Do you know the Traditional Marriage History

☥☽✪☾DAW ☽✪☾ 2012/01/23 02:16:03
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the origins of the word marriage Comes from the word Maier which means Bonding social unions under law

Marriage (or wedlock) is a social union or legal contract between people may also be called matrimony. People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, libidinal, emotional, economic, spiritual, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of commitment

Marriage, as we know it in our Western civilization today, has a long history with roots in several very different ancient cultures, of which the Greek, Roman, Egyptian, Babylonian, Persian, Hebrew, and Germanic are the most important. Western marriage has further been shaped by the doctrines and policies of the medieval Christian church, the demands of the Protestant Reformation, and the social impact of the Industrial Revolution.

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When we look at the marriage customs of our ancestors, we discover several striking facts. For example, for the most of Western history, marriage was not a mere personal matter concerning only husband and wife, but rather the business of their two families which brought them together. Most marriages, therefore, were arranged. Moreover, the wife usually had much fewer rights than her husband and was expected to be subservient to him. To a considerable extent, marriage was also an economic arrangement. There was little room for romantic love, and even simple affection was not considered essential. Procreation and cooperation were the main marital duties

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On the other hand, it may surprise many modern couples to learn that in earlier times divorce was often easily granted. Here again, men usually had the advantage when they could simply dismiss their wives, but in many instances women could also sue for divorce. In ancient Rome couples could even divorce each other by mutual agreement, a possibility that has not yet returned to all European countries. Another notable historical fact is the nearly universal stress on the necessity of marriage and the resulting pressure on single persons to get married. This pressure was partially lifted only under the influence of Christianity which, at least for some time, found a special virtue in celibacy. Christian doctrines have, of course, also had their effects on marriage itself


The marriage laws and customs of ancient Rome are not easily summarized, because they were rather varied and underwent significant changes in the course of time. Still, without simplifying the issue too much, one may say that marriage and divorce were always personal, civil agreements between the participants and did not need the stamp of governmental or religious approval. Early in Roman history, a husband had considerable power over his wife and children, whom he could punish, sell, or even kill as he saw fit. However, eventually women came to enjoy a better legal position and gained more and more control over their lives and property. Thus, in imperial times husband and wife approached marriage as equals. Yet it seems that there was also a decline in marriage and birth rates, since the emperor Augustus found it necessary to pass drastic laws compelling people to marry and penalizing those who remained single. There were several forms of marriage, the first of which (by usus) involved no ceremony at all. It was established simply by the couple's living together for one year. Divorce was just as informal. A more formal kind of marriage (by coemptio) began with a ceremony in front of witnesses and was also dissolved with a ceremony. Members of the upper classes usually preferred an elaborate ceremony and thus married by confarreatio in front of ten witnesses and a priest. In the case of a divorce, another great ceremony was required. However, all three forms of marriage and divorce were equally valid. All marriages were monogamous. Both men and women usually entered their first marriage in their late teens.
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While the Romans tolerated prostitution and concubinage, and had no qualms about homosexual relationships, their marriage laws were remarkably fair to women and thus greatly contributed to their emancipation.

As we can learn from the Bible, the ancient Israelites had a patriarchal family structure. The status of women was low—they were regarded as the property of their fathers or husbands and could do nothing without their consent. The main purpose of marriage was procreation and the perpetuation of a man's name. Every healthy person was expected to marry. Single men and women were despised. A man could have several wives and concubines. (Jacob married two sisters, Leah and Rachel, and Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines.) Divorce was not encouraged, but permitted if a man found some "uncleanness" in his wife. In such a case, he simply wrote her a bill of divorce and sent her out of his house (Deuteronomy 24:1). However, it was virtually impossible for a wife to divorce her husband.


The gradual emancipation of marriage and divorce laws from the control of the church resulted in greater individual freedom and further raised the status of women. The parents began to lose influence over the marital choices of their children, and romantic love became an important factor in marriage. Even so, for most couples until well into the 19th century marriage was still basically an economic arrangement. Moreover, the husband was usually the one who profited most, because he was the "head of the household" and controlled his wife's property. He also had many other rights denied to his wife and was favored by a moral double standard that allowed him considerable sexual license. Under the circumstances, women continued to press for further reforms, a process which even today has not yet fully reached its goal.


