Do you sympathize or condemn a teen who drives drunk and gets killed?

by W_C Posted 2008/04/11 01:31:48

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	Sympathize...	15 votes	15%
	Condemn...	17 votes	17%
	A combination of both.	66 votes	67%

Cody James Murphy, 17 was killed when the car he was driving rolled over on the PCH.

One of the kids released to his parents told police he and his friends had been drinking near the Santa Monica Pier before the crash.

Police found an empty liquor bottle, a marijuana pipe and an empty canister from a medical marijuana dispensary in the car

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Denny 2008/04/11 01:39:20 (edited)

A combination of both.

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Sorry bout your luck there goes the gene pool. When I was in the service at Ft Knox we had a bus of kids coming back home from Kings Island and a Toyoto pick up was going down the on coming traffic lanes at 70. He hit that bus at 70 and knocked the front axel through the fuel tank and 30 some kids burned to death. Our town was stunned. I can feel for them a lot more than I do for the drunks. Sorry.

The Toyoto driver lived.
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allenberg 2008/05/15 01:29:30

A combination of both.

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It's to bad he did both. No sympathy for drinking. Sorry he died!

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Kanaka Rican - Now's the ti... 2008/05/07 15:36:02

Sympathize...

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I pray for the families and I pray my kids don't choose to drink and drive or become victims of a DD.

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Jennifer 2008/05/02 21:27:07

A combination of both.

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Well I'm just glad there was nobody else killed... But then again feel bad because they were young and stupid.

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reita bandetta 2008/05/02 00:16:10

Condemn...

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If all the people in the world dank and drove then we all would be dead i think it is sad when teens or any one drinks and drives or just drinks because they can kill other people or there kids sooo people out there should think before they act

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Koli 2008/04/24 22:02:22

A combination of both.

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well, i feel bad that he died.
but he should have known better.
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Gun665 2008/04/24 08:07:30
reminder 2008/04/22 01:10:36

A combination of both.

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I have to sympathize with any family that loses a child for any reason. It is tough to deal with.

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Lyssa 2008/04/21 13:47:08

A combination of both.

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It's sad that they died and in such a terrible way, but at the same time they should have known better.

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littlebuffalo55TBA 2008/04/21 00:39:48

A combination of both.

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Sad reality! I think of the times I did it and got away with it! It was never right it's a poor choice that too many make!

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sojo 2008/04/20 23:26:52

A combination of both.

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I think we have all been touched by this issue. As long as there is alcohol and cars, this will be a reality. We all know better, but there will always be someone out there that thinks they are O.K. to drive. Sad, but true.

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Sister Jean 2008/04/20 23:23:07

A combination of both.

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as I am sure we have all known friends and relatives who have done the same,it just so very sad

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cappsy has a barcode ~_~ 2008/04/20 23:12:39

A combination of both.

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I sympathize because there had to be something to make him do those things but... everyone knows you shouldn't drink and drive or do drugs at all. but who am I to judge?

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NICKI70 2008/04/18 03:28:58

Sympathize...

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I dont think all kids can think or understand how one wrong choice can impact their lives. And besides we were all kids once..And the human brain is not even done growing untill the age of 21..I feel for anyone who gets into this situation,it could be my kid one day.My heart goes out to the families.

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F. 2008/04/17 20:56:50

A combination of both.

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I just think that they made a bad choice of driving after, but we all make mistakes, especially when we're drunk and high, and just luckily this time they didnt hurt anyone else

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Apachehusky 2008/04/16 01:51:44

A combination of both.

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I feel for the familys left, but nothing for them. I got clean & sober 22 years ago if I can do it anyone can

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bsull 2008/04/15 19:13:46

A combination of both.

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It's sad, but they shouldn't be drinking in the first place. Tough question.

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katiegoering 2008/04/15 17:53:00

A combination of both.

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Sympathize with the family, perhaps. Depends on the situation there. Do the parents allow their teens to drink? Many do and even provide the alcohol. Do they use marijuana? How did the teens get medical marijuana?

