Do you think it's wrong to spank a child on the butt or hand?

NO

I think very controlled taps or swats is fine, enough to get their attention. If you leave marks then your crossing the line to abuse, and that is wrong.

I'm Old school but I wouldn't put a child through what I went through growing up. But i see nothing wrong with a TAMED spanking!!!

I think its worse if they learn there are NO consequences to bad choices/actions. A small smack on butt or hand is a reminder of this.

Spanking your child under controlled emotions and thouroughly explaining why they are being spanked is good and necessary discipline. However, spanking your child when you are upset and out of control emotionally is WRONG and can and should be considered abuse and has no positive results from it. If anything, your child will not learn anything except how mad you are at them.

There are plenty of ways to discipline a child without hitting them.

A smack on the butt or hand, not a beating, is sometimes the only thing that really wakes a kid up and makes them pay attention.

I choose not to simply because I think if your kids know your looks (like don't do that or else your going in the corner) is enough. Now if they run out into the street I would totally swat them on the butt. It scares them just enought to be like da fuq mom? I would only ever swat them if it was a dangerous situation that they keep trying to put themselves in. The only two circumstances I would think of is the stove and the street. So I would MAYBE spank my children twice in their lifetimes.

A swat on the fanny for a serious or dangerous act is sometimes necessary to make the case clear to a child under five. Never with a belt or board, just a swat with a hand and a stern talking to. This is only for things like playing with fire, walking in the street or heading for deep water. But if you are still walloping kids over the age of six, you are not raising them, just intimidating them. Frankly I think today's kids are lacking in structure and so they act out in ridiculous and dangerous ways. If you wait until a kid is a teen to impose some order and structure, when they should have those internalized, you have lost the war.

hell no! some these kid's in this generation need there ass whooped good...... these muther's are freaking out of control with there lack of respect..........

Some children do not have a mature enough mentality to understand what they are doing is wrong or respond to verbal warnings. Negative reinforcement is needed at that point and only as a last resort.

it doesnt sound like abuse to me

mmhmm, the answer choice summed it up! :)

For one, if you are hit hard on the butt or hand it really hurts. And that is what I remember when my dad spanked me a few times. Not what I did wrong, but fuming anger at being hit, but being taught that hitting is bad behavior. Why was I allowed to be hit then? That is what I thought at my very young age. Ages 4 to about 7. For some reason my dad thought when you reached a certain age it was no longer ok. Hum? I love my dad and he's a great person, but this I will never understand about him. You can't hit your child, even just on the butt (it hurts just as much as anywhere else) and teach a child not to hit. I certainly learned from my own experience not to hit. Because I remembered how I felt and I would never want to do that to another living being.

Wow I just looked at spanking a whole new way. No I would never have done it but I always thought it was fine if you chose to do it. Makes sense the way you explained it.

If you felt anger after then it probably wasn't a hard enough spanking.

Um, my dad spanked extremely hard. So much so all I could think of was the pain and anger at it. How can you say I should have been hit harder??? That is horrific. Good day.

Maybe your Father didn't have clear guidelines as to what would be the terms to constitute a spanking. Clear rules need to be given and spankings should never be done while the spanker is angry. You set time aside for the punishment once things have cooled down. You break the rule then you have no reason to be angry that you are getting a spanking, it was your bad decision. Also during a good sound spanking the child should be brought to tears by the end of the spanking. Believe me when my daughters get a spanking they cry, we hug after, then it is over. There is not a hint of anger and they are very sorry for what they did and it never happens again, usually.
Good day.

Wow thats a response from someone ignorant.

A spanking is supposed to hurt, duh. If it didn't then it would be a butt massage which would probably be considered perverted and sexual abuse. Time outs are for sports not discipline. Kids have become bratty little potty mouths ever since Dr. Spock wrote that stupid book to spare the rod. Do what you like but when my daughters get out of line which is hardly ever they go across my lap for a well tanned backside!

Yes. I slapped my little girl once almost 30 years ago and I felt so bad about it, I never laid a hand on any of my kids ever again. I believe that hitting a child teaches them that hitting will help you get your way. It's never okay to hit a child....ever.

A spanking is not a beating, it's really just more of a harder tap.

But, parents aren't doing that now,
and they call it ADD,ADHD, and
MEDICATE THEM!
a 'lil spanky on the bottom' won't hurt them!

My mother used to hit us with a big wooden spoon as a last resort....so i think its ok..

It is a parents responsibility to discipline their child and sometimes their child does need a spanking. When it comes to spanking a child one must understand that there is a big difference between a spanking and a beating. Also before spanking them it is important for them to know why they are getting spanked you can also talk to them about their spanking after spanking them. The reason why they were spanked, why it was wrong must truly understand these two things for spanking to be an effective punishment

I've seen too many montrous children who don't get proper discipline. Some of their parents eed to be spanked for allowing their long and extended tantrums in public.

nope. that might be one way a child can learn their lesson.

I was reared this way, and guess what, it works.

with lots of love thrown in too.

With this qualifier:

Only a parent should lay his own hand on a child's hand or seat.

A teacher, or other person acting in loco parentis, must use an impersonal symbol of authority, and use it wisely. My favorite: the Board of Education--made of wood, and applied to the seat of learning.

We need more physicial discipline. I was as a child. Seems the "next" generations just become more violent & think they are owed.

It didn't harm me to know my limitations.

Children, especially younger children, cannot be reasoned with and often the only way to get them to understand unfortunately is through pain.

Love Bill's thoughts on discipline

It is also OK to spank a beautiful woman. I have volunteered to spank Sandra Bullock whenever her family calls and asks for my help!

too funny

Thank you. Sandra is my celebrity crush!

On the flip side, I volunteer to smack the poop out of Nancy Pelosi. With as much poop as Pelosi has in her...

Does Nancy wear diapers?

Perhaps she does to keep her poop from oozing out of here pores and...