Before June of 1967, sixteen states still prohibited interracial marriage, including Virginia, the home of Richard Perry Loving, a white man, and his wife, Mildred Loving, a woman of African-American and Native-American descent.

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Nine years prior, in June 1958, the couple traveled to Washington, D.C. -- where interracial marriage was legal -- to get married. When they returned home, however, they were arrested and sentenced to one year in jail for violating the state's Racial Integrity Act.


According to court documents, the trial judge suspended the Lovings' sentence for a period of 25 years on the condition that they leave the State and not return to Virginia together for 25 years. He stated in an opinion that:

Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And, but for the interference with his arrangement, there would be no cause for such marriage. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.
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After spending five years in Washington, where Richard worked as a bricklayer and where the couple had their three children -- Peggy, Donald and Sidney -- they sought out the help of a young attorney named Bernard Cohen who was volunteering at the time with the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU). The Lovings requested that Cohen ask the Caroline County, Virginia judge to reconsider his decision, a move that would lead to one of the civil rights movement's most pivotal moments: the legalization of interracial marriage.

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"They were very simple people, who were not interested in winning any civil rights principle," Cohen told NPR in an interview marking the 40th anniversary of the Supreme Court's decision to overturn the conviction of Richard and Mildred Loving.

"They just were in love with one another and wanted the right to live together as husband and wife in Virginia, without any interference from officialdom. When I told Richard that this case was, in all likelihood, going to go to the Supreme Court of the United States, he became wide-eyed and his jaw dropped," Cohen said.

In June 1967, the court unanimously declared Virginia's Racial Integrity Act of 1924 unconstitutional and ended all race-based marriage bans in the U.S.

During Richard and Mildred's epic "Loving v. Virgina" legal battle, LIFE magazine photographer Grey Villet traveled to Virginia to cover the case, but his photos offered a more intimate look at the couple and their family, their dedication to each other, daily life in Virginia and the countryside they cherished.


Timeline of civil marriage in the United States
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1830 – Married women are granted the right to own property in their own name, instead of being owned exclusively by the husband, in Mississippi.
1848 – Married women are granted the right to own property in their own name in New York.
1856 – The platform of the Republican Party refers to polygamy as one of the "twin relics of barbarism" (alongside slavery).[1] At the time, polygamy was a practice of some Mormons. (See Mormonism and polygamy.)
1862 – The United States Congress enacts the Morrill Anti-Bigamy Act, signed by Abraham Lincoln, which made bigamy a felony in the territories punishable by $500 or five years in prison.
1873 – The Supreme Court rules that a state has the right to exclude a married woman from practicing law.
1874 – Congress passes the Poland Act, which transfers jurisdiction over Morrill Anti-Bigamy Act cases to federal prosecutors and courts in Utah, which were not controlled by Mormons.
1879 – The Morrill Anti-Bigamy Act is upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court in the case of Reynolds v. United States.
1882 – Congress passes the Edmunds Act, which prohibits not just bigamy, which remained a felony, but also bigamous cohabitation, which was prosecuted as a misdemeanor, and did not require proof an actual marriage ceremony had taken place. The law also allows polygamists to be held indefinitely without a trial.
1887 – Congress passes the Edmunds-Tucker Act, which allows prosecutors to force polygamist wives to testify against their husbands, and abolished the right of women in Utah to vote.
1890 – Mormons in Utah officially renounce polygamy through the 1890 Manifesto.
1900 – All states now grant married women the right to own property in their own name.
1904 – Mormons in Utah officially again renounce polygamy with the Second Manifesto, excommunicating anyone who participates in future polygamy.
1907 – All women acquire their husband's nationality upon any marriage occurring after that date.
1933 – Married women granted right to citizenship independent of their husbands.
1948 – California Supreme Court overturns interracial marriage ban (Perez v. Sharp).
1965 – The Supreme Court overturns laws prohibiting married couples from using contraception.
1967 – The Supreme Court overturns laws prohibiting interracial couples from marrying (Loving v. Virginia).[2]
1969 – The first no-fault divorce law is adopted in California.[2]
1971 – The Supreme Court upholds an Alabama law which automatically changes a woman's legal surname to that of her husband upon marriage.
1971 – The Supreme Court refuses to hear challenge to a Minnesota Supreme Court ruling allowing prohibition of same-sex marriage (Baker v. Nelson).
1972 – The Supreme Court overturns laws prohibiting unmarried couples from purchasing contraception.
1973 – Maryland becomes the first state in the U.S. to define marriage as "between a man and a woman" in statute.
1975 – Married women allowed to have credit in their own name.
1975 – Three states outlaw same-sex marriage by statutes.
1976 – The Supreme Court overturns laws prohibiting abortions for married women without the consent of the husband.
1993 – All 50 states have revised laws to include marital rape.[2]
1994 – 40 of the 50 states amend their marriage statutes to outlaw same-sex marriage.
1996 – President Bill Clinton signs the Defense of Marriage Act into law, which outlaws federal recognition of both same-sex marriage and polygamy, and removes any requirement that states recognize such marriages entered into in other jurisdictions.
1998 – Hawaii amends its constitution to allow the legislature to ban same-sex marriage, in response to a court ruling which would otherwise have allowed such marriages. Alaska becomes the first state to bar same-sex marriage in its constitution.
1998 – South Carolina is the penultimate state in the U.S. to remove the ban on interracial marriage in its state constitution.


