Do you think it's ever appropriate to tell your partner he/she needs to lose weight?

by Tudie BN Posted 2013/01/30 18:14:27

Related Topics: Friends, Weight, Questions, Need, tell, Friend

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	Yes	134 votes	72%
	No	27 votes	15%
	Undecided	17 votes	9%
	None of the above	8 votes	4%

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Robbb 2013/01/31 07:39:24

Yes

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My wife needs to loose weight. her weight interferes with her health and I would rather put of going to her funeral for a while, After 43 years I would hate to have to break a new one in.
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Dawn 2013/03/01 17:48:52

Yes

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You just have to do it right. Don't focus on the weight per se, but the problems that come with being over weight. I don't mean five or ten pounds "over weight" because it depends on how tall the person is, if they are muscular or have pencil stick limbs (because muscle weights more than fat. Two people of the same height could weight differently and have different body shapes due to exorcise & genetics), but if they're 20, 30, 40 lbs + then the extra weight can become a serious health issue.

Inform them what being heavy can do to their health, offer to go on a diet with them, go for walks or lift free weights.

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JET 2013/02/10 16:32:45

None of the above

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Only if you need a lump on the side of your head and like sleeping alone.

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Tudie BN to JET 2013/02/10 23:20:05

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JET to Tudie BN 2013/02/24 16:02:31

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You're most welcome.

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Masaca 2013/02/06 07:53:20 (edited)

Yes

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Yes, of course. I would want my significant other to be as healthy as possible, and to live a long life. From what I understand being overweight can cause health issues.

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Tudie BN to Masaca 2013/02/06 10:39:38

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Thanks Masaca !

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⚜3rd Street Boss⚜ 2013/02/05 03:03:32

Undecided

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If it's necessary for health yes

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Tudie BN to ⚜3rd St... 2013/02/06 07:49:13

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Thanks 3rd Street Boss !

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Mark 2013/02/04 07:34:24

Yes

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Sonofason said: "Are you trying to encourage murder?"

Then he blocked me. What a coward. Blocking someone usually means they are intimidated by another person's logic.

There are Christians that believe in following god's law. You choose to obey the law of man instead of god's law. You are not a real Christian. And do you advocate the death penalty?

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Tudie BN to Mark 2013/02/06 07:49:32

Thanks Mark !

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Elz 2013/02/03 23:18:56

No

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not in a mean way.

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Tudie BN to Elz 2013/02/06 07:49:51

Thanks True Scorpion !

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Barbara 2013/02/02 21:57:50

No

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The "you" of the person I fall in love with is encased in their body, in whatever shape that may be. If it was a health issue, I would try to encourage them to eat healthy and fix healthy meals for them, but I would never tell them blatantly to lose weight or I won't love you anymore.

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Tudie BN to Barbara 2013/02/02 22:38:38

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Thanks Barbara !

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xcheshirecat 2013/02/02 01:30:59

Yes

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his weight is my business too since I have to have sex with him. And I did one time. He was angry after a while of not losing it at all that I wasn't into sex with him anymore. Would masturbate alot, but never wanted to touch him. He went from 180 to 310

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Tudie BN to xcheshi... 2013/02/02 03:25:09

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gregaj7 2013/02/01 22:17:54

Yes

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If needed. Most times they already know and need the positive help to accomplish said task.

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Tudie BN to gregaj7 2013/02/02 22:38:08

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Thanks gregaj !

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kudabux 2013/02/01 20:52:48

Yes

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Very, very carefully.

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Tudie BN to kudabux 2013/02/02 03:24:14

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Thanks kudabux !

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kudabux to Tudie BN 2013/02/02 14:53:50

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Katfish 2013/02/01 19:01:54

Yes

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Its called "truth".

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Gยเtคг Plคאєг ( JFK Democrat ) 2013/02/01 11:14:17

Yes

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Being Over/Under weight is not healthy and if you love someone even if not a partner but a very good friend, you should be honest with them.

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Tudie BN to Gยเtคг ... 2013/02/02 03:23:55

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Thanks Dream Warrior !

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Racquelle 2013/02/01 08:00:42

Yes

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Being very overweight carries significant health risks

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Tudie BN to Racquelle 2013/02/02 03:23:40

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Edensasp 2013/02/01 07:26:20

Yes

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But then its also depends on how it is addressed. A true partnership would allow each of the partners to express their concerns for the health and well being of one another, which also includes excess "weight" health risks. Doctors charge big $$$ to tell you that you need to lose weight if you are over weight.... If it makes you feel better... Pay your partner the 100. Co pay doctor visit and save your insurance provider some money.

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Tudie BN to Edensasp 2013/02/02 03:23:22

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Thanks Edensasp !

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ServantOfAllah 2013/02/01 03:58:05

Yes

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Yes. Sex is part of most mating type relationships. excess fat ruins it. it's unhealthy and gross. if your man is being a douche, tell him. if he's getting too fat, tell him.

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Tudie BN to Servant... 2013/02/01 05:04:07

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Thanks Foxhound !

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lisa 2013/02/01 02:16:05

Yes

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yes because of health issues..n diabetes and true concern for their life n well-being..As long as it is done in private and tactfully.

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Tudie BN to lisa 2013/02/01 05:04:25

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Caedus01 Sith Lord of the P... 2013/01/31 23:20:52

Yes

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when it is for health reasons

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Tudie BN to Caedus0... 2013/01/31 23:33:27

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Dane 2013/01/31 22:18:38

Yes

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tell a helpful truth. just saying

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Tudie BN to Dane 2013/01/31 23:33:10

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John 2013/01/31 22:10:38 (edited)

Yes

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there is a point where too much weight becomes dangerous/unhealty and it is necessary to talk about that

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Tudie BN to John 2013/01/31 23:32:51

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C-ZAR™, Emperor of the PHÆT 2013/01/31 21:49:16

Undecided

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I wouldn't bet on it, but if you can be tactful and avoid hurt feelings, then more power to you

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Tudie BN to C-ZAR™,... 2013/01/31 23:32:34

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Thanks C-Zar !

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