First, I don't think that marijuana has anything to do with it. I don't use myself, but have been around plenty of people who do, and they are harmless. I have yet to see such slow reactions from that to cause an accident. Drinking is the real problem here. Were all of the teens drinking? If not, why didn't one of the others drive home. Why didn't they call their parents or another sibling or friend to drive them? I feel sorry for the families because they have to live with this. Someone should have been available to drive them and not condemn them.

However, we are all taught to not drink and drive, so there has to be some condemnation here. It does no good to condemn the dead driver, however. If the parents knew about the drinking (that their teen drank), then they should be condemned for allowing him to have a license to drive. In Virginia, parents have control of that until the teen is 18. We can take their license away if their grades are bad or if we don't like who they hang out with or whatever. It would have been a good idea here. But if the parents knew, then they sort of condoned drinking and driving, didn't they?

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KOKO 2008/04/14 02:53:19 (edited)

A combination of both.

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I find it hard to sympathize with a selfish Murderer I am so glad in this case he only killed himself he could have killed an innocent family I don't wanna judge him I do not think he deserves this or hope that any drunk driver kills themselves however our system is hardly doing anything about this I know of a third time DUI offender that got 3 months in jail a third time attempted murderer which is what he really is should get 5 or more years but molesters don't even go to jail that long America Sucks And I sympathize with his Family they can't control him and they might not of known, either way they lost someone they loved and will never see him again. and are most likely ashamed, some of us do stupid things survive and grow up I'm so sorry for him that he didn't get a chance to mature and grow up some never change anyway age doesn't always bring maturity

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Animals R better than humans 2008/04/14 02:48:22

A combination of both.

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I've lost friends to stupidity like that. When I was a teenager, peer pressure was everywhere & I seriously doubt that times have changed. This is a heck of a lesson to learn the hard way. I'm glad that was one of the few things I didnt have to learn the hard way. The parents have to be going thru hell!

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Leethal 2008/04/14 02:00:03

A combination of both.

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Condemn if he hurt anyone else, sympathy if it was just him

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lobear00 2008/04/13 19:48:33

A combination of both.

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Its a very hard lesson to learn, and to live with.

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Lucifer's Angel 2008/04/13 11:54:03

A combination of both.

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I feel bad for the parents of the teen... but not for the teen that chose to drink and drive!

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Old Timer 2008/04/13 02:43:46

A combination of both.

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These kids are educated about what they're doing. They know that they are free to make the choice. What they dont understand is that they are not in control of the outcome. I grieve for our undisciplined youth.

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NObama08 - "Fed up with gov... 2008/04/13 02:39:32

A combination of both.

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I feel deep sorrow for the family and friends who have suffered the loss but I have no compassion for the drunk driver. I wish it didn't happen at all but I must say that I'm glad is it was the drunk driver who got killed and not someone who was in the wrong place at the wrong time.

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Keli 2008/04/13 02:26:14

A combination of both.

ive been in that kind of situation

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stevenusa 2008/04/13 02:09:32

A combination of both.

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its always a loss when someone losses thier chid, i have lost 1 of mine already so to see a young person who does it almost on purpose you get mad at the waste and your sad for the loss. i feel the the parents and siblings if there is any.

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wolfshadow 2008/04/12 23:49:46 (edited)

Condemn...

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Teens, like all persons are old enough to know the ramifications of drunk driving. I don't care if teens drink, as long as they do it responsibly, and yes I believe that is possible. No one should drink and drive and if they die in the process, sorry but thats what happens. My sympathy is for those that get killed by Drunk drivers, not the drunks driving.

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leya black 2008/04/12 21:30:03

A combination of both.

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it would have to be both because no he shouldnt have been drinking but honestly the kid died i mean maby there was something going on no one really knew about

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W_C to leya black 2008/04/14 21:41:34

such as what?

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Mikitty☆彡(SHARP) BN-0-WAWU 2008/04/12 21:29:37

A combination of both.

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first i would say good for e'm shouldn't be drinking and driving but then i think about it what if it was one of my family members

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►Cesar◄ 2008/04/12 21:08:18

A combination of both.

is their fault anyways

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jljohn 2008/04/12 20:14:37

A combination of both.