2000 – Nebraska amends its state constitution to outlaw same-sex marriage and polygamy.
2000 – Alabama becomes the last state in the US to remove the ban on interracial marriage in its state constitution.
2002 – Nevada amends its state constitution to outlaw same-sex marriage and polygamy.
2004 – Massachusetts grants and recognizes same-sex marriages, while 14 states rush to outlaw same-sex marriage and polygamy through their state constitutions in response.
2005 – Texas amends its state constitution to outlaw same-sex marriage and polygamy.
2006 – 26 states outlaw same-sex marriage and polygamy through their state constitutions.
2008 – New York starts recognizing same-sex marriages performed in other places but does not grant such marriages. Connecticut begins granting same-sex marriages. California briefly grants same-sex marriage until the passage of Proposition 8 later in the year, but continues recognizing marriages entered into prior to the proposition's passage. 29 states outlaw same-sex marriage and polygamy through their state constitutions.
2009 – Iowa and Vermont grant and recognize same-sex marriages; the District of Columbia starts recognizing same-sex marriages performed in other places but does not grant such marriages. Maine rescinds planned legalization of same-sex marriage by popular vote.
2010 – New Hampshire and the District of Columbia grant same-sex marriages. Maryland recognizes same-sex marriages performed in other jurisdictions.
2011 – New York begins granting same-sex marriages.Mabon

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  • James 2012/01/23 03:00:20
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    It's only a matter of time before all men and women are treated equal in this country. Take the fight back to the Neocons!

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  • Angela Chambers 2012/08/17 16:16:11
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
    Angela Chambers
    What about dog marriage. I'm all for it.

    dog marriage
  • moomoof 2012/08/17 15:27:15
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    2000"Alabama becomes the last state in the US to remove the ban on interracial marriage in its state constitution"

    I am sorry but i have a special kind of hate for that state

    This is why i don't believe in marriage and i will never believe in it
  • Glfer65 2012/08/17 15:24:36
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    This is more about the soul part of marriage not the business part. We must include the fact that if two people really do care about the other person no one should interfere with it regardless of their race, nationality, religion, morals, etc.
    Viktor Frankl, a renewed psychologist and a Holocaust survivor married a second time after the war, (lost his wife in a concentration camp) to a nurse who was Catholic and he being Jewish.
    He always stated he believed religion should not keep people apart if they love each other truly.
  • schjaz 2012/08/11 18:42:03
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    From what I understand, there was no reason nor institution of marriage prior to the Hebrew patrilineal system was instituted. When the Goddess was God, there was no marriage.
    Sorry, DAW....didn't have to time to read the whole thing...really pressed lately.
    Thanks for the post. Love ya.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... schjaz 2012/08/17 16:07:06
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    Actually that is incorrect

