suicide or running away.

aw, gosh. please do not commit suicide. While right now you're not in the happiest state you'd like to be in, just think about how much better things will get. If it's as you say, you're parents being a bit controlling, then just think how much better things would get once you get away from the problem, the variable, in this case your parents.

Live for now, do good for now, so you have the best of futures'. Give up now and you won't have the best selections, and most quantity, of choices. The more choices, the happier your future will be!

Please don't give up. While it sounds cheesy, perservere!

My dad is the one who thinks im still his 9 year old little girl, but my mom really doesnt care as long as she knows what i am doing. I appreciate all that they do but it gets kinda of tiring when they try to be in my social life

They never tried to control me, they tried to guide me through the massive pitfalls of life, but pretty much let me make my mistakes. I made quite a few, but I am getting better at identifying them before I hit them.

And I hold the utmost respect for them for loving me enough to keep me from destroying my chances of living a good life. Several of my friends considered their parents "controlling" too, and now regret it. Not finishing school, being arrested, having kids when you're a kid, or loosing your drivers license, doesn't look good on your resume.

sort of my dad tries to pick my friends, and crap!

oh ew, that must be really annoying :/

Not my dad, but my mom is kinda strict. I know she's trying to help me, and I appreciate that, but sometimes she really needs to let things go.

yeah same with me! Lol and I always tell myself that when i have children i am NOT treating them that way haha, I'd treat them as my equals, haha we'll see how that goes, i mean i guess you'd never really know til you have children yourself :)

Yeah, I guess so. I can sometimes see where she is coming from, bu more often I cannot. Hopefully one day I will have children and be able to see how that goes. :)

EQUALS? Are you SERIOUS? Do that, and they will eventually hate your guts. Kids NEED guidance and love, not a friend who doesn't care or encourages them to or when they screw up.

but the mom of my boyfriend controls him and tries to bring him to breacking up :(

she used to but not any more

They can be strict, but I'm really stubborn, and they know that I've got their moral view on most things, so they trust me not to do anything they wouldn't want me to, because I wouldn't want to myself. Because I want those things myself, I wouldn't think of it as them being strict because they never really have to say it to me :D

My mother always did and it made for a poor relationship and a lot of resentment! My father died when I was in my 20s, but he was the one who intervened with my mother and made life more tolerable while I lived at home. My mother's interference became less in the last 10 years as her mental and physical health declined. She died about a year ago.

Well, they try to control my life. I just don't let them.

She tries but I do what I want.

My dad would probably like to, but he lives two hours away! So I win:)

My mom worked her ass off just to make sure we could survive. She didn't have time to control anybody. Anytime she isn't working, she's sleeping. So, we were pretty much left to ourselves and tried to help as best we could. My mom is amazing and one of my best friends.

If it wasn't so pathetic (and the fact we all need our space, we're all pretty headstrong, so one home wasn't easy), I'd totally live with her the rest of my life. She may have done little Jedi mind tricks every once in a while, but we were doing them right back. Otherwise it was a pretty smooth relationship. In a way, she started us out and we just kind of raised ourselves. She treated us like adults and we acted like adults.

that's great! lol not the whole your-mom-working-her-butt-off... bit but she sounds like an awesome mother and the fact that you were treated like an adult is great, too! :)

Thank you! I didn't mean to brag, I just respect her for giving us space growing up (intentional or not). ;) Turns out if you give kids the room to step into responsibility, they usually will.

But only minimally and they mean well, i love my parents so a little over-protection is manageable.

Id call it more influencing..I'll admit they do have my well being at heart..But I just wish on somethings..I shouldve stuck to my guns & tried what I had wanted to do..Ive always had the 'acting bug'..I had wanted to be an actor after graduating high school..Im not saying that I wouldve been the next Pacino, Deniro, Nicholson, Hanks,Pitt, Cruise or Crowe..But I think I couldve been a a decent supporting actor..Always telling me 'be more realistic'.. Well, 5 yrs ago..I caught 'the bug' again..And Ive been in 3 very small, local, independant
films..Now, if I could just save up enough $$ to get out to LA..to get it a real shot..I will..Be-
cause this is gonna my motto..You gotta try to live & achieve your dreams..not just dream them..You'll hate yourself for not trying at all..Dont let others discourage you, even if it is family members (and even though they mean well)..You should try to find out if you have what it takes to live your dream..whether its being in my case, an actor..or professional athelete..a successful doctor, lawyer or business person..Yout gotta really try..I know,that Im gonna do that from now on..

Good luck!

Thank U..I need all the luck I can get..

If they did, I would be a very pathetic 23 year old...

They want what's best for me.

My family has no quality education.

They both had crap family lives, so now they are trying to make up for it with me.

not at all

Not anymore. I was on a half inch leash growing up. My parents were buddies with all my teachers and they talked. My half inch leash was on all the time.

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My parents always seemed happiest when they could sabotage my life for some reason....

but sometimes they wanted to know more things about my personal life(girlfriends..):)

They are now both dead but growing up was very difficult, my mother was a very difficult woman, domineering + controlling, a Tyrant really. I was out of there as soon as possible.

dad use to try to control me tell i moved outa the house, so im free now :D

they're dead

it's so annoying. I know they are trying to look out for me in most of the things they do, but it's also my life and if they try and protect me all the time I may not learn from some things that would actually help me in life.

fml -_______-