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We never believe it will happen to us. I smoked heavily for 35 years. I have been on the road to quitting for the past 5....I make it..then I go back..then stop...it's disgusting...but I will eventually get there. I have emphyzema and there is no going back..the damage cannot be undone. I was told 5 years ago that in 10 15 more years of this I'd have to have a lung transplant if I didn't stop. I've prayed...I've tried all the drugs...it's horrible. Right now I am trying not to start back again. Point is....with all the warnings....I was young..I never believed anything would happen to me. My daughter is a nurse and she started in on me when they told me that both lungs were covered and that all of us have an extra one third of lung and that mine was just about gone...she said lung transplants were horrific. I have no intention of taking a healthy lung that someone else needs who has probably never smoked. So...when my time's up...it's up. I did this to myself...I've talked to young people about it..to no avail. It truly crept up on me....I never dreamed it was this serious.
We all do it about one thing or another. A child is lost....nothing is sadder.
Stiffer penalties could help I suppose...but no matter how high cigs get...I always managed to get them. Thank God my children for som...''

We never believe it will happen to us. I smoked heavily for 35 years. I have been on the road to quitting for the past 5....I make it..then I go back..then stop...it's disgusting...but I will eventually get there. I have emphyzema and there is no going back..the damage cannot be undone. I was told 5 years ago that in 10 15 more years of this I'd have to have a lung transplant if I didn't stop. I've prayed...I've tried all the drugs...it's horrible. Right now I am trying not to start back again. Point is....with all the warnings....I was young..I never believed anything would happen to me. My daughter is a nurse and she started in on me when they told me that both lungs were covered and that all of us have an extra one third of lung and that mine was just about gone...she said lung transplants were horrific. I have no intention of taking a healthy lung that someone else needs who has probably never smoked. So...when my time's up...it's up. I did this to myself...I've talked to young people about it..to no avail. It truly crept up on me....I never dreamed it was this serious.
We all do it about one thing or another. A child is lost....nothing is sadder.
Stiffer penalties could help I suppose...but no matter how high cigs get...I always managed to get them. Thank God my children for some unknown reason never smoked. Whether it's drinking...talking on a cell phone...keeping your mind somewhere other than the road...we all are guilty of being less than smart. I feel for this family....perhaps this young man's death...will save others.
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rhstarr 2008/04/12 15:39:28

Sympathize...

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Yea what he did was wrong as far as drinking and driving. I mean have they not seen the news about adults that drink and drive. But you have to feel for the parents. Loseing a child must be hard. I would not know, but I lose friends in high school and I know that their parents were deperssed for years.

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Jax° 2008/04/12 13:44:55

Condemn...

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I pretty much condemn them they shouldn't have been driving the way they were so it is there fault.

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Brat Simpson 2008/04/12 11:42:48

A combination of both.

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The teen should have known better, but that doesn't help the family. I pray for the family, no matter the circumstances death of a teen is difficult.

I think everyone realizes and knows they shouldn't drive drunk, but once they are drunk they think they're ok.

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Radlad 2008/04/12 11:23:42

A combination of both.

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I'd have to ask a question. Did the teen just kill himself? Or did he/she take one or more with 'em?

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Brandi 2008/04/12 07:45:38

A combination of both.

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No one should ever drink and drive, luckily these people didn't kill anyone. But at the same time I sympathize with those who have to loose a loved one because they were too stupid to realize they shouldn't get behind the wheel.

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Jane 2008/04/12 03:30:06

Condemn...

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I don't sympathize them at all. It was their own damn fault.

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Brenda 2008/04/12 03:13:52

A combination of both.

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I Condemn drunk drivers of all ages, but it sadens me deeply when a teen is killed. Where is the adult supervision?? So many teens today are raising themselves. In California we have raised the driving age to 18, I think its a great idea!

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Dodie 2008/04/12 02:06:23

Condemn...

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this has to be stopped. Teens are not GOOD drivers to start with as they do not have experience and when they drink all common sence goes out the window. he should have his license revoked forever.

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