    The Origins of Marriage Traditions and how Marriage is a PAGAN Institution
  • schjaz ☥☽✪☾DAW... 2012/08/17 19:43:04
    I never said it was a Christian institution. Goddess was God first. There was no marriage when she was God. There was a matrilineal system and no reason for marriage. Judaism and Islam insisted there be a marriage to control the women. The only pagans that married were the Indo Euopeans...Aryans. I believe the Hebrews were influenced by them. You must mean it comes from the Indo Europeans? I think they married their girls off at 12 years old. Poor things. Not exactly how we think of marriage to be. More like a barter system but if you want to think of it as marriage, ok by me. Then yeah, the CONCEPT of marriage is pagan.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... schjaz 2012/08/17 20:04:11
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    Traditional Marriage According to the Bible
  • LovelyLady 2012/08/06 23:24:07 (edited)
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
    I don't mean to...well, to trout on Christianity, however: maybe this is why it is taking longer than it should to legalize same-sex marriages. Christians have had a lot of forced marriages in their book, none of which seem to be revolved around loving your spouse. Kill your fiance because "She" not "they" aren't virgins before marriage? Integrated marriage against the bible? The kin of Abraham was neither white nor black! That goes the same for Jesus Christ himself.
    How utterly horrible.
  • Glfer65 LovelyLady 2012/08/17 15:20:05
    DAW has presented parts of the bible where even one of Christ's followers was sleeping with his daughters. I believe it was Leviticus and this part the "Christians" tend to stay away or not want to talk about it.

    This is why we have such people touting the other parts so loudly so no one catches on to the other parts that stain the good word. Society needs to know that marriage is not about an institution but about the love each one has for the other.
  • LovelyLady Glfer65 2012/08/18 00:59:34
    Beautiful words, darling. Society does need to wake up and realize.
  • Glfer65 LovelyLady 2012/08/18 14:47:53
    But until then WE need to pound the reason why we are here. This is meaning in a good way not berating them or such but just tell them "Hey, please look around you and see what is going on."

    Humans are first of all people of all races, nationalities, etc. Are we supposed to be like Hitler or other leaders who feel that we should be a single race??
  • LovelyLady Glfer65 2012/08/18 22:30:09
    We are for sure not all of the same race, sir! I am half French and half Japanese, I understand this concept well. I solemnly swear: I will not stop protesting others saying "marriage belongs to a man and a woman".

    Marriage is a spiritual ceremony and trying to grasp something of such spiritually is well...bluntly arrogant! It's like those fools who stick their flags in a soil and say "I own this land!". For sure the land does not, we belong to the Earth who feeds, nurtures, and tolerated foolish stomping upon it.

    I do enjoy conversing with you.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... LovelyLady 2012/08/18 23:16:21
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    The Origins of Marriage Traditions and how Marriage is a PAGAN Institution
  • Glfer65 LovelyLady 2012/08/19 13:40:34
    I want to be clear on your first line, we are as you said of different races and I am half Dutch and half Italian. So I do understand your stance on marriage. However, you also do not seem to be using the bible out of context to prove it which is refreshing.

    But don't you think it prudent if you want respect you also have to give it to those who wish to be with the same sex? The one thing that truly bothers me are those claiming tolerance and yet disrespect a group of our human race.

    DAW is a very well versed in the religion history and has shown many valid points and historical facts that say otherwise of many so called truths. I approach life with both eyes open and no blinders as the world needs to rethink how they treat each other.

    Thank you for your comments and respectful in nature.
  • LovelyLady Glfer65 2012/08/19 15:19:59
    A little prudent. However, I must think that its frustrating to want something like marriage and a union between each other, and not be allowed to do so. But, I do think that by the context of indicating something to the effect "you should accept same-sex marriage" can be unfair. People chose to side with same-sex marriage. Even though it does not benefit them per say. I believe it discredits those willingly to accept it, and I do believe it hurts their feelings. Probably those who want a marriage partner too, but the others are trying to help fight it as well.
  • Glfer65 LovelyLady 2012/08/19 16:50:40
    Never looked it that way but yes it does tend to hurt more than help those who actually want it. I guess saying doing more harm than good fits this.

