Do you think it is alright for a step parent to spank their step children?

Give them free reigns? As opposed to keeping your spouse on some sort of disciplinary leash? Give me a break. You post makes it sound like a step parent goes around looking for any reason to spank a child.

Sarcasm

Not sarcasm.

"Give them free reigns? As oppossed to keeping your spouse on some sort of disciplinary leash?"

Saying things that are the opposite of what you mean is considered

Sarcasm

(By the way, you spelled opposed wrong)

saying things the opposite of whats meant is irony and not sarcasm.

My answers again are not sarcastic they are meant to be illustrative of the line of thinkign some people are choosing to go by.

By the way I spelled opposed right.
op·pose /əˈpoʊz/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[uh-pohz] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation verb, -posed, -pos·ing.
–verb (used with object) 1. to act against or provide resistance to; combat.
2. to stand in the way of; hinder; obstruct.
3. to set as an opponent or adversary.
4. to be hostile or adverse to, as in opinion: to oppose a resolution in a debate.
5. to set as an obstacle or hindrance.
6. to set against in some relation, esp. as to demonstrate a comparison or contrast: to oppose advantages to disadvantages.
7. to use or take as being opposite or contrary.
8. to set (something) over against something else in place, or to set (two things) so as to face or be opposite to one another.
–verb (used without object)
9. to be or act in opposition.

"As oppossed to keeping your spouse on some sort of disciplinary leash?"

Sorry, but you spelled it oppossed

It's opposed

And I'm not stupid!

Oh yeah, by the way

sarcasm

Main Entry:
sar·casm
Pronunciation:
\ˈsär-ˌka-zəm\
Function:
noun
Etymology:
French or Late Latin; French sarcasme, from Late Latin sarcasmos, from Greek sarkasmos, from sarkazein to tear flesh, bite the lips in rage, sneer, from sark-, sarx flesh; probably akin to Avestan thwarəs- to cut
Date:
1550
1: a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2 a: a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual b: the use or language of sarcasm

I know what it means

What you are quoting still is not sarcasm. It is illustrative. Try looking up that definition.

Yes, you are right again, no sarcasm here at all, just common sense facts. I have been a step-parent for 17 years, only had to spank one step-son once, and then never again. My husband only had to spank my son once, then never again. Thank goodness, my step-son's natural mother, told their father that I was the best mother for her children. It took time and patience and love to get these boys respect and love first before any discipline action was considered.

If I had any children at all, they lived under my roof, and were to abide by my rules, then yes. Follow the rules, do what you're supposed to, and respect.

Oprah says that the step parent should act as a close aunt or uncle. So, if Oprah says no, then no.

Seriously? I can't even fathom where to begin with a statement with a foundation like that. I'll try starting out this way... Are you of your own mind?

ummm...I'm not. why would you say that?

the way you worded your answer made it sound as though what Oprah says is Gospel. Although I suppose before judging you like I did I should have enquired if you were being fecicious and for that I apologize. I just hope you dont every decision in life on what Oprah says.

One could do much worse than have Oprah as their mentor. She is an intelligent, ambitious, and amazing woman. She does more charity work than anyone I can think of, gives more money away than any celebrity, and helps people on a daily basis. Hell, she even got American women to start reading again. I was a guest on Oprah in 2004. I had a serious crystal meth problem as a teen that lasted nearly 6 years. If it wasn't for Oprah, I doubt I'd be alive right now. She saved my life and continues to call and check in on me to this day. I know people like to use her as a punchline, but Oprah really is the best role model I can think of. I can't thank her enough for saving my life.

I see nothing wrong at all with having someone as a mentor. I only get concerned when I see what appears to be blind faith put in people that they can not be wrong or even at the very least questioned.

[....]

First i really don't think spanking solves alot of issues. I firmly believe that a parent is a parent. There is no "step parent" in my vocabulary. My husband has raised my oldest son with me and he is the only father he has really known. So i consider him to be his dad. So both parents are equal as far as i am concerned. Now if something happens that is extremely dangerous, if my husband needed to swat someone's butt then so be it. I would want my child to know that (for example) running out into the road is dangerous ect....otherwise we always used time outs ect...

Yes, my husband, and our 5 children don't use the words "step-parent", or "step-child". Especially since we have been together as a very happy family for 18 years, and all of the children grew up together, under the one roof.

spanking period should be a last resort, and for a step parent to do it absolutely not

I would never let anyone put their hands on my kids. I don't care who it is. That's my responsibility. That's why they're my kids.

So only your money goes to feeding and clothing your children, right? Do you have a separate account for the care of the children or do you allow those financial responsibilities to be shared so its less of a burden on you in that matter?

Sarcasm

I guess that was the answer that my husband and I had. In our case, my ex-huband, my children's natural father, never paid child maintenance, and never fed, housed or clothed or educated our children. My husband's ex-wife has also never paid child support, or helped to feed, cloth and educate her two boys. They both had no objections to us disciplining them however we saw fit!

Never spanked my kids....They are fine......

If they need it

but my stepkids REALLY need it

do they are they spoiled or mentally disabled

It's just not right.

you are so right

I agree with Fef ....if the step parent can not discipline as a regular parent how else is he/she going to be respected...Seen it happen folks....not pretty at all.

My children have a step dad. But that is the dad they know. And we do not believe in spanking. So I would say when it comes to spanking. I think its up to the parents even if they are step parents.

The "step" part doesn't matter. The child (and parents) should accept the new situation fully or not at all.

oh noes the children are rebelling

Then they certainly need spankings!

there thuging our neighborhood

No, The "Step" Part does matter. If your spouse divorces you and the are your step children, you will never see those children again. So how can you possibly say that?

While married, I believe the biological parent should give the step parent authority to raise the kids. Getting re-married helps the parent get two-parents to help in the parenting. The original parent, who got re-married, should trust the new spouse with the kids -- or don't get re-married.

Well Then You Will Have To Accept If The Child Does Not Want To Be Parented By You. You Have No Legal Right Over These Children. They Have A Mom, They Have A Dad, They Have People Telling Them What To Do All Day At School. The Last Thing A Child Needs Is Another Person Telling Them What To Do.

I was never a step parent but my daughters (now 40 & 44) had a stepdad from the
time they were 5 & 9 years old. He spanked their butts quite often and they both turned out
fine. I saw them 1 week-end a month (maybe) and for two weeks in summer so they were with him (and his responsibility) all but maybe 25 days a year. We (he, their mother and I) come to an agreement that the discpline should be in their home and since he was the head of the household in their relationship my daughters went across his knee numerous times through the years