    I feel we are one but with different personalities which makes us unique.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Glfer65 2012/08/18 23:11:39
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    thanks i did a ton of Research
  • tashap 2012/08/06 19:47:59
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
    Marriage is def not to be entered into lightly however as long as we allow others to tell us what's right and wrong or acceptable and unacceptable there will undoubtedly be marriage without love by people trying to live up to the standards of society leading to high divorce rates and miserable people who have and raise miserable children who grow up and contribute to a miserable society. I myself have been turned off by this and only when I had met someone that completed me entirely did I even humor the thought of a second marriage. To each his own whatever makes you personally happy. When everyone stops trying to do things "right" and when we let love guide us then marriage will have a solid meaning. As of now its whatever society tells us its allowed to be. Marriage like life should be approached from a position of love.
  • kevracer 2012/08/06 19:03:48
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    cavemen slugged the woman of their choice over the head with a club and took them home. Works for me

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  • bucket 2012/07/09 00:02:09
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    my marriage was very traitoinal
  • Dolly 2012/07/08 00:24:13
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
  • John Hall 2012/07/06 14:07:17
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
    John Hall
    Not really big on the definition of traditional marriage if 2 people love each other and they marry and are happy that's all that matters to me .
  • mandyinabox 2012/07/06 06:22:19 (edited)
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
  • Lucy Sparkles :3 2012/05/03 17:41:10
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
    Lucy Sparkles :3
  • Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:16:53
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
    I think it was jumping over a broom. And throwing rice over your back. And you could only marry someone in your race. Also i think women could not work back then.They had to be stay home mothers.Well the fathers work.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:19:54
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    women for thousands of years worked there have been many famous women inventors writers in history farmers fisher man Warriors etc
  • Honeybuns ☥☽✪☾DAW... 2012/04/25 00:21:01
    Oh ok i was not sure about that. I was just guessing.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:29:31
    ☥☽✪☾DAW ☽✪☾
    Some of the most Feared Warriors in the world were not men but Women

    Amazon warriors of Greece Zanki Warriors of Egypt Celtic kni of Ireland and scotland Viking Warrior women Roman Assassins Persian Deftmoun Women warriors trained since birth
    Women are far better at bow and Arrow then men and have better aim with Guns
    women in World war 2 were assassins and Snipers on both sides of the war
  • Honeybuns ☥☽✪☾DAW... 2012/04/25 00:32:15
    Wow women are better then men. We are way braver and stronger. Women history is so intresting.I have never heard about these women. They always talk about the men.
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:33:30
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    The Legend of Hevor Viking Princess and the Tyrfing
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:34:15
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:34:47
    ☥☽✪☾DAW ☽✪☾
    The Legend of the Valkyrie Sisters
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:35:55
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... Honeybuns 2012/04/25 00:37:43
    ☥☽✪☾DAW ☽✪☾
    other Examples are Joan of Ark she was French woman warrior

    List of women warriors in folklore

    Annie Oakley, was a sharpshooter and performer
    Calamity Jane was a frontierswoman and professional scout best known for her claim of being a close friend of Wild Bill Hickok, but also for having gained fame fighting Native Americans.

    Laura Bullion, was an outlaw and a member of the Wild Bunch

    Li Xiu defeated rebels as a military commander.
    Lady of Yue a swordswoman

    Qin Liangyu fought battles with her husband.

    Sun Shangxiang was the sister of the warlord Sun Quan, is often depicted as a tomboy, as she received extensive martial arts training and her maidservants were armed with weapons, which was odd for her time.

    Lady Zhurong Its unknown if she existed, but she was the only woman portrayed in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms who took part in fighting in the war during the three kingdoms period alongside her husband.
  • Republican Ladder 2012/04/19 04:56:43
  • Scream Republi... 2012/07/06 04:40:21
    ...Sorry, what? That was a tad hard to read.
  • KaylaE 2012/04/07 16:17:39
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    You should only enter marriage if you truly love the other person It shouldn't matter if it's an interracial couple or a same sex couple All people deserve to be happy and if that makes them happy then who really cares It's nobody's concern but their own
  • ☥☽✪☾DAW... KaylaE 2012/04/19 01:32:14
    ☥☽✪☾DAW ☽✪☾
    the point of this poll is to educate people on the history of marriage
  • Rubyking 2012/03/31 23:33:22
    Where there's marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.
  • joe ramirez 2012/03/30 16:37:31
    Marriage is not to be entered into lightly.
    joe ramirez
    I guess you were there in the Garden of Eden when God instituted Marriage, between one man and